Hikikomori

[Underground Man]

So recently I've been playing Yume Nikki. My favorite thing to do is have Madotsuki sit in the corner of her room, staring at the wall -- while I sit in the corner of my room staring at her stare at the wall. I feel like I'm looking at myself.

Is/was anyone else on here a jobless, long-term shut-in who's unable/unwilling to leave their room? Why, and how do you get out of that lifestyle?

For me, it's a mixture of a sun allergy, social anxiety, and the fact that my college degree is completely worthless. I'm trying to improve myself by having a go at writing for a living, but its probably a long shot.

 

[Julianking93]

Huh. Interestingly enough, I was just talking about this with someone here.

But, as for me, I myself can be considered a hikikomori.

I have no clue how to get out of it, nor do I really care to get out of it.

 

[Rasputin1]

I never leave the house anymore. But it's not like I'm socially awkward or a loner. From around 14 - 17 , I was out partying nearly every day, and if I wasn't partying , I was out somwhere with friends usually doing some illegal substance. Not the best life, But you tire of it quickly, at least I did anyway.
I'm a shut-in by choice now.

 

[Underground Man]

Heh, on one hand I realize that the world doesn't have much to offer. Not now in the age of wireless internet and infinite video games. Before I started shutting myself in, I'd done a lot of traveling all over the world (army brat), and none of it impressed me. But, I do wish I could get to a state of functionality. I want a job, but no one wants to hire a socially-inept freakshow, especially amongst hundreds of other applicants with higher CHA stats.

 

[zen5887]

Is/was anyone else on here a jobless, long-term shut-in who's unable/unwilling to leave their room? Why, and how do you get out of that lifestyle?

I wager that there are a lot of these people on this forum.

I however, am not. I have a life and its pretty fuckin' aweosme.

 

[Sacman]

I have a job and I go to school but I'm hardly social person so I don't know where I fall...

 

[CarpathianMuffin]

I work and go to school as necessary. Occasionally I leave the house to pick up a new game or see a movie. That's the extent of my excursions. Otherwise, I fit the description pretty well. As does everyone who I really care about, so it works out having us all talk online.

 

[Underground Man]

I wager that there are a lot of these people on this forum.

I however, am not. I have a life and its pretty fuckin' aweosme.

What's the secret, man!? Don't be stingy!

 

[zen5887]

I wager that there are a lot of these people on this forum.

I however, am not. I have a life and its pretty fuckin' aweosme.

What's the secret, man!? Don't be stingy!

Get out there man.

No real secret.

 

[Marter]

Hmm...

Jobless? Check.
Long-term shut in? Check.
Unwilling/unable to leave room? Not exactly.

I do leave my house, and not just for school. I'm fairly well liked by a few people, and I am on soccer teams. Apart from soccer though, I don't like leaving. Not due to social ineptitude or anything like that, but I just prefer staying inside. I could leave, party and things like that, but I have no desire to do so, so I don't. Live for yourself, right?

 

[NaturalCauses]

I'm not a shut-in. I do spend plenty of time in my dorm room because of all the reading and homework that is required for me at university, but I make the time to go out. I always have a group of friends to get dinner with, to go shopping, to see movies, etc.

Funnily enough, it's when I'm doing my 'geeky' stuff- watching Doctor Who, playing games- that I feel most alone.

I assume this is how other girls feel. I can make plenty of friends, just not geeky ones for whatever reason. My favourite hobbies leave me alone.

 

[Underground Man]

The problem will living for yourself is that if you don't play by the norms at least a little bit, you end up funemployed.

That, and if you made the mistake of majoring in the humanities.

I'm moving out in two weeks. I hope a fresh start will break all these old habits, but I'll probably end up just hiking-it-up in a new location.

 

[Bon_Clay]

Not a very social person, don't like parties and stuff, but not a shut in at all. Mostly go out to hang out with a smaller group of people.

Currently no job and not in school anymore which kinda sucks. But I've got a good enough understanding of myself I know when I need some social interaction to break up alone time. Don't get depressed, don't have any social anxiety, so I'm doing alright.

Things could be going a lot better for me, but could be a lot worse. So good luck to anyone who trying to improve their situation.