Help me out here guys

[Quiet Stranger]

Now before I start I'll say, I'm not greedy (well maybe a little) and would (regrettably) pay for gas but here's the thing, for most of it, I shouldn't have to. Not so much of a problem but I would like to hear other people's opinions on this.

Now my problem is I don't have a job (really trying my best to get one so don't think I'm doing nothing and being lazy) and gas here is expensive. The car I drive is not my own,it is my grandmother's (she can not drive as she has no license so she DEPENDS on me) now don't get me wrong here, I love my grandmother oh so VERY much but most of the gas is spent on her, from taking her to doctor's appointments, to getting groceries, and just whatever she needs. Now again, I LOVE my gran, I do and I'd do anything for her but I think at this point in my life where I have no job and no form of income, I think she should at least help contribute with paying for gas, not all of it but at least half. What do you people think?


If you're gonna be mean and think I'm a terrible person for thinking this then don't bother, my life's in the shit hole enough as it is, don't need people making me feel worse.

 

[TheIronRuler]

Ask her to pay for groceries and pocket the difference to use on gas. If you're planning to be 50 worth of food, ask her to give you 60 dollars. I suppose that the 10 dollars would help cover the costs of the drive too in this and in other instances.

 

[Qitz]

If she can afford it I would say you would be in the right in asking for a bit of support for it when you're driving her all around.

It's similar to driving a friend around, you wouldn't be in the wrong in saying "Hey, want to chuck in a couple of bucks for gas?"

Just don't demand that she does, go about it tactfully. Instead of demanding "Chip in for gas, I'm driving you around after all!" go with "Since I've yet to find a job do you think you could help out and chip a couple of bucks in towards gas?"

Again, if she can afford it.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Ask her to pay for groceries and pocket the difference to use on gas. If you're planning to be 50 worth of food, ask her to give you 60 dollars. I suppose that the 10 dollars would help cover the costs of the drive too in this and in other instances.

I should have mentioned I don't live with her, just do things for her, she pays for her own groceries

 

[Quiet Stranger]

If she can afford it I would say you would be in the right in asking for a bit of support for it when you're driving her all around.

It's similar to driving a friend around, you wouldn't be in the wrong in saying "Hey, want to chuck in a couple of bucks for gas?"

Just don't demand that she does, go about it tactfully. Instead of demanding "Chip in for gas, I'm driving you around after all!" go with "Since I've yet to find a job do you think you could help out and chip a couple of bucks in towards gas?"

Again, if she can afford it.

oh she can afford it all right, though she acts like her money situation is the end of the world for her (There is no situation for her, she's pretty well off right now)

 

[bobmus]

No harm in asking. She might say no, and there'll be no difference, but then again she might give you some money...

 

[TheIronRuler]

Ask her to pay for groceries and pocket the difference to use on gas. If you're planning to be 50 worth of food, ask her to give you 60 dollars. I suppose that the 10 dollars would help cover the costs of the drive too in this and in other instances.

I should have mentioned I don't live with her, just do things for her, she pays for her own groceries

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Do you have trouble asking her for money?

 

[Quiet Stranger]

Ask her to pay for groceries and pocket the difference to use on gas. If you're planning to be 50 worth of food, ask her to give you 60 dollars. I suppose that the 10 dollars would help cover the costs of the drive too in this and in other instances.

I should have mentioned I don't live with her, just do things for her, she pays for her own groceries

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Do you have trouble asking her for money?

Well I never ask her for money, there was a time where she'd just give me money whenever I did some jobs for her (which was nice) but ever since my grandfather passed away she's been very, not greedy but stingy? I guess is the word? She acts like she has no money at all and yet I know she's got way more then I'll ever have anytime soon.

EDIT: So yes I suppose I do cause she's always complaining about having no money

 

[theswordsmn]

Well there's a few things to this. It sounds like she might be on a fixed income from what I read in the comments, so you shouldn't just assume she has more money than she's letting on. I've made that mistake, trust me, it only takes one time to make that assumption to hurt your relationship with someone. But more to your assistance, I've had this problem before, I just told people that I literally can't I have no way to put gas in the car (keep in mind she might do what you did and assume you have more money than you're letting on) But it's a tough problem, there is no good guy way to do it.

 

[Scarim Coral]

Couldn't you both (help her get into the bus) take the bus as an alternative cost? Unless the bus service over there is unreliable?

 

[t3h br0th3r]

Just be honest.

If you tell her you are having difficulties paying for gas she will more than likely either help you out or limit how much she asks you to drive. either way you come out ok and she has the satisfaction of knowing her grandson is an honest man.

 

[RustlessPotato]

Yeah, even if you love your grandmother and she loves you, that love won't buy for gas or groceries. I think she should contribute in the gas. But make sure she only pays what she uses up in Gas.

 

[bojackx]

How is that even moderately unfair on her? Definitely ask for gas money. If it's her requesting all these trips and you have no source of income, then it should be her job to pay for gas.

 

[Sexy Devil]

Give her a not so subtle hint by getting her a bus schedule. The schedules are a little annoying in low activity areas but there is absolutely no reason she needs you to drive her everywhere.