Have you ever "got" the girl/guy?

[Flamezdudes]

I'm not sure what you mean by working my ass off but I liked a girl for a few months and had developed a liking of her. I was there to help her with anything and eventually, for the first time I confessed my feelings to her in person and it actually ended up with her not liking me. But then, it turned out that she realized she liked me and she then confessed her feelings for em and we started dating.

Then we were on and off each week for atleast three times with her having to come to terms with going into another relationship again after what happened with her last one. I assured her of my feelings and then we started dating properly and are still together for atleast two months now.

It was hard at times, especially during the on and off period.

 

[Xaio30]

Ah, the mother f*cking "Friend-Zone" they bring up as soon as a choice has to be made.
Look girls, we men have no middle ground if we have to retreat. Either we love you or we don't.
And if a guy ever tells you that he's fine with going back to being your "friend", then he will still look for opportunities to make you love him.

 

[Ace of Spades]

I've made two attempts at a relationship in my life, the first of which didn't work out. The girl in question didn't share my affection, but she was so petrified of hurting my feelings that she went out of her way to avoid me, which led to some rather ridiculous moments where she would abruptly excuse herself from conversations whenever I would show up.

The second attempt worked out much better, and is still going on. We share similar interests and enjoy the same type of humor. Our personalities just mesh, but not so much as to be boring. So, to return to the thread title, yes, I suppose I did get the girl.

 

[Kurokami]

Nope. Always end up as the friend. Even the friend they complain to about awful boyfriends. It hurts my very being.

The worst part is knowing how cliched it is for me.

 

[Watchmacallit]

Only had two girlfriends.

First was a little psycho for me and I got the second one in bed about a week after meeting her.

So yeah, never worked for it...

 

[Stasisesque]

Actually, 'normal' is NOT being able to hook up with every person you've ever fancied.

Depends if you fancy them for who they are/know them quite well I think.

If you fancy someone for a completely superficial reason, rather than actually getting to know them and falling for/having a thing for them then, sure, you might strike out a bunch but if you are close to them already and like them there's a pretty good chance things'll be mutual.

At least from my experience.

Most reasons for wanting to hook up with someone are superficial, not quite sure what your point is. Claiming that it's normal to end up with anyone you've ever fancied is just wrong.

I didn't say it was normal, I said I was normal. Holy crap you people jump to the most depressing conclusions there are.

I am normal. I am just a regular, average, normal woman with no magic qualities that make every guy/girl want to date me. I am just like you, the person next to you, the person behind you - I may even not be as good as you, you might be a superstar actor for all I know. The point is, if I can do it, anyone can. Confidence is key.

 

[Rikkano]

Nope.

 

[Dfmlege]

Never managed to get the girl. The closest I ever got was in my junior year of high school, where I gave a girl I liked a stuffed animal on her birthday. And then she never talked to me again. Depressing, to say the least, but it was for the best.

 

[MisterM2402]

I think the first pro tip to most guys who have problems with women is: Try talking to women.

I totally agree with you, but it just sounds kinda paradoxical haha:

"To be able to talk to women, you need to get over your problems with women. But to get over your problems with women, you need to talk to women."

Another, similar, paradoxical situation that is damn relevant to my life:

"To get a job, you need experience. To get experience, you need a job."

[They both make me go FFFFFFFFFFFUUUUUUUUUU-]

 

[gazumped]

Once I spent a month guilt-tripping my ex into going back out with me. It worked, but as you can imagine, it didn't turn out to be a very good relationship.

 

[Still Life]

Met her a few weeks ago. Became insanely attracted, because she's special. Lover [sic] her, though she doesn't know that. Yet.

 

[Akyho]

I dont work for it. I restrain myself. Cos I am pretty bad when in an relationship let alone when I am not. So with to hardly known person acting the way I do. I would be very creepy.

However even with the opposite its gone bad. I have had two girlfriends. One came from a blind date the other was a friends sister that i got to know and were friends befor going out.

I have asked girls out and been rejected fine.

I have had crushes and acted cool, be nice and not try anything let them get to know me. And once i know them enough and if I think its worth a shot ask them out.

However still no success. I have asked out and been met with maby and we shall see next week...for two months. (I have learned that is a no. And its a very cruel no).

I have also been cool and talked to a girl alot. And up out of no were she stops talking to me. We had met first in person and made plans to meet up with other friends. Nope never happen. I did fumble on first impressions. And she found me too pushy and clingy.

We talked on Skype and we would have debates about things very nice and civil. She took them as arguments. Aswell as well when she started to ignore me. Log on skype and i would say Hallo. Thats all if she didnt reply at all i wouldnt badger her. If she dosnt or cant talk her choice.

Except this went on everyday for two weeks. I was doing is as an experiment. I then said "ok what? Are you ignoreing me"

I got a reply. and we talked it out. In the end she found me overbearing. Intrusive, Argumentive, pushy, and creepy. All the things I wasnt. She how ever felt that. and I complained it was a very bitchy thing to do as she did. She has all right to say "Id rather not talk to you ever." its her right to feel secure and if she didnt feel like that with me. Fine.

She did it very badly and made me feel terribe.

I had a checkout girl i was moments away from asking out. We had good conversations. Except this day i said "ill ask her out" a pushy old women kept butting in to say "cmon hurry up!" so i left and said next time. Nope turns out she left with in a week and i never got to talk to her again.

 

[Ordinaryundone]

Yep, several times actually.

It never works out though. Get about a year or two of good times, and then they go crazy :/

 

[Maxtro]

No, I've never managed to get a girl I was pursuing

It's so bad that the only girl I've ever kissed was a fat girl who had the hots for me. I was so desperate I basically put aside my standards. We basically made out for two weeks then she got over her little crush. I was 23.

I'm 30 now and haven't kissed anybody since. Every now and then I might get one date with a girl I like but in the end I always get, "I don't like you that way"

 

[Dags90]

Yup. He was "out of my league", too. A big muscly guy who enjoyed reading and writing. Crazier than a loon though. Still is.

 

[William Dickbringer]

I did right now I'm dating her we were training for a haunted house and we are both had little social skills and we just kept it secret for a while and one day our supervisor was asking people that if they were gonna ask off and teens went up and she was sad because she's home schooled and doesn't have dances so then I asked her to go to prom with me and...she didn't say anything about it then we went around to the other haunted houses and she got scared by one of the houses so then I gave her a hug at the end of it (which she said was when she first realized she was in love with me) later that night I find an email in my inbox from her asking if I was serious about asking her to prom and I said yes and asked her if she would like to go and she said yes and then I said would like to go out and then she said yes to that and we've been going out for 9 months

 

[Still Life]

Yup. He was "out of my league"

You can do better than that.

 

[Minch]

Reading over this, i totally realise how much easier it is for boys than girls. I'm female and in middle school i was a bit overweight, awkward looking and taller than everyone else, but still fairly confident and having a reasonably outgoing personality. My best friend was about ten times hotter than me, but with a very similar personality, and she always got the guy while i got to sit in the friend-zone, go figure.

In high school I lost all my puppy fat and become what i've been told is "attractive", plus i'm now considered one of the smallest since i got my growth spurt early and haven't grown since; i'm 5ft1. I became a little more confident after my first "successful" relationship, and went on to have a few more, but almost always ultimately ended up getting treated like shit. Now i'm in a loving relationship with someone i've known for years, but only recently gotten close to, and we love each other with all our hearts.

Basically for girls it seems like we have a lot of pressure on us aesthetically, and this is so wrong, coming from someone who has experienced both sides of the coin. I will point out that in middle school an absolutely lovely guy who was also one of my best friends was in love with me for four years, but i never felt the same and always seemed to pursue the "dickheads", and then once i became "attractive" it seemed like i managed to get together with a lot of dickheads. Sure there's some sort of meaning behind that.

sorry for long post