Have you ever "got" the girl/guy?
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Yep.
This was the only time I've ever met a girl and thought "She has to be mine." I chased her pretty hard and ended up getting her in the end.
We've since broken up (>2yrs together) but a few months later got in contact. Lately, we've been hanging out as well as "hanging out".
This was the only time I've ever met a girl and thought "She has to be mine." I chased her pretty hard and ended up getting her in the end.
We've since broken up (>2yrs together) but a few months later got in contact. Lately, we've been hanging out as well as "hanging out".
Yep, my first crush and girlfriend actually.
I spent a year totally crushed over her, then I finally come up to her and tell her, and she's like "Wha- you serious? Well, I don't feel the same way, sorry".
I get real depressed for a week or so, then I convince myself "Fuck her, she doesn't know what she's missing, move on", and so I did.
But little did I know, a month later, SHE had a crush on ME. I waited a few weeks just to be sure, then I came up to her, again, and this time she was like "Yeah
".
And [small]then we broke up [sub]one month later.
What? You were expecting a happy ending?[/sub][/small]
I spent a year totally crushed over her, then I finally come up to her and tell her, and she's like "Wha- you serious? Well, I don't feel the same way, sorry".
I get real depressed for a week or so, then I convince myself "Fuck her, she doesn't know what she's missing, move on", and so I did.
But little did I know, a month later, SHE had a crush on ME. I waited a few weeks just to be sure, then I came up to her, again, and this time she was like "Yeah
".And [small]then we broke up [sub]one month later.
What? You were expecting a happy ending?[/sub][/small]
Eventually yes, after I decided to be direct, she agreed to go out. It was a bit difficult at first because she had to sought out her feelings for me but she got passed that eventually and now it's one of the best relationships I've every seen with lot's a love and compassion etc. My advice to those in a situation where they have a crush. Ask them out, see what they say. If yes then be cautious and don't try to be too overwhelming. Give it time.
That's just in my experience but that sure as hell worked for me so it could be useful but depends on the individuals. Hope that helps.
EDIT: Also my first crush and Girlfriend and hers to. Seems highly improbable yes but that's how it happened.
That's just in my experience but that sure as hell worked for me so it could be useful but depends on the individuals. Hope that helps.
EDIT: Also my first crush and Girlfriend and hers to. Seems highly improbable yes but that's how it happened.
Nope. Three crushes so far, none went anywhere. Granted, each of these girls I know from online, though I've met all of them in person. No crush on anyone from my own country yet.
It's considerably easier for me to communicate with girls online (read; communicate with them online before actually meeting them) as I can't meet a girl and really hit it off from the get-go in person.
I get very internal panic-attacks and want to flee the scene ASAP, and tend to stay away from getting into such situations. I also loathe your usual partying, clubbing and the like; I'd rather be stuck in a dark tunnel full of mutants.
However, if I know a girl from online, and have a somewhat clear 'map' of their personality, likes and dislikes and whatnot, I have a much, much easier time talking with them.
As for looks, I guess I'm in the middle of the spectrum? I don't have any abnormalities or really grotesque features, though I'm somewhat on the skinny or lanky side. My last crush even once said I was "pretty hot", which at least reinforce my theory she only declined me due to distance, as we click pretty well.
Sigh, why do I have to live in Norway, girls here are either total drunks, twats or incredibly boring (I consider geeky girls not boring, those are yesplx). If I do hear about a nice, geeky, cute girl here, I just know she'll live about as far away as it gets. Just to tie together with my usual luck.
It's considerably easier for me to communicate with girls online (read; communicate with them online before actually meeting them) as I can't meet a girl and really hit it off from the get-go in person.
I get very internal panic-attacks and want to flee the scene ASAP, and tend to stay away from getting into such situations. I also loathe your usual partying, clubbing and the like; I'd rather be stuck in a dark tunnel full of mutants.
However, if I know a girl from online, and have a somewhat clear 'map' of their personality, likes and dislikes and whatnot, I have a much, much easier time talking with them.
As for looks, I guess I'm in the middle of the spectrum? I don't have any abnormalities or really grotesque features, though I'm somewhat on the skinny or lanky side. My last crush even once said I was "pretty hot", which at least reinforce my theory she only declined me due to distance, as we click pretty well.
Sigh, why do I have to live in Norway, girls here are either total drunks, twats or incredibly boring (I consider geeky girls not boring, those are yesplx). If I do hear about a nice, geeky, cute girl here, I just know she'll live about as far away as it gets. Just to tie together with my usual luck.
Yeah, mine only went for a few months but anyway, my friend was attempting to get with a girl he met through another friend of mine, I hadn't met her myself until I went with him and a few others to movies. Didn't think it went that well until after when she rang me after (I'd guess through a friend) and asked me if I wanted to go see another movie (Paranormal Activity 2) the next weekend. As I said, it only lasted about 6 months, seems she's the type who goes through boyfriends like tissue paper. Still think it was worth all the while though.
Well, once more I shall brag about how awesome my life is.
Yes. Yes I did.
Off to Splendour next weekend ^.^
Yes. Yes I did.
Off to Splendour next weekend ^.^
I was with the man I loved, then we broke up, he dated someone else (I didn't) we got back together, and he just broke up with me yesterday again. I know that I can't love anybody else.. its really depressing, to tell you the truth.
Sometimes it likes to fuck with your head. and I know how you feel. i wish i had my happy ending.Leole said:Yep, my first crush and girlfriend actually.
I spent a year totally crushed over her, then I finally come up to her and tell her, and she's like "Wha- you serious? Well, I don't feel the same way, sorry".
I get real depressed for a week or so, then I convince myself "Fuck her, she doesn't know what she's missing, move on", and so I did.
But little did I know, a month later, SHE had a crush on ME. I waited a few weeks just to be sure, then I came up to her, again, and this time she was like "Yeah
And [small]then we broke up [sub]one month later.
What? You were expecting a happy ending?[/sub][/small]
I would be more than happy to clarify this.Phasmal said:
The friends zone doesn't just mean you are a friend, it means you are thought of only as a friend. You officially enter the friends zone when you have put forth the effort and attempt at starting a relationship and you are told she only wants to be friends. Where this gets confusing is the messages women send out and expect us to understand. For example: my most recent Friends Zone experience was with a girl I had met and begun talking to. I never obfuscated my thoughts on her or hid my intentions. We would spend hours and hours just talking. After about a week she was on the phone with me 3+ times a day, including bed time where she would just want me to stay on the phone with her till she fell asleep. Half the time I would fall asleep first and wake up with her still on the phone listening to me. Averaged about 50-100 text messages a day from her about random crap, or just checking in. This went on for a month and a half. At that point I asked her out... That is when she said, I would rather just stay friends. This is why guys hate the friends zone, women tend to have a very blurry line between someone they want to be friends with and someone they want to date.
P.S. It worked out in the end as I am now dating one of her friends, but it pissed me off at the time.
EDIT: Most guys are not opposed to being friends with you girls, just try and realize that if the only reason you are not dating him is because you don't want your friendship to change then you are losing out on a good guy most of the time. Also by the very nature of the question and the rejection there will be some change either way.
That sucks. I hope things come together for youScarlettRage said:
I've been in love a number of times, and it has hurt and always will hurt to lose loved ones. I'm currently seeing an amazing woman now who is beautiful, charming, independent and strong. I've pretty much fallen for her and her wicked sense of humor (don't tell her I said that), but I know that I'll always find happiness in my life if I have balance. I was happy being single, too.
Congrats!EOTD said:
OT: eh High School sucked ass, because I managed to screw up alot, but I knew that there was something there to screw up, so thats something I guess, this fall is gonna be my 3rd year in college, and this January we had a party and some of my friends brought a friend I met a couple of times that apparently one of my friends talked to her about me and so she was kinda interested. She ended up staying the night and we probably talked til about 6am, and she came back over the rest of the weekend, and we really clicked and what not, I asked her out and she responded. Things went amazing, I thought I found the girl of my dreams, then about a month ago she kept ditching me for her friends, and earlier she got a CNA Job and she had to work Tues-Friday then the weekend also, and she asked if the night before she had to work if she could go clubbing after we hung out. I had to work at 5, and she left about 8 to get ready, and then friday she ditched me, and so I saw her for like 3 hours that entire time. I kept asking her like hey anything wrong, whatsup you acting different, etc. and she was like I'm fine, blah blah, and then 2 weeks later she decided that she wasnt ready for a relationship. AFTER 5 fucking months.
so yeah I guess I did lol, but as my friend once said, most people be trippin and bitches be crazy. Looking forward to meeting new poeple and girls when school starts up lol
Thats pretty strange, I dont really get the `ruining friendship` aspect of relationships, I always thought it was an upgrade from friends. Or maybe that is just code for `I dont fancy you`.barbzilla said:
I agree that signals can be confusing, but it also goes the other way sometimes. I once went to see one movie (not even on a date, not even handholding) with a guy and then he got all confused when I wasnt thrilled when he started telling my parents he wanted to marry me.