Help me

[troth]

Please help me.

So the situation is: my sister's friend who is really annoying, and thinks they're best friends, invited her to A party. Unwittingly she said yes. It turns that her friends boyfriend will be there. Along with her ex of two days, who wants to get back together. so stress is expected. And her friend will probably want to come for a sleepover and cry for two days. There will also a ton of alcohol. And she hardly drinks. Worst of all she will be forced to miss quite a lot of time with our family. people who she is actually looking forward to seeing. This friend won't take no for an answer.

So the question is this: how does she get out of this without having to just say "I changed my mind I want to spend time with my family"? Which she will pass of as her just being a *****.

And please respond with serious answers. Not "Kill her" or something.

EDIT: Okay. Important detail: this is my sister's problem, not mine. So if it sounds like I don't like this person, it's because don't really. I'll change the pronouns.

The friend knows about the family event.

 

[000Ronald]

Why can't you say you changed your mind? Be honest? Is your whole friendship based on a lie?

As an annoying friend, it was never too much of a big deal if another friend changed their plans at the last second. I was just glad to have friends.

...I'm not helping, am I? Sorry.

 

[troth]

well this sucks. No ones posting.

 

[Sleekgiant]

Spoiler: Kill her BLARGH!!!!

But to be more serious your just gonna have to tell her you don't want to go and if she doesn't understand then let her get mad. You can also lie your way out of it by saying something like you have to go out of town.

 

[Radeonx]

Tell her that you have a family issue to deal with.
Or tell her to fuck off and don't show up to the party.

 

[ottenni]

Is she asking you to come with because she need support in what sounds like a hard time for her?You are her friend and you need to support her, in whatever way you can. But i can understand why you are reluctant, seeing family is important as well.

Personally i would go with the friend, but in the end it is your choice.

 

[Insanum]

Well if you've eliminated Murder, Just tell her that you can see drama on the horizon, And that you've already promised your family you'd be in attendance.

if your still living with your parents, Pull the "im not allowed to go" line. Thats a fun one.

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

If you know stress is gonna happen then be brutally honest and tell her what your mind says.

 

[CloggedDonkey]

just say "some family stuff came up at the last second and I'm afraid I'm going to have to miss your party. sorry, maybe next time." and if she asks what the problem is just say "I don't really want to talk about it."

 

[Rawker]

Spoiler: You dismiss murder so quickly, think about the benefits here...

Honestly, say no. It's really easy. Frankly tell her you hate having to babysit things like this. You're going to get some static back, but she'll understand if you put it in your perspective.

 

[Hurr Durr Derp]

And what kind of genius invites the current boyfriend and the ex to the same party?

You'd be surprised. My sister once invited a guy, the girl he just broke up with, and the girl he cheated on the first girl with which caused said breakup, to the same party. And she only started worrying about a possible 'situation' after she had invited them.

On topic, I'd just be straight with her. It doesn't sound like you like this 'friend' a whole lot to begin with anyway. That doesn't mean you should be a dick, but if you politely tell her that you can't make it to the party because you'll be spending time with your family it'd be entirely up to her whether she takes the news with a sense of dignity and common sense or makes a big deal out of it. If it's the latter, well, that's her problem isn't it?

 

[Hybrid Sight]

I would just say that I have to spend some time with my family, and I'm sorry I can't go. If they can't accept your decision, then walk away because its no use argueing with them over it.

 

[Space Spoons]

Just tell her that you don't want to go because you have other things to do. If she thinks you're a jerk for it... Good. Didn't you say she's annoying? You're better off without her company anyway. It's win-win.

 

[Woodscare]

I would just say that I have to spend some time with my family, and I'm sorry I can't go. If they can't accept your decision, then walk away because its no use argueing with them over it.

I would have to agree with this, if you dont say no now it will only get harder to say no later

 

[vento 231]

Say your uncle died and you are going through emotional crap or something, or your best bet is to kill her!

 

[SnipErlite]

This friend won't take no for an answer.

Well she better fucking learn to.

Say family stuff came up and you simply can't. That's a legit excuse, she can't say anything.

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

Feign illness or find a way to make this 'Friend' hate you.
Perhaps do the Former, get called out on it the next day, and enjoy the Latter.

Best I can think of, good luck.

 

[Hazy]

Uh, hey, this may be me just being naive and young and whatnot, but how about just telling her you don't feel like going?

If she's not really your friend/she's annoying, why do you care so much about her thinking you're a dick?

 

[mcgroobber]

say you can't

if you can't tell your friend honestly how you feel,

maybe you shouldn't be friends in the first place

 

[Lonator]

Rock up, swamp the beverage/food table, then bail, simple yet effective.