Guilt Triping

[wewontdie11]

I am aware there is a "Worst thing you've done to another person" thread but this will hopefully be a bit different.

Guilt is probably one of the less glorious human emotions but probably one a lot of people can identify with strongly, the most.

Have there ever been times when you truly felt bad for your actions. Not just regretting them but I'm talking full guilt, where you feel responsible and remorseful for another person's hardship.

I bring this up because I am currently guilt tripping to the max. My friend is moving down to London over the weekend, and soon after that, again to Bolton and tonight she was supposed to be having a bit of a leaving party at her house. I had agreed to try and attend, circumstances permitting, and to bring along a few friends. Unfortunately I didn't count on only getting 2 hours sleep and a hangover the night before. This coupled with a 9-5 day of laborious laboratory work meant I was pretty much zombified by the time I got home, so I decided to text my friend and tell her that I didn't think my higher brain functions were working and I probably wouldn't be coming, unless she wanted me to just collapse in a corner when I got there. I got a fairly pleading text back, pretty much begging me to go, which after some consideration I had to decline because I really was dead from the neck up.

So then I go take a little nap to refresh myself, wake up and check her myspace. Hmmm that's strange, why is she signed into myspace when there's supposed to be a party...

Turns out that only one person, her best friend, actually went out of the 20 or so people that were invited. So this poor girl who is leaving her supposed friends behind to move to the other end of the country and half way back just got her last night in town ruined, and I feel like complete shit because of it. I will find a way to make it up to her though.

So I ask you what is the thing you've felt the most guilt over?

Also have you ever been guilt tripped into something unjustly?

 

[Ago Iterum]

Your story is so coincidential to my situation right now. It's one of my best friends 18th birthday, and I'm totally ill. And I was meant to be organising his night out tonight...

 

[wewontdie11]

Your story is so coincidential to my situation right now. It's one of my best friends 18th birthday, and I'm totally ill. And I was meant to be organising his night out tonight...

Oh dear...

If you really are properly ill there's nothing you can do I suppose. Plus I bet another one of your friends will take up the responsibility for you.

 

[Ago Iterum]

Your story is so coincidential to my situation right now. It's one of my best friends 18th birthday, and I'm totally ill. And I was meant to be organising his night out tonight...

Oh dear...

If you really are properly ill there's nothing you can do I suppose. Plus I bet another one of your friends will take up the responsibility for you.

That's the problem. My role in my social circle is 'stuff maker happener', whenever I don't organise things, things don't happen. I had a massive fallout once with my best mate because I hadn't organised him to go out anywhere in ages.

The guy was 17 at the time! Pshh.

 

[wewontdie11]

That's the problem. My role in my social circle is 'stuff maker happener', whenever I don't organise things, things don't happen. I had a massive fallout once with my best mate because I hadn't organised him to go out anywhere in ages.

The guy was 17 at the time! Pshh.

That's my role more often than I'd like it to be as well when I think about it. If it wasn't for me most of my mates would just be sitting slowly degrading in their houses all day.

 

[Ago Iterum]

That's the problem. My role in my social circle is 'stuff maker happener', whenever I don't organise things, things don't happen. I had a massive fallout once with my best mate because I hadn't organised him to go out anywhere in ages.

The guy was 17 at the time! Pshh.

That's my role more often than I'd like it to be as well when I think about it. If it wasn't for me most of my mates would just be sitting slowly degrading in their houses all day.

I'm an organising king honey, I'll organise rings around you any time any place. Awwwh yeah.

 

[Pimppeter2]

I seriously cant steal something without feeling really guilty, I can lie to someones face though.

 

[Trivun]

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.97215?page=2#1512472

I know that it is extremely shameless, posting this link on a guilt-tripping thread, but I definitely feel the need to do so, and if I get banned then that's OK because at least I'll have got my point across, not intending to provoke the mods of course, but this is definitely worth the wrath of the moderators.

However, I should definitely make a valid input to this thread as well. I don't usually get guilt-tripped over things, but I admit that I find it tough to walk past homeless people in Leeds city centre. I would donate money to them, but of course you never know what it'll be spent on and it won't do any good in the long run. However, I've decided that if I can get more information about the homeless charities in Leeds (I know there are some because I read an article about homeless people in Leeds in my student newspaper) then I can pass on that information when I see homeless people next time I'm out. It'll do them some good and hopefully mean they can get off the streets and live a decent, normal life again.

 

[Gooble]

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.97215?page=2#1512472

I know that it is extremely shameless, posting this link on a guilt-tripping thread, but I definitely feel the need to do so, and if I get banned then that's OK because at least I'll have got my point across, not intending to provoke the mods of course, but this is definitely worth the wrath of the moderators.

However, I should definitely make a valid input to this thread as well. I don't usually get guilt-tripped over things, but I admit that I find it tough to walk past homeless people in Leeds city centre. I would donate money to them, but of course you never know what it'll be spent on and it won't do any good in the long run. However, I've decided that if I can get more information about the homeless charities in Leeds (I know there are some because I read an article about homeless people in Leeds in my student newspaper) then I can pass on that information when I see homeless people next time I'm out. It'll do them some good and hopefully mean they can get off the streets and live a decent, normal life again.

Yeah, I feel so bad walking past homeless guys, but I know that despite their suffering in the cold/wind/rain, I know they're not going to die. However, if any charity worker or homeless person comes up and starts actually talking to me, I simply can't say no. Even if I think they're going to spend it on drink or drugs or cigarettes hey-I'm helping out a fellow human being. Is that such a bad thing?

 

[pantsoffdanceoff]

I once stole some dude umbrella and then smacked him with it and it broke. In retrospect it really was a prick move.

 

[Trivun]

http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.97215?page=2#1512472

I know that it is extremely shameless, posting this link on a guilt-tripping thread, but I definitely feel the need to do so, and if I get banned then that's OK because at least I'll have got my point across, not intending to provoke the mods of course, but this is definitely worth the wrath of the moderators.

However, I should definitely make a valid input to this thread as well. I don't usually get guilt-tripped over things, but I admit that I find it tough to walk past homeless people in Leeds city centre. I would donate money to them, but of course you never know what it'll be spent on and it won't do any good in the long run. However, I've decided that if I can get more information about the homeless charities in Leeds (I know there are some because I read an article about homeless people in Leeds in my student newspaper) then I can pass on that information when I see homeless people next time I'm out. It'll do them some good and hopefully mean they can get off the streets and live a decent, normal life again.

Yeah, I feel so bad walking past homeless guys, but I know that despite their suffering in the cold/wind/rain, I know they're not going to die. However, if any charity worker or homeless person comes up and starts actually talking to me, I simply can't say no. Even if I think they're going to spend it on drink or drugs or cigarettes hey-I'm helping out a fellow human being. Is that such a bad thing?

By no means is it a bad thing, but if you clicked on the link or posted on that thread you'll have seen that there are other charities that do much better and their programs include aiding the homeless. Sorry to plug that thread again, but I just feel really strongly about that cause. However, moving away from my own thread, giving to the homeless is definitely good if it helps out a fellow human being, or just anyone in general, but I simply state that a much better thing to do is give advice and direct them to a place where they can get lasting help. Of course, you can always do that and give them money/food/clothes, and that is also good. Generally an act of charity is by definition, and even without a definition, a good thing, and should be applauded. I definitely get annoyed at some people who keep stating that "charity begins at home", like my parents do, whether it is true or not we should still make an effort to help other people in some way.