Guys; I've had enough.

[NaturalCauses]

I'll go out with you.

That was the point of this thread, right?

I wish it was that easy.

It is that easy if we make it so.

I just asked, and was ignored. On to the next random girl. They're everywhere.

Well, you know. It is the internet. Serious business. Internet relationships are a fickle thing.

You wouldn't happen to live in Vermont now, would you?

God that sounded creepy and stalker-ish...

Erm... That's in the U.S., isn't it? o-o' Nnnnnnnnope!

Just to let you guys know,

Thanks. This thread has helped me, and given me a lot to think about. There... is a guy in my Medieval Europe class who I really like since we met. He's into video games, he's really cute, and we even wore matching converse.

I think I'm going to ask him if he wants to 'do something sometime' on Monday, when I'll see him again. Thank you guys. :] It's easy to see why the Escapist is a great community.

 

[Daniel_Rosamilia]

Because I'm a clinically-diagnosed avoidant.

It pretty much means I'm always awkward being around people.
It's like a really really bad case of introversion.

But hey, if:
1. I wasn't insanely shy
2. I wasn't aviodant
I would have asked someone I really fancied out.
Oh, and if she wasn't already taken
But hey, in the wise words of Frank Sinatra, 'That's Life'.

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

I'll go out with you.

That was the point of this thread, right?

I wish it was that easy.

It is that easy if we make it so.

I just asked, and was ignored. On to the next random girl. They're everywhere.

Well, you know. It is the internet. Serious business. Internet relationships are a fickle thing.

You wouldn't happen to live in Vermont now, would you?

God that sounded creepy and stalker-ish...

Erm... That's in the U.S., isn't it? o-o' Nnnnnnnnope!

Just to let you guys know,

Thanks. This thread has helped me, and given me a lot to think about. There... is a guy in my Medieval Europe class who I really like since we met. He's into video games, he's really cute, and we even wore matching converse.

I think I'm going to ask him if he wants to 'do something sometime' on Monday, when I'll see him again. Thank you guys. :] It's easy to see why the Escapist is a great community.

I DEMAND A FOLLOW-UP THREAD DETAILING THE EVENTS AS THEY UNFOLD!

 

[Trent Lynch]

My advice, as i guy who's been with the same woman for almost two and a half years. Is ask the guy out. Intelligent gamers will (mostly) see themselves as unattractive geeks and nerds, and judging from your picture, they think they aren't good looking enough for you.

So go looking around campus for guys that look like what you're looking for and see if you can catch one of them looking at you. Then walk over and (here is the important part) establish a friendship.

Why is friendship more important than asking for a date right out front? He could be taken or just too busy to date, but friends are always welcome. Once your in the friend zone and he is comfortable talking with you, let him know you like him and ask him on a date.

This is what my girlfriend did. It worked for her and I know I would have been to shy to ask her myself. From reading above posts that's what most everyone else admitted, everyone of us is shy.

Edit: Looks like my post came a bit late as you seem to have started this already.

 

[NoNameMcgee]

This is where the bullshit about "nice guys finish last" comes from. These so-called "nice guys" are too shy and intimidated to ask out the pretty girl, or simply just don't know how to talk to girls, and as a result they fail and the girls end up dating the guys who do know how to talk to girls... Who are often assholes. But what do these "nice guys" fucking expect?? It's not because they're nice its because they are not confident and they're wimpy, which is unattractive to girls.

My advice? Well first I must ask why you want to date nerd guys in the first place? Most of them are immature misanthropes with delusions of intellectuality who fit perfectly into my description above. Look for the middle-ground guy, an interesting person with more than one hobby who is confident enough to talk to you and treat you well. Or, just date older guys.

 

[FallenJellyDoughnut]

This is where the bullshit about "nice guys finish last" comes from. These so-called "nice guys" are too shy and intimidated to ask out the pretty girl, or simply just don't know how to talk to girls, and as a result they fail and the girls end up dating the guys who do know how to talk to girls... Who are often assholes. But what do these "nice guys" fucking expect?? It's not because they're nice its because they are not confident and they're wimpy, which is unattractive to girls.

My advice? Well first I must ask why you want to date gamer guys in the first place? Most of them are immature misanthropes with delusions of intellectuality who fit perfectly into my description above. Look for the middle-ground guy, an interesting person with more than one hobby who is confident enough to talk to you and treat you well. Or, just date older guys.

NOOOOOOOOOO! I have enough trouble getting chicks without you telling them to go for more interesting/older guys!

 

[SantoUno]

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Well as everyone has said, it's not so easy.

But my reason for that is slightly different.

The thing is, we guys just can't ask a girl out right away. We have to get acquianted with that girl. If not, we are simply a stranger asking a girl out. Of course she'll say no.

Now for me, I do have the courage to ask a girl out, but my problem is I can't approach or simply talk to girls. Since I am in college, everyone is independent and keeps to themselves. Yeah we get to know some people every once in a while, but since all of us are there for our education, we don't have much of a chance to talk to others, especially when the pretty girl sits a few chairs away. What am I gonna do? Walk all the way over to her and sit next to her to try and talk to her even though she's a total stranger? That's very normal.

P.S. You do look very cute, I definitely would wanna go out with you if I was able to but 1) meeting someone irl that I found on the internet is never a good idea to begin with and 2) you never stated where you live. You don't have your location on your profile. If you actually wanna go out with someone from this site you should give your home country, state, and city. The closer, the better.

 

[Irridium]

You wouldn't happen to live in Vermont now, would you?

God that sounded creepy and stalker-ish...

Erm... That's in the U.S., isn't it? o-o' Nnnnnnnnope!

DAMMIT DAMMIT DAMMIT!
Where did you move to anyway? Europe, Mexico, Canada, Alpha Centauri?

Just to let you guys know,

Thanks. This thread has helped me, and given me a lot to think about. There... is a guy in my Medieval Europe class who I really like since we met. He's into video games, he's really cute, and we even wore matching converse.

I think I'm going to ask him if he wants to 'do something sometime' on Monday, when I'll see him again. Thank you guys. :] It's easy to see why the Escapist is a great community.

Well good on you! Hope it works out.

 

[NaturalCauses]

Well first I must ask why you want to date gamer guys in the first place? Most of them are immature misanthropes with delusions of intellectuality who fit perfectly into my description above. Look for the middle-ground guy, an interesting person with more than one hobby who is confident enough to talk to you and treat you well. Or, just date older guys.

Because gaming is my biggest passion. I have never met a guy who adores gaming as much as I do. I even have connections in the industry and want to get into it myself. I feel like if I did 'get with' a guy who was more into sports and that typical sort of stuff, we wouldn't be able to appreciate the same things.

In fact, I talk about gaming too much for my own good...

I am now inspired to ask out a chick. Thank you ma'am!

I'm glad, that's what I was hoping for.

I DEMAND A FOLLOW-UP THREAD DETAILING THE EVENTS AS THEY UNFOLD!

SUDDENLY, IRRELEVANCE, IRRELEVANCE EVERYWHERE.

 

[DefunctTheory]

you're in high school, and the sad fact is that most of the people your age (Including yourself) have not evened out yet socially, or personality wise.

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about such things until your 20. Any relationship below that will, most likely, be pointless practice anyway...

Ugh... 6 years...

Do I seriously look that young? The hell. I'm 19 and what is this

Whoops, missed the fact that the prom was LAST summer. My apologies (Though, yes, you DO look that young, combined with my refusal to get involved with those younger than I).

Hmm... this is more serious than I initially perceived...

First off... I'd argue that 50% of the population of the Escapist would not ask you out due to shyness (Sorry guys), and 40% would not due to age (Sorry, geezers).

But that's not the point...

At 19... its time to get proactive. Modern society has neutered men in many ways, primarily in the area of sexuality (And, in affect, flirting). So its time to use what feminism has given you: the right o ignore gender roles. Pursue what YOU want, instead of relying on male forwardness (Rare), or female 'hints' (Men don't notice most of those anyway).

The TL;DR response: There is no expected gender role in flirting and courting anymore. Take a shot at it.

 

[Paksenarrion]

My question to you is, why not go out hunting yourself? I chose my quarry carefully, tailing him a bit, then pounced. For most guy gamers, you just have to make yourself clear. I told mine, "I'm hunting you. You are mine. You have no choice." And he said, "...okay."

It helps that we're both into anime, and know the social formula for relationships: aggressive girl gets bespectacled guy.

I suppose it's not really expected of girls to go out hunting for boys. A pity.

Damn straight. I wouldn't mind if a girl asked me out, I don't see what the problem is with it anyway.

I think it's some sort of centuries-old social contract whereby it is the role of the "Man" to actively court the "Woman". To step out of such socially accepted roles is to invite ridicule.

You know what, though? I like kind, gentle guys. He defends my honor despite not being physically imposing, and that takes guts. He is the bravest person I know, short of Mr. Rogers, who happens to be Chuck Norris' grandfather.

That's why I claimed him, and that's why he's mine. And that's why I'll nut stomp anyone who says otherwise.

 

[NaturalCauses]

DAMMIT DAMMIT DAMMIT!
Where did you move to anyway? Europe, Mexico, Canada, Alpha Centauri?

Gallifrey.

...Time loop. Infinite plot holes.

You don't have your location on your profile. If you actually wanna go out with someone from this site you should give your home country, state, and city. The closer, the better.

Oh, hah. xD I'm not really interested in meeting people online. Too much effort- the gas, distances, etc.

 

[Mr Pantomime]

My problem is that I wasnt attacted to girls until a few months ago. So all my friends know what theyre doing when I comes to asking girls out and dating and such, and im just lost. Ill probably work it out eventually, but right now, im very confused.

Go ask out that girl you like. Please, do it now. If she says yes, dance; if she says no, get over it; if she says nothing, crack a bad joke. Why can't you just do it?

Ill try this k?

 

[NaturalCauses]

Go ask out that girl you like. Please, do it now. If she says yes, dance; if she says no, get over it; if she says nothing, crack a bad joke. Why can't you just do it?

Ill try this k?

Lolk. :] Have fun!

 

[khaimera]

I'll go out with you.

That was the point of this thread, right?

I wish it was that easy.

It is that easy if we make it so.

I just asked, and was ignored. On to the next random girl. They're everywhere.

Well, you know. It is the internet. Serious business. Internet relationships are a fickle thing.

You wouldn't happen to live in Vermont now, would you?

God that sounded creepy and stalker-ish...

Erm... That's in the U.S., isn't it? o-o' Nnnnnnnnope!

Just to let you guys know,

Thanks. This thread has helped me, and given me a lot to think about. There... is a guy in my Medieval Europe class who I really like since we met. He's into video games, he's really cute, and we even wore matching converse.

I think I'm going to ask him if he wants to 'do something sometime' on Monday, when I'll see him again. Thank you guys. :] It's easy to see why the Escapist is a great community.

It was fun while it lasted. Glad this thread has helped you.

 

[GwydeanRunix]

The problem I have with asking girls out is the whole "I know she's going to say no" thing. I'm not the most attractive guy, so I've always been scared of asking girls out, and my first reaction when I like a girl is that she's going to say no when I ask. The other problem I have is that every girl I've ever liked, I wait to long to either tell them I like them or ask them out. I get too far into the "friend zone" so to speak. For example, the girl I like right now, she's one of my best friends, and I seriously want to ask her out, I just can't. I don't want to ruin the friendship, and like I said, I just know she'll say no.

I got a little of topic with that, but that's why I'm afraid to ask girls out.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

Because I'm not tall, and in conjunction with that, not rich or famous.

Seriously, tall guys get all the sex (in my school at any rate), or at least, below-average height guys don't. My endearing Hugh Grant-like personality when it comes to girls also doesn't work like it does when Hugh Grant does it.

Also, most everyone in school is shallow. Personality isn't a prerequisite.

 

[GwydeanRunix]

snipiddy

Willow? No? ... Moving on then.

Why do we have to ask you out? No offense or anything but I am pretty sure 99% of guys would say "hell yeah!".

Were basically the same as girls, were shy insecure, nervous, low self esteem blah blah blah. It's okay thinking it's just you, but imagine a guy has had a crush on 5 or 6 girls and after years of waiting for just the right time for each of them, they all said "no", that guy is going to be crushed, so if all he is getting is rejection he won't bother in future and just enjoy the crush.

You totally just described my situation exactly. Except I've been rejected by 7 girls now.

 

[Nouw]

I do, I just get rejected...

*Hides in corner

Just be proactive. Don't wait, go!

 

[Lyri]

I think I'm going to ask him if he wants to 'do something sometime' on Monday, when I'll see him again. Thank you guys. :] It's easy to see why the Escapist is a great community.

Good start.

Now for some jovial stuff.