Help plz...

[hondommond]

Well ill try to work on off this feedback as much as possible

I will update you on everything tommorrow

 

[EeveeElectro]

thanks I think I'll try that...

should I take her to go see a movie?(or would that be pushing i like you to much)

I havent really relyed on going places first before I normally get to know them in school first then hang out at their place or mine with some friends and just kinda roll with going anywhere

coffee would be normal for some alittle older maybe...

we are both 16 if that helps this conversation any bit(would also like some ideas on where i could take her in general)

*rubs chin*
Me and my friends always go for coffee and we're all 16, but we're all really mature for our ages. Sometimes...

I suggest getting to know her first, that's very hard to do in a cinema. Get some of her friends, get some of your friends, and all hang out together in the park or something. Friendship is the first floor, my friend.

 

[hondommond]

I guess that would be good but asking that feels alittle werid

and I kinda like the idea of some one on one time with her only today have i talked to her without her 7 year long friend (amy for names sake)


but how could i ask her without making it a date?

 

[arcainia]

Get to know her, then go in for the kill!

I hate it when guys ask for my number after knowing me a short while.

should i ask her to the dance (which might be this friday) or ask her to hang out in some manner so I could get to no her outside the boundrys of school or should I confine it to there until we get some more down time..(which im not sure when it will be because I dont have any classes with her ) but i am good friends with a girl shes been like best friends with for like 7 years so i that that would be an advantage.

Get to know her outside of school first, definitely.
Go grab a coffee or something, as friends.

thanks I think I'll try that...

should I take her to go see a movie?(or would that be pushing i like you to much)

I havent really relyed on going places first before I normally get to know them in school first then hang out at their place or mine with some friends and just kinda roll with going anywhere

coffee would be normal for some alittle older maybe...

we are both 16 if that helps this conversation any bit(would also like some ideas on where i could take her in general)

I think a movie would be a bad idea for a first 'date'. First of all, when you're in a cinema you sit close to eachother in a big dark, quiet room(well, besides the movie. But we all know that's not what you're going to focus on). I think most girls will consider it a rather intimate place to go to so early in a relationship.

Second, you wont even get to interact with her, other then when the movie is actually over in which you would most likely discuss on whether it was awesome/sucked.

Try going to a caffe, or the mall maybe. Having to go out with other people(as in, friends) around may suck but it's a good 'safe' first step.

Either way, it really seems like you know nothing about this girl. You should try talking to her more before asking her out to a dance or whatnot.

 

[Good morning blues]

She was shooting you down. Sorry bud.

 

[Ago Iterum]

Sounds like the typical"No but I don't want to hurt your feelings".

The fact that she didn't want to hurt your feelings shows she doesn't think you're a bad guy, but maybe doesn't know you well enough. A lot of 16 year olds feel embarrassed when being asked for their phone number, or asked out, so they'll reject before thinking about it. You've just got to get to know her, earn her trust.

 

[hondommond]

Get to know her, then go in for the kill!

I hate it when guys ask for my number after knowing me a short while.

should i ask her to the dance (which might be this friday) or ask her to hang out in some manner so I could get to no her outside the boundrys of school or should I confine it to there until we get some more down time..(which im not sure when it will be because I dont have any classes with her ) but i am good friends with a girl shes been like best friends with for like 7 years so i that that would be an advantage.

Get to know her outside of school first, definitely.
Go grab a coffee or something, as friends.

thanks I think I'll try that...

should I take her to go see a movie?(or would that be pushing i like you to much)

I havent really relyed on going places first before I normally get to know them in school first then hang out at their place or mine with some friends and just kinda roll with going anywhere

coffee would be normal for some alittle older maybe...

we are both 16 if that helps this conversation any bit(would also like some ideas on where i could take her in general)

I think a movie would be a bad idea for a first 'date'. First of all, when you're in a cinema you sit close to eachother in a big dark, quiet room(well, besides the movie. But we all know that's not what you're going to focus on). I think most girls will consider it a rather intimate place to go to so early in a relationship.

Second, you wont even get to interact with her, other then when the movie is actually over in which you would most likely discuss on whether it was awesome/sucked.

Try going to a caffe, or the mall maybe. Having to go out with other people(as in, friends) around may suck but it's a good 'safe' first step.

Either way, it really seems like you know nothing about this girl. You should try talking to her more before asking her out to a dance or whatnot.

well I was thinking a dance because it was a place where we could get some one on one time to known each other without it being to much of a date...if its possible to approach a dance as a place to "just chill"

it would be devistating if i tryed to dance tho...I am the whitest person when it comes to dancing...the best thing i could do is the rick roll dance

when i first started talking to her she seemed interested and we had alot of fun (we talked ALOT at the verity show at my school)

 

[white_salad]

To quote Unreal Championship 2: REJECTED!

^^^^Pretty much this. No offense but " Not a phone person"? Why would you beleive that?

 

[Mariena]

Oh for crying out... You're 16. Stop thinking into relationships too much. You'll get over it.

 

[hondommond]

The phone number thing might of been alittle much but it seemed like a easy way to ask her to hang out without being surrounded by a ton of people

i would like to open some means of communication so i could get to know her before we hang out somewhere

 

[cuddly_tomato]

Oh for crying out... You're 16. Stop thinking into relationships too much. You'll get over it.

Yes.

During my teens I had my heart broken with regularity. Your hormones are up and down and it creates lots of conflicting emotions that you haven't learned to deal with yet. Just wait for the next one, she will probably show up before April sometime.

 

[hondommond]

Well its not me to just let things go like this I have to try or Ill feel like i passed up something that could of been amazing

I went into this knowing that i would probably get rejected (as always)

but she showed interest and other than the "im not a phone person" thing its the only time some she showed any different

I kinda think now that she was trying to push me into being alittle more assertive and didnt choose her words well enough

 

[arcainia]

The phone number thing might of been alittle much but it seemed like a easy way to ask her to hang out without being surrounded by a ton of people

i would like to open some means of communication so i could get to know her before we hang out somewhere

Well complaining about it here sure isn't going to make a difference. Get out there and take the initiative man! If the phone thing is true, ask her for something else(as I've said before) AIM, E-mail, MSN, suggest texting if she doesn't like talking on the phone, but do something. Depending on how long you have untill this dance starts, try spending more time with getting to know her. Don't be too pushy though. If you feel like you've gotten closer on some level after talking to her(that is, if you've had the time) then ask her to the dance. If you don't have time, you could just start a casual conversation at some point and then simply ask "so are you going to the dance with anyone?" If the answer is no, then ask her to go with you, if it's a yes, well, you should probably back down(or ask who it is and maybe trash their locker or something. If you don't feel like doing that though, knowing who it is could still be useful, it might be a female friend for all you know -shrug-).

And uh...that's all I have to offer for now.

Wow, I'm not usually this supportive...geh.

 

[hondommond]

The phone number thing might of been alittle much but it seemed like a easy way to ask her to hang out without being surrounded by a ton of people

i would like to open some means of communication so i could get to know her before we hang out somewhere

Well complaining about it here sure isn't going to make a difference. Get out there and take the initiative man! If the phone thing is true, ask her for something else(as I've said before) AIM, E-mail, MSN, suggest texting if she doesn't like talking on the phone, but do something. Depending on how long you have untill this dance starts, try spending more time with getting to know her. Don't be too pushy though. If you feel like you've gotten closer on some level after talking to her(that is, if you've had the time) then ask her to the dance. If you don't have time, you could just start a casual conversation at some point and then simply ask "so are you going to the dance with anyone?" If the answer is no, then ask her to go with you, if it's a yes, well, you should probably back down(or ask who it is and maybe trash their locker or something. If you don't feel like doing that though, knowing who it is could still be useful, it might be a female friend for all you know -shrug-).

And uh...that's all I have to offer for now.


Wow, I'm not usually this supportive...geh.

I really was thinking that she was leaning toward some online chatting like you have already said but I didnt get a chance to sort things out after the phone thing...

 

[darkless]

What happened to working these things out on your own? 90% of the escapist's here didn't have the luxury of the internet when we were in these situations.

Seriously you learn by doing get out there, be a man and take rejection if it's coming you will be the better for it, asking on the internet will just make you reliant on other peoples opinions.

 

[cuddly_tomato]

Well its not me to just let things go like this I have to try or Ill feel like i passed up something that could of been amazing

I went into this knowing that i would probably get rejected (as always)

but she showed interest and other than the "im not a phone person" thing its the only time some she showed any different

I kinda think now that she was trying to push me into being alittle more assertive and didnt choose her words well enough

Then just ask, full on in a direct way like this guy does [http://www.youtube.com/watch?gl=GB&hl=en-GB&v=w1XOfHax6Q8]. If she still says no then move on. If you haven't got the nerve to do that then still move on. Hanging around her or being stuck halfway will do nothing except give you more heartache and possibly earn you a reputation/restraining order.

 

[Blue Sonnet]

That response sounded like a panicked reaction. For whatever reason, she didn't expect you to ask her.

You say that you've known each other for seven years, so getting to know each other better is a little moot right now.

If you really want to go to the dance with her, ask her as a friend. Mention that you both don't have dates, so perhaps you could go together as friends? If she says that she already has a date, then I'm afraid that your hopes might be dashed...

This next part is going to sound harsh, and it is based solely from the few posts you have made - she seems to like you as a friend as you have a long history together. She didn't expect you to see her in *that* way, so when you asked, she panicked and blurted out the first thing she could think of. You also seem to be trying to find signals from her that may or may not be there.

Right, end of bluntness!

Bottom line - DON'T push over and over and over in little ways to try to figure her out - you have been friends for a long time and I assume that you know each other well enough to ask her straight out. If you do that, you'll get a straight response: Yes; I Don't Know, I Haven't Thought Of You In That Way Before; or I'm Sorry, I Don't See You In That Way/Value Our Friendship Too Much.

If it turns out to be the latter, don't take it to heart. It's a well known psychological phenomenon, where people who grow up together are unable to see each other in a romantic light - necessary to stop inbreeding. The end of the age range involved is 11, so it's entirely possible that she could just not be capable of seeing you in that way, and it's no reflection on you as a person whatsoever.

That said, I don't know you from Adam and all the above is based on the few posts you have made, and she could honestly like you. The only way you will find out before the dance is to ask her directly.

Aside: I remember my school dance. Several of the popular lads had got together to dare each other to ask me to the prom. By the tenth I was thoroughly pissed off, and I didn't realise until afterwards that the eleventh boy was the one I liked, who had probably asked me seriously... I went to said prom, and saw said boy dancing with a hussy who wore shiny blue hot-pants. Sod.

 

[hondommond]

Anyone wondering what happened at the end of this hole thing....

I got rejected...Badly after some cat and dog we played over the past 2 days

Apparently she was just "having her fun with me"

I died alittle inside....