Help needed!!!

[[email protected]]

Hi there, I am just an average guy here...but I want something more......


Having a lot of problems in life at the moment....

No job.
Failed college and can't retake or get back in.
No talents to speak of.
No money.
No IRL friends.
Always bored.

I need help quick...
Any ideas on how to improve my life??


EDIT: I live in a small town with little social events and not many decent people.....

 

[Bulletinmybrain]

Clusterfuck ceases to be able to define this situation...

That said heres an idea. Get a job, Make money, Move away to the city and get an apartment.

 

[[email protected]]

In other words I have one fucked up life?

Also I have been looking for jobs since new year and I have not even had a phone to call or letter to even reject me.. I just lay forgotten.

 

[BallPtPenTheif]

Do you have poor social skills?
Do you suffer from depression?
Do you suffer from social phobias?

 

[Bulletinmybrain]

In other words I have one fucked up life?

Also I have been looking for jobs since new year and I have not even had a phone to call or letter to even reject me.. I just lay forgotten.

Damn..I know getting through the interview is hard but theres pointers in that. If you can't even get to the interview theres very little help I can say.

 

[[email protected]]

Do you have poor social skills?
Do you suffer from depression?
Do you suffer from social phobias?

Yes
Yes
A little

 

[[email protected]]

In other words I have one fucked up life?

Also I have been looking for jobs since new year and I have not even had a phone to call or letter to even reject me.. I just lay forgotten.

Damn..I know getting through the interview is hard but theres pointers in that. If you can't even get to the interview theres very little help I can say.

How about some words of encouragement and a friend

 

[Danny Ocean]

There are two ways you can do this:

1. One is to get out more, and get a job, even if you hate it. Then you can retake exams, with the money you've made. (or is it different in the US?)

2. Or you can take the easy way out [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.69465#660407]

I kid, I kid.

 

[[email protected]]

There are two ways you can do this:

1. One is to get out more, and get a job, even if you hate it. Of course you can retake exams, you just need some money first. (or is it different in the US?).

2. Or you can take the easy way out [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.69465#660407]

Read above posts...

 

[Eyclonus]

Hmm, Have you tried professional Ebaying?

 

[Danny Ocean]

Wow, seriously, people post fast.

I'm truly sorry if I offended, but there must be a job somewhere for you, that doesn't need qualifications.

Hmm, Have you tried professional Ebaying?

Yeah, someone managed to swap a paperclip for a house once, I heard. I don't know if it's true but I heard that.

 

[[email protected]]

Wow, seriously, people post fast.

Sorry if I offended, but there must be a job somewhere for you, that doesn't need qualifications.

I have tried almost everywhere in my town..

 

[ZacOfTheZombies]

Try community college. Work on extra stuff, such as clubs and classes. They look pretty good on aplications.

 

[[email protected]]

Just so everybody knows, I am english and there is only one type of college here.

I can't get into college anymore

 

[BallPtPenTheif]

Do you have poor social skills?
Do you suffer from depression?
Do you suffer from social phobias?

Yes
Yes
A little

I used to have really bad social phobias. I used to pay my friends to order food for me at fast food restraunts.

Anyways, basically... socially speaking you are like an undercooked egg. You are just not socialized enough to "fit in". Yes, I know, screw what people think and be yourself... I feel the same way. However, in truth you are letting your fears of the perception of others get in the way of you being yourself.

I reccomend getting on a welfare plan with medical coverage. A therapist will have social excercises for you so you can develop proper people skills (knowing what presence you give, reading body language, etc.)

Addittionally they can offer drugs for the short term in order to help ease you in (Zanex! YES!). Don't think of drugs as a solution, think of it more like putting your body and mind into SAFE MODE so you can properly work on things in a safe environment.

Ultimately, there is a certain level of social frivility that you need to learn and master in order to effectively influence and work with other people... without that, you might be coming of as some kind of deviant closet case. I had this issue, my little brother currently is dealing with it.... it's common.

But definitely get a therapist.

 

[[email protected]]

I have arranged to see a therapist..but their is a long ass waiting list...

 

[joswie]

Sorry I can't be more help, but I need a bit more info. Relatives, current living situation, whether or not night school is an option, etc.

 

[[email protected]]

Sorry I can't be more help, but I need a bit more info. Relatives, current living situation, whether or not night school is an option, etc.

I live at home with parents right now.

Night school is not an option as it costs money and I have none.

 

[Danny Ocean]

I have arranged to see a therapist..but their is a long ass waiting list...

If you're in the UK, you should be able to get a qualification through the open University, if you have a TV and a Computer, as far as I know, you can do it by yourself.

 

[A29inchbeefstick]

Hi there, I am just an average guy here...but I want something more......


Having a lot of problems in life at the moment....

No job.
Failed college and can't retake or get back in.
No talents to speak of.
No money.
No IRL friends.
Always bored.

I need help quick...
Any ideas on how to improve my life??


EDIT: I live in a small town with little social events and not many decent people.....

Well you sound like a guy who can get help by this one word INVEST.Seeing that the stock market its going down like a crack whore in your town filled with not "decent people".You will just have to work very hard at it.I suggest reading/learning/studying the stock market as much as possible and not only looking from a business but a consumer point of view,and invest in that company but remember to not put all your eggs in one baskets trust me i lost 1,000 USD in a day last month...=( but i made it back =P.