Help...Please

[NotAPie]

I got dumped by my girlfriend today after 4 years of dateing...I fucked up...
Anger got the best of me and my inability to control my anger is worse, she dumped me.
I don't know where to turn, I use to turn to my sister who would help me but shes gone, please I'm very depressed right now I wanna find a way to deal with this because I almost gulped down a bottle of pills.
I don't know what to say I'm crying and my head is spinning, please just help.
I didn't want to run to the Escapist but my mom always blames my girlfriend my dad is dead to me and my sister is gone...Hopefully one of you understands.

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

What happened, exactly? You said anger got the best of you - what did you do?

The less we know, the less we can help.

 

[Neonbob]

Well, what did you do? We can throw stuff out there, but specifics do help. All I can really offer up as advice is to get your mind the hell off of it. Find a good comedian online, play a game, just divert your attention somehow.

 

[WrongSprite]

It's alright dude, time is a big healer. I wouldn't try anything drastic, you're only 15! You have your whole life ahead of you right now. Just give things time to settle and you'll feel a lot better.

 

[WinkyTheGreat]

What exactly did you do when "anger got the best of you"? Did you just say something or did you actually get physical?

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

It's alright dude, time is a big healer. I wouldn't try anything drastic, you're only 15! You have your whole life ahead of you right now. Just give things time to settle and you'll feel a lot better.

Or take an anger management course.

 

[mikecoulter]

Oh dears, you should try and keep your mind up on things. My ex broke up with me after 2 years, it isn't good. But even though it looks really bleak now, things do get better, set yourself a target to feel better by, that's what I do. Hopefully this will help you. Plus, you can always PM me for a chat? Hope I was of assistance.

 

[Hutchy_Bear]

If it is really a big problem I'm sure there are some organisations you can ring for advice.

 

[Sparrow]

Don't want to be harsh, but grow some balls.

Us lot on a internet forum can't help you can we? Nope. Move on. Theres plent more mixed races and forgein women out there who I'm sure are perfect for you.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

It's alright dude, time is a big healer. I wouldn't try anything drastic, you're only 15! You have your whole life ahead of you right now. Just give things time to settle and you'll feel a lot better.

Seriously...this is the problem with teenage relationships. Sure, they can be really serious, but don't try and kill yourself just because ONE relationship broke down...it's not like you're never going to meet somebody again. As they say, there are plenty of fish in the sea, and if you killed yourself, you'd never meet your one TRUE love would you?

There is something to think about...

 

[ThrobbingEgo]

Theres plent more mixed races and forgein women out there who I'm sure are perfect for you.

Huh?

 

[NotAPie]

I got up in the morning, and forgot to take some pill that helps me with my anger problems, when this happens I can't take a joke for shit, and me and my girlfriend usually play like that, I took one of hers as an insult and we got in a fight, I lost it when she told me "fuck you andrew" in which I replied in anger "Wanna know the difference between a Knife and you? The knife has curves where its appropiate." I was just really pissed off and she dumped me, thats when I fell apart, I love her so much I didn't think I'd ever say anything like that.

I know its my fault, But I also know its for the best that she gets someone better and thats all I really want, but I'm dieing and in pain, I wanna get over her so I can just move on too.

Oh, and this was a response to throbbingego.

 

[NotAPie]

Are they tasty pills? Make sure to take em with a nice big glass of milk. Helps the queasy stomach as the tasty pills do their work.[/asshole mode]

Anyway pills are just a lame cry for attention. If you go that way it won't get the chick back. It will just give her extra satisfaction of seeing you becoming that pathetic. Don't give her that bonus.

But really man. Gaming forum... not suicide help line. You got dumped. Man up and deal with it. Though if you want to tell us the funny details of what you did then I am sure we could all use a giggle.

I don't want her back, look I know this isen't the best place for adivce but I'm just really depressed right now, I mean, I already said what I ment, I want her, but I wanna get over her and forget because I want her to have a better life, I don't care if its not me that makes her happy, I want to get over it.

 

[WrongSprite]

I got up in the morning, and forgot to take some pill that helps me with my anger problems, when this happens I can't take a joke for shit, and me and my girlfriend usually play like that, I took one of hers as an insult and we got in a fight, I lost it when she told me "fuck you andrew" in which I replied in anger "Wanna know the difference between a Knife and you? The knife has curves where its appropiate." I was just really pissed off and she dumped me, thats when I fell apart, I love her so much I didn't think I'd ever say anything like that.

I know its my fault, But I also know its for the best that she gets someone better and thats all I really want, but I'm dieing and in pain, I wanna get over her so I can just move on too.

A tip my friend, when you say you love her, you probably don't realise what love is. I mean, you started dating her when you were 11 right? I didn't get a girlfriend till I was 16 man XD Like the other guy said, move on cause theres plenty more fish in the sea.

 

[WinkyTheGreat]

Distract yourself with other things. Play some video games, write something, watch some kind of high paced movie. Just keep yourself distracted until you can think more clearly out of the heat of the moment.

 

[Mechanical Cat Fish]

I don't have any specifics here, nor do I need any, I think. Don't look for help on an online forum, don't look for it amongst your friends; if you even thought about taking meds which I'm assuming weren't prescribed for you then you should probably seek help from a therapist or some sort of counsellor. If you don't want to, or feel you can't seek real help I would say that you need to give yourself a couple of days to think things over and get everything that you can straight in your head so you can recover with old fashioned father time. And on top of all this I'd say if the depression you're talking about is, or turns out to be upon medical examination, clinical depression I would once again recommend therapy along with whatever else your doctor or GP advises.

 

[NotAPie]

I got up in the morning, and forgot to take some pill that helps me with my anger problems, when this happens I can't take a joke for shit, and me and my girlfriend usually play like that, I took one of hers as an insult and we got in a fight, I lost it when she told me "fuck you andrew" in which I replied in anger "Wanna know the difference between a Knife and you? The knife has curves where its appropiate." I was just really pissed off and she dumped me, thats when I fell apart, I love her so much I didn't think I'd ever say anything like that.

I know its my fault, But I also know its for the best that she gets someone better and thats all I really want, but I'm dieing and in pain, I wanna get over her so I can just move on too.

A tip my friend, when you say you love her, you probably don't realise what love is. I mean, you started dating her when you were 11 right? I didn't get a girlfriend till I was 16 man XD Like the other guy said, move on cause theres plenty more fish in the sea.

Bleh, its been 4 years with her and in those 4 years we made so many promises to eachother and went through so much shit, loseing her just sent me crashing.

I hate myself for even posting this too, I tried to man up but I just felt heart broken it hurt alot, anything to help me get over it thats all I need.

 

[mikecoulter]

Don't want to be harsh, but grow some balls.

Us lot on a internet forum can't help you can we? Nope. Move on. Theres plent more mixed races and forgein women out there who I'm sure are perfect for you.

Whoa, harsh man :/ What the hell? Grow a heart.

 

[dontworryaboutit]

Speaking as someone who has made it through a suicide attempt and stint in mental hospital, and having interrupted two suicide attempts in three days, I will tell you this: there is always hope. I'm going to assume you're a young teenager here and say this: you have your whole life ahead of you. It feels horrible right now because as a teenager your hormones are jacked through the roof and life seems to fuck you over at every opportunity, but in reality you've just begun your life. There's so much more in this world that's good and beautiful to experience. Chances are you'll live into your 80s with modern medicine, and that leaves plenty of opportunity for more love in your life. Who knows? This could turn out to be one of the best things to ever happen to you.

Perspective is everything.

 

[WrongSprite]

I don't have any specifics here, nor do I need any, I think. Don't look for help on an online forum, don't look for it amongst your friends; if you even thought about taking meds which I'm assuming weren't prescribed for you then you should probably seek help from a therapist or some sort of counsellor. If you don't want to, or feel you can't seek real help I would say that you need to give yourself a couple of days to think things over and get everything that you can straight in your head so you can recover with old fashioned father time. And on top of all this I'd say if the depression you're talking about is, or turns out to be upon medical examination, clinical depression I would once again recommend therapy along with whatever else your doctor or GP advises.

People usually use depression in the wrong context, thinking it's extreme sadness, when it is in fact a hormone imbalance, so clinical is unlikely.