Help with a problem

[theSovietConnection]

In my time being here, I know threads asking for advice are generally frowned upon, but this is one of the few places where I can get some genuinely unbiased advice on the situation I'm presently stuck in.

Last school year, a friend of mine, one of my best friends, went on a Rotary exchange. I was talking to here on MSN quite often, and at various times I found myself consoling her as she had few friends over there and really missed her friends back home. However, since she has come home, she is more and more frequently abandoning the few friends here who talked to her over MSN while she was gone and when she returned here, in favour of people she had met while on their tour around Europe (bear in mind the tour was maybe two weeks long at most). I would like to know what you guys recommend, I've tried just about everything I can think of, and she is not a friend I want to lose.

 

[Kogarian]

Sometimes you just can't stop it. A friendship is a mutual relationship, between both partners. You can only do so much for yourself and your friend. If she refuses you, there's nothing you can really do about it.

That being said, this is also part of the maturing process. It hurts at first, but makes you stronger as well. But, of course, this doesn't mean she won't eventually come around to you and her other friends after some time.

 

[Flap Jack452]

Eventually she will realize who her true friends are and once that happens she will she her mistake and try to get things the way they used to be. You can take advantage of this and welcome her back or refuse to talk to her because of how she treated you. Either way you look at it you still have to play the waiting game for her to come around.

 

[jsd379]

You can't keep a friend who doesn't want to keep you. My best advice would be to let them let them know that you think that they are blowing off their old friends. After that it is up to them, you can't force them to hang out with you. Although it isn't unheard of for people far from home to form close bonds with strangers in order to better cope with their new surroundings. The best thing to do is let them find out for themselves who their true friends are. But frankly you're your own person and every situation is different, but I wish you the best of luck!

 

[McClaud]

If you want to remain her friend, just be there for her. And remind her that you're there.

If the new friends don't pan out, she'll come back.

It's weird how the trend of instant messaging seems to have a larger impact on RL friendships now.