Have you ever cheated in a relationship?

[Vamantha]

I have never physically had sex with another person while in a relationship. I have been emotionally connected to other people while in a relationship. I don't think your cheating unless something physical happened, but if your emotionally pining for someone else you should probably take a look at your current relationship. The joys of learning the world of dating do's and don'ts.

I have been cheated on before at least twice. The first one was pretty hard for me and it was probably the turning point where I stopped dating for a long time and only wanted sex. During that period I hooked up with a guy for a friends with benefits thing. He was always pushing for us to be boyfriend-girlfriend thing and even asked me a couple times to marry him. I knew he was cheating on me with a couple different people. For someone who "was an expert at the internet" he sucked at hiding his adventures. It didn't bother me and he disappeared for six months. I later learned he did have a girlfriend. I broke off the FWB deal after that. Funny thing is six months later he contacted me again. Begged me for forgiveness, said he was going to leave his girlfriend for me, and all this other crap.

 

[manic_depressive13]

Nah, I would never do that. I don't think I'd be overly bothered about it if my boyfriend cheated on me. I'd be willing to talk it out and wouldn't reflexively dump him. However, even though it's not a big deal to me I know that it can be a big deal to other people, so I would just end the relationship if I ever felt the urge to sleep with someone else.

 

[Cranky]

I once cheated on my right hand with the my left one. I still haven't summoned up the courage to tell it.

I can relate to that, but I cheated on my left instead.

OT: It's quite terrible to cheat. I know I'd go into a manic depression if I ever was cheated on. It's one of the benefits to not being involved in relationships I guess.

 

[Vegosiux]

No, it isn't particularly psychopathic to have a bit of revenge against absolute scum.

"A bit" of revenge against "absolute scum"? Let's just say that's liable to go down to where we generally shouldn't want it to go. It never stops at "a bit". And it's never an "irredeemable, complete monster".

That said, I have had some colorful ideas for people who have wronged me in the past, one way or another...but, uh, acting on those would have been rather psychopatic, yes.

 

[Clearing the Eye]

Never.

Loyal unto death is my family motto, and I intend to keep it that way.

Get it tattooed across your back like a baws.

OT: I got dumped because I chose to play some more Star Wars: The Old Republic instead of have sex. I guess that's a form of cheating >_>

 

[Vegosiux]

No, it isn't particularly psychopathic to have a bit of revenge against absolute scum.

"A bit" of revenge against "absolute scum"? Let's just say that's liable to go down to where we generally shouldn't want it to go. It never stops at "a bit". And it's never "irredeemable, complete monster".

Yes, it can stop at a bit. And since when did scum mean complete monster?

I'm sorry, the use of the word "absolute" made me think you meant something along those lines. You know, absolutely bad, with no redeeming qualities.

 

[malestrithe]

I did not cheat with my then Girlfriend. I should have as that might have saved me years of misery being with a woman who I did not get along with. She took an opportunity to cheat on me and called it off soon after.

 

[Tsun Tzu]

I did. I wouldn't recommend it.

Nothing quite like a car door opening to a thoroughly angry mate, driving home while intoxicated (nearly ramming into a stop sign at 30 mph in the middle of the street) because you're genuinely worried she'll either hurt herself or justifiably destroy your possessions while simultaneously realizing the true depth of what you've done (and become), wind up throwing your monitor across the room because it seems like a good idea at the time, begging her to end it with you because neither of you are happy yet she somehow forgives you and you somehow continue the relationship...and she reminds you of it every argument since.

It's been a year. I'm still in this. I'm not quite sure how I got here.

Long story long; Don't do it, man up, and do what you have to do.



Also, on a related note, married women always liked me. (Current mate messed around with me while she was still married.)


Having experienced all of this, I've come to the conclusion that we're all sort of fucked up.

 

[Elate]

No.. Why would I? If I were going to do that, I would just leave them.. I never understood cheating, not in the whole "IT'S WRONG" kinda way but in the "what's the point?" if the relationship is THAT dead I would just leave them, and if it's complicated (i.e kids, even though I'm never going to have any) I would just plain out TELL my partner that I think we should remain together but see other people and such.

I don't understand what is wrong with people, cheating just causes extra stress, and the only time I could ever see it happening was if I was extremely drunk and did it by accident, in which case, if I remembered (I would have to be very drunk, probably have passed out) then I would come clean.

 

[chadachada123]

I used to be a massive douchebag to women (well, girls, as it was in high school).

I cheated on several girls, every time crawling back to the same ex and never feeling truly remorseful until after I graduated.

After graduation, and after being falsely accused of cheating on a girl that I truly liked, I started to think about my actions and the damage it caused, and stopped being a giant asshole to the girls that put their trust in me.

It just so happened that, perhaps as karma, I got cheated on by my next girlfriend in the most hurtful way I can imagine, who then ditched me for my then-'best friend,' giving me a heavy dose of payback for my past self.

Yeah. I don't cheat anymore. I did once right after realizing how horrible of an act it really is, and ended up puking the next morning out of utter disgust at myself. I'll never go back to that. I only hope that my future relationships are as loyal on her side as I will be on mine.

 

[FPSfanatic]

I have never cheated in a relationship, but I have been cheated on. It sucks. I wish there was a better description of it that was just as short, but everything involved with describing it gets into this long and flowing poetry, and I'm kind of tired and I really don't want touch on that, just look up romance poetry, half that shit will be poetry about breakups.

To put it simply, cheating should never be done. I have never understood the reasoning behind 'I hate this person, I don't want to be with them, but I'll stay in the relationship.' Maybe that's just how I was raised, with views on that, but I just never understood it. I can only say that you have to understand that unhappiness in a relationship on such a level that you really want to leave the person, leave. There are no chains that will keep you forever together, only your head and memories.