Hello fellow escapists, I would like to try meeting a girl, however as the title says, I do have high standards, not much I just want her to be smart, fun to be around, has the same interests as me(games, tv, hobbies etc.), decent looking( not trying to sound shallow or anything) etc. However from where I live, most girls my age don't meet these points and some are just a bit chavy and I have considered going out to a club, however again the odds finding a girl who meets these points are low. So should I try harder or try not to be so picky
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Hi, are you English by any chance? If so, we have the exact same problem. With chavs and the lot.
I hate when people have say to me that I should lower my standards. Does that mean I would try people who do not fit my desirable description? Quite possibly. Could these high standards be the reason I've been single my entire life? Probably.
As for clubs, I've only experienced obnoxious, loud-mouthed shitheads, shouting in my face. Other wise known as people who do no fit my description, other than maybe looks. And even then 80% get a big fat "No" put on them for smoking.
My only suggestion is to do an outdoor hobby and perhaps then you may find someone, but I would need to practice what I preach in order to be truly sincere.
I hate when people have say to me that I should lower my standards. Does that mean I would try people who do not fit my desirable description? Quite possibly. Could these high standards be the reason I've been single my entire life? Probably.
As for clubs, I've only experienced obnoxious, loud-mouthed shitheads, shouting in my face. Other wise known as people who do no fit my description, other than maybe looks. And even then 80% get a big fat "No" put on them for smoking.
My only suggestion is to do an outdoor hobby and perhaps then you may find someone, but I would need to practice what I preach in order to be truly sincere.
I don't find the sort of gentleman I'm interested in in nightclubs, I imagine it's the same the other way.
Decent, respectable bars where one can carry a conversation, especially if it's hosting a live music or comedy night are where I find success.
Decent, respectable bars where one can carry a conversation, especially if it's hosting a live music or comedy night are where I find success.
Well Irish and I'm from Northern Ireland and yeah it is the exact same problem over here with chavs just like in England. Good idea about trying outdoor hobbies, if things go well in August for my exam results and I get into Uni, I could try looking for what there is to do and who knows, i might get lucky, thanksBroady Brio said:
Sure is, all my friends go out, but not me, they've been trying to get me out though, but just not sure about it, thanks for the heads upReadyAmyFire said:
It's not about lowering your standards, it's about not rejecting someone just because they don't tick every one of your check boxes. The odds are you're not going to find the person who does tick every one of your check boxes, and even if you do, there is also a chance she's not going to be interested in you.Broady Brio said:
If you try to narrow down who you're going to date before you even give them a chance, you could easily be denying yourself something great. It will more than likely get to a point where no girl will be "good enough" for you because it's very unlikely any girl will be able to perfectly match a check list.
I'm probably not explaining myself very well.
I don't think I was explaining very well either. What I meant to say was that lowering my standards wouldn't achieve anything.MasochisticAvenger said:
My only check box I have that is absolutely mandatory for me is that they don't smoke. And that is due to my asthma really exasperated by the chemicals in them. I physically can't live with someone who smokes.
Ladies who are into games are not always ladies who are into nightclubs so that's probably not the best thing to pursue.
Have you considered internet dating and conventions and such?
Nerdy girls generally hang out where the nerdy stuff is.
Having standards is good but being too judgmental isn't. Make sure you get to know people fully. First impressions are not always right.
Have you considered internet dating and conventions and such?
Nerdy girls generally hang out where the nerdy stuff is.
Having standards is good but being too judgmental isn't. Make sure you get to know people fully. First impressions are not always right.
I have thought about, but never tried it due to there being a certain stigma attached to dating sitesPhasmal said:
I find myself pleasantly surprised every so often by women who I think are "below my standards". Outward appearances are deceiving in many people.
I agree with Katatori in regard to standards. However, are you genuinely attracted to girls that play video games and like the same shows/movies as you? Or are they just things that you think would allow you to get on with someone better?Kitsune Hunter said:
If the latter is so then you should be more open minded.