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[jonnopon3000]

ok, i am so utterly confused and completely do not know what to make of my relationship status and situation. I have just been in the longest relationship of my life with a girl called lauren who i am absolutely certain that i love, and she loves me...or did. After a perfectly normal day, making plans for weekend we were goin oot with her mother and brother and brothers gf...but then an argument started between mother and brother...i left with the reason that i hate being around when all this is goin on, and in her bad mood she herself had said theres no point in me being there (cause we werent goin oot anymore). The next day she broke up with me. She refused to tell me the reason, claiming there isnt one...but then told me "i just wanna be single". Me and my buddies came up wit hthe idea that shes simply embarrassed aboot her home life and thinks it unfair for me to have to put up with it...but then we disregarded this untill tonight when her mother and mothers friend decided to tell me they are disapointed we broke up and they wanna see more of me again. They think she broke with me cause of the same reason me and ma buddies did. They are convinced she will "come around" in time. I have absolutely no idea what to make of it all...i mean, do we have a chance, is there more to the picture...will somebody on this darn website please offer me the help i feel no one i know (or no one that knows me) and so therefore could be influenced by thier like/dislike of me/her give me thier true opinion and "analysis" of the situation, just feedback aboot it all will do.

PS: as i said i have confided such a personal matter here cause i believe complete strangers will give the most honest answers here. Thank you all

 

[WrongSprite]

A couple of pointers?

How old are you?
How long was the relationship?

This will greatly help answers from everybody

 

[jonnopon3000]

A couple of pointers?

How old are you?
How long was the relationship?

This will greatly help answers from everybody

Ok i know the first thing anyone will say is "dont worry aboot it you shouldnt be"...but its my decision ot be and like i said im in love with her...i am 15 and the relationship was like 6 months. And please nobody say something along the lines of:

"kid, you shouldn't be worrying aboot this kinda stuff you have exams etc...just live life and be happy"

Cause its my decision to be worrying aboot it and i like it this way. I wanna be with her

 

[ZeroMachine]

EDIT: Scratch that, you gave the info we needed.

A couple of pointers?

How old are you?
How long was the relationship?

This will greatly help answers from everybody

Ok i know the first thing anyone will say is "dont worry aboot it you shouldnt be"...but its my decision ot be and like i said im in love with her...i am 15 and the relationship was like 6 months. And please nobody say something along the lines of:

"kid, you shouldn't be worrying aboot this kinda stuff you have exams etc...just live life and be happy"

Cause its my decision to be worrying aboot it and i like it this way. I wanna be with her

The fact that you're mind is so set on this means that any advice people will give you will be quickly tossed aside. Majority of people will be saying "you're too young", "there are other girls", "focus on school work" and stuff like that. If you're already telling us not to say that, then there really is no point to be asking us for advice.

But, I'll say it anyways. You are fifteen years old. You are far to young to be settling down with one girl. Maybe you two will end up together again in the future. Maybe soon, maybe a long time down the road. But you absolutely, positively cannot depend on being with one girl for the rest of your life at your age. Plus, and trust me on this, six months is not enough to decide that. My longest was eight months, and we said we "loved" each other and always wanted to be with each other, and now looking back on it, I don't see why I thought that.

It's sad, it sucks, but it's the way life goes. Just live it. If she comes back, good for you, if not, find another girl.

 

[Legion]

"I just want to be single" is the phrase that sticks out for me the most.

Seems either that she either has/had very little feelings for you, or that she likes you a lot and is therefore protecting you from the real reason.

A couple of pointers?

How old are you?
How long was the relationship?

This will greatly help answers from everybody

This would also be handy.

EDIT: 15, eh. I am finding it hard not to be cynical about this. Mainly because I thought I was in love at least 3 times between the ages 12-16, and now realise how incredibly wrong I was (and wonder what I ever saw in them).

 

[Good morning blues]

You do not live in a romantic comedy. Either she will ask you to come back to her or she will not. Nothing you can do can change this.

 

[goatzilla8463]

Kill her.

Actually, what you should probably do is ask her more about it. Ask her if she's met someone else, ask her how her family relations are. If you really love her, you wouldn't be embarrassed to prod a bit more.

 

[Lord George]

Kill her, it will solve all problems I swear. You can thank me later.

 

[El Poncho]

There is only one option...stalk her -.-

In all seriousness though, she might be embarressed (excuse the spelling) of her homelife she might talk to you about it soon but i'm not too sure.

 

[APPCRASH]

Women are fickle.

 

[FallenRainbows]

A couple of pointers?

How old are you?
How long was the relationship?

This will greatly help answers from everybody

Ok i know the first thing anyone will say is "dont worry aboot it you shouldnt be"...but its my decision ot be and like i said im in love with her...i am 15 and the relationship was like 6 months. And please nobody say something along the lines of:

"kid, you shouldn't be worrying aboot this kinda stuff you have exams etc...just live life and be happy"

Cause its my decision to be worrying aboot it and i like it this way. I wanna be with her

6 months is not long, Im 15 and going a year yet; look if she DID love you I hate to say it but she would have talked it trough with you. Sorry mate the favour isn't always returned people have different definitions of love; take for example mine is a very strong one most guys my age? its more of a yeah why not statement.

 

[DannyBoy451]

A couple of pointers?

How old are you?
How long was the relationship?

This will greatly help answers from everybody

Ok i know the first thing anyone will say is "dont worry aboot it you shouldnt be"...but its my decision ot be and like i said im in love with her...i am 15 and the relationship was like 6 months. And please nobody say something along the lines of:

"kid, you shouldn't be worrying aboot this kinda stuff you have exams etc...just live life and be happy"

Cause its my decision to be worrying aboot it and i like it this way. I wanna be with her

Relationships at 15 don't have to make any sense, just get over it.

 

[Roamin11]

Ok i know the first thing anyone will say is "dont worry aboot it you shouldnt be"...but its my decision ot be and like i said im in love with her...i am 15 and the relationship was like 6 months. And please nobody say something along the lines of:

"kid, you shouldn't be worrying aboot this kinda stuff you have exams etc...just live life and be happy"

Cause its my decision to be worrying aboot it and i like it this way. I wanna be with her

OH jeez don't tell me you hung up your spurs and threw away any thoughts have having another girl cuz this one.... Silly young love.....

ON TOPIC: you don't seem to have a problem really, your buds and you are probably right, she will come round, and if not your still got your youth and good looks and the abilty to get another one right? You got one its pretty easy to get a new one

 

[oliveira8]

You just 15...

Also till you hit 20, one night stands can't go wrong.

 

[Avatar Roku]

A couple of pointers?

How old are you?
How long was the relationship?

This will greatly help answers from everybody

Ok i know the first thing anyone will say is "dont worry aboot it you shouldnt be"...but its my decision ot be and like i said im in love with her...i am 15 and the relationship was like 6 months. And please nobody say something along the lines of:

"kid, you shouldn't be worrying aboot this kinda stuff you have exams etc...just live life and be happy"

Cause its my decision to be worrying aboot it and i like it this way. I wanna be with her

Look, this is coming from a 16 year old: 6 months isn't that long, and I can guarantee that, assuming she doesn't want you back, you'll care a whole lot less after not too much time. Again though, that's assuming she doesn't want you back.

 

[randommaster]

Offer to talk with her without trying to get back together. If she doesn't feel pressured to get back together, she might talk with you about what's wrong.

 

[ZeroMachine]

You just 15...

Also till you hit 20, one night stands can't go wrong.

Uh, yes. Yes they can. In the same ways, but worse.

 

[bodyklok]

Just talk to her or one of her friends about it, other wise wait and see.

That aside, dude you 15 years old. Get over it.

 

[oliveira8]

You just 15...

Also till you hit 20, one night stands can't go wrong.

Uh, yes. Yes they can. In the same ways, but worse.

Well..unless you stupid they can't go wrong.

 

[Snugglebunny]

ok, i am so utterly confused and completely do not know what to make of my relationship status and situation. I have just been in the longest relationship of my life with a girl called lauren who i am absolutely certain that i love, and she loves me...or did. After a perfectly normal day, making plans for weekend we were goin oot with her mother and brother and brothers gf...but then an argument started between mother and brother...i left with the reason that i hate being around when all this is goin on, and in her bad mood she herself had said theres no point in me being there (cause we werent goin oot anymore). The next day she broke up with me. She refused to tell me the reason, claiming there isnt one...but then told me "i just wanna be single". Me and my buddies came up wit hthe idea that shes simply embarrassed aboot her home life and thinks it unfair for me to have to put up with it...but then we disregarded this untill tonight when her mother and mothers friend decided to tell me they are disapointed we broke up and they wanna see more of me again. They think she broke with me cause of the same reason me and ma buddies did. They are convinced she will "come around" in time. I have absolutely no idea what to make of it all...i mean, do we have a chance, is there more to the picture...will somebody on this darn website please offer me the help i feel no one i know (or no one that knows me) and so therefore could be influenced by thier like/dislike of me/her give me thier true opinion and "analysis" of the situation, just feedback aboot it all will do.

PS: as i said i have confided such a personal matter here cause i believe complete strangers will give the most honest answers here. Thank you all

As a girl, I am believing from her point of view, I am inclined to think two things:

1. You did something. You did something wrong and she's not feeling it. It could be something basic, like maybe you just did something she didn't like, or perhaps it was something that festered, maybe she just feels something about the way you act is something she can't put up with, but long story short, the problem is you.

2. She did something. Maybe she feels she just isn't ready for a boyfriend, maybe she feels its just too much of a hassle and she just isn't feeling it at this time in her life, and wants to break it off without hurting any party too much. Long story short though, its not your fault, it just isn't the right time/place for her, and you need to respect that. Hey, maybe she'll come back.

Either way, give her space, be her friend but don't force your presence on her, and if it isn't meant to be, than you just have to accept it. Besides, she's 15! Sheeeeesh! What, were you engaged or something? Girlfriends come and go, and sometimes you just have to let them go, and even though it might hurt, you just have to remember that there is that person out there that will being you a greater joy. Good luck buddy.