Maybe I'm insane for asking for relationship advice on a forum predominantly for gamin nerds, but here it goes...
I?m a bisexual male who was in the closet for around two years, one month ago I finally decided to come out at a vigil a few other LGBT students where having for Transgender day of remembrance (I'm a senior in high school by the way) they've all been very helpful and supportive as was my family, and overall I'd say that overall it went fairly well.
But that isn't my problem.
See, among the vast cornucopia of reasons I decided to come out (of which there are far too many to list here) was that for once one of the guys I had a crush on was actually gay. In other words, for the first time having an actual relationship with one of the males I've had strong feelings for was actually a feasible possibility in the real world. This was a first for me, and I didn't want to let the opportunity slide.
So after I had first came out, and after the initial shock period was more or less over, I started deciding on how I would ask him out, the initial asking, what we would do, what I should say, etc. After a while I thought I had my courage worked up and I literally was going to ask him the next day...
Then I met his boyfriend...
In real life, I reacted completely nonchalant, introduced myself, acted politely, etc...
Inside I felt like someone had just stabbed me in the heart...
His boyfriend's a pretty nice guy; we actually started hanging out a little ourselves, (he's Bi as well by the way, if that matters) but that doesn't change the fact that one of my only real hopes for romance before leaving high school had been all but dashed. There really aren't any girls or other gay/ bi guys in the general area I actually see having a relationship with me (with one potential exception), and from the looks of things the two of them aren't breaking up any time soon.
The worst part is I feel like an absolute jerk for hoping for the two of them to break up, I really care about this guy, and I've got absolutely nothing against his BF, I don't wish anything bad upon either of them, and I should just be happy that he's happy.
So how 'bout it Escapists? What should I do? Should I just move on and be happy for them? Should I remain a close friend and keep myself open just in case? Am I a jerk? Am I wasting valuable forum space? What?
PS: I couldn't think of a very good title for this, so I went with one that's kinda dumb, any suggestions on a better one?
I?m a bisexual male who was in the closet for around two years, one month ago I finally decided to come out at a vigil a few other LGBT students where having for Transgender day of remembrance (I'm a senior in high school by the way) they've all been very helpful and supportive as was my family, and overall I'd say that overall it went fairly well.
But that isn't my problem.
See, among the vast cornucopia of reasons I decided to come out (of which there are far too many to list here) was that for once one of the guys I had a crush on was actually gay. In other words, for the first time having an actual relationship with one of the males I've had strong feelings for was actually a feasible possibility in the real world. This was a first for me, and I didn't want to let the opportunity slide.
So after I had first came out, and after the initial shock period was more or less over, I started deciding on how I would ask him out, the initial asking, what we would do, what I should say, etc. After a while I thought I had my courage worked up and I literally was going to ask him the next day...
Then I met his boyfriend...
In real life, I reacted completely nonchalant, introduced myself, acted politely, etc...
Inside I felt like someone had just stabbed me in the heart...
His boyfriend's a pretty nice guy; we actually started hanging out a little ourselves, (he's Bi as well by the way, if that matters) but that doesn't change the fact that one of my only real hopes for romance before leaving high school had been all but dashed. There really aren't any girls or other gay/ bi guys in the general area I actually see having a relationship with me (with one potential exception), and from the looks of things the two of them aren't breaking up any time soon.
The worst part is I feel like an absolute jerk for hoping for the two of them to break up, I really care about this guy, and I've got absolutely nothing against his BF, I don't wish anything bad upon either of them, and I should just be happy that he's happy.
So how 'bout it Escapists? What should I do? Should I just move on and be happy for them? Should I remain a close friend and keep myself open just in case? Am I a jerk? Am I wasting valuable forum space? What?
PS: I couldn't think of a very good title for this, so I went with one that's kinda dumb, any suggestions on a better one?