hopeless romantic needs guidance

[HotFezz8]

short story.

met a girl at a club, and whilst i was about to ask her out (i was genuinly building up to it) she left early. i found her on facebook and have started up a conversation, and now want to ask her out via that.

a) is that ok? (there is zero chance i will see her again otherwise before this club again and i don't want to wait that long, knowing my luck someone else will snap her up.)

b) how should i do it? i can't for the life of me think of how to word it.

EDIT

by club i mean a society, not a night club

and i asked, and its been a day and she hasn't responded, although she has friended me

 

[AmrasCalmacil]

Something along the lines of.
'Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to meet up at (x public place) at (x time/date) and do (x activity)'

I'm no expert seeing as I have never really cared for the concept of dating people. But I guess that's how I'd do it.

 

[NiceGurl_14]

Something along the lines of.
'Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to meet up at (x public place) at (x time/date) and do (x activity)'

I'm no expert seeing as I have never really cared for the concept of dating people. But I guess that's how I'd do it.

I'd have to agree with this. That's about the best way to do it but make sure that it's a casual thing.

 

[Broady Brio]

'Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to meet up at (x public place) at (x time/date) and do (x activity)'

Curse you stranger. But you can't really say it any other way than that. Oh you can change the wording but otherwise you can't change the meaning of that.

 

[zombiesinc]

Something along the lines of.
'Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to meet up at (x public place) at (x time/date) and do (x activity)'

I'm no expert seeing as I have never really cared for the concept of dating people. But I guess that's how I'd do it.

It's the most straight forward way to ask her, without there being any sort of confusion. Seeing as it's likely you won't see her again, unless at the club, and that you genuinely want to ask her out, I don't see the harm in being straight forward. Anything else might be too much at this point.

 

[IsraelRocks]

Something along the lines of.
'Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to meet up at (x public place) at (x time/date) and do (x activity)'

I'm no expert seeing as I have never really cared for the concept of dating people. But I guess that's how I'd do it.

Ill go with that as well

 

[Madshaw]

Something along the lines of.
'Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to meet up at (x public place) at (x time/date) and do (x activity)'

I'm no expert seeing as I have never really cared for the concept of dating people. But I guess that's how I'd do it.

or you could try, you said you liked (x, activity, food, place) lets go do some (x) next week

 

[the Dept of Science]

I like to think I'm fairly good at text game, considering I got a girl I spoke to at a club for 10 minutes to agree to come on a date.

My method (cannot take credit for it though)
First text:
1. Hey {silly nickname like cutie or honeybunch}
2. Crazy meeting you guys last night
3. About that {place} I mentioned, I would really like to show it to you sometime
4. {ask a silly question} eg. What do you reckon is the best Disney movie? or Isn't it wierd that most people don't talk to random people unless they are drunk? or Whats cooler, pirates, ninjas or vikings?

Following texts just need to create intrigue. Say things that are vague and require her to ask a question. For example, just randomly saying "woo, finally finished!" or "wierdest thing happened to me today. so confused!" or (replying to a text) "{something posative about her character}. You know, thats my second favourite thing about you".

Other important points... try not to come off as desperate. If you are trying to organise something, try to sound busy and so be fairly uncomprimising with time/date. If you only met her briefly, try to come off as fun and playful, rather than giving off too strong a sexual vibe.

 

[Actual Charlie Nash]

tell her your her density (yay reference ftw)

or just follow the other advice

 

[Tharwen]

Try this:

Spoiler

3:55 - 4:12

Not helpful?

Oh well, hopefully you'll now be in a good mood and prepared to ask out anyone!

 

[The Zango]

short story.

met a girl at a club, and whilst i was about to ask her out (i was genuinly building up to it) she left early. i found her on facebook and have started up a conversation, and now want to ask her out via that.

a) is that ok? (there is zero chance i will see her again otherwise before this club again and i don't want to wait that long, knowing my luck someone else will snap her up.)

b) how should i do it? i can't for the life of me think of how to word it.

The fear of failure, is worse than rejection. Just do it man! the worst thing she can say is no! DO IT! And good luck!

 

[thenumberthirteen]

I wouldn't know anything and don't lisen to me since I'm awful at asking people out. Remember, however, to replace those "X"s with actual words. It could end badly.

tell her your her density (yay reference ftw)

or just follow the other advice

I just saw that film yesterday. Proof that the best way to win a girl's heart is through violence.

 

[SimuLord]

BonsaiK in 3...2...1...

But in the meantime, I'll advise you to DO EET. Let her know you're interested! Get a word in, let her know you're there! Turn the charm on, let her know you're there!

(bleed all over 'em, let 'em know you're there.)

 

[nunqual]

short story.

met a girl at a club, and whilst i was about to ask her out (i was genuinly building up to it) she left early. i found her on facebook and have started up a conversation, and now want to ask her out via that.

a) is that ok? (there is zero chance i will see her again otherwise before this club again and i don't want to wait that long, knowing my luck someone else will snap her up.)

b) how should i do it? i can't for the life of me think of how to word it.

Yeah, it's ok. I asked my current girlfriend out through facebook and it is going wonderfully. As for how to word it, I don't really know, ask to go to a movie?

 

[Ulquiorra4sama]

What they said... DO IT!

...but seriously, don't tell her you saw her at the bar and then found her facbook page - i can see how that'd be nice and honest, but at the same time pretty stalk-ish.

So just let her know you're out there and figure out if you've got some mutual interests and build a date around that. If things go well then you've got something to keep spinning on.

EDIT: Oh, and good luck

 

[Isolda Sage]

Ask her out strait forward "Hey we should get some coffee." or what ever.

She's already talking to you on facebook.
She accepted your friend request?
(We females do try to avoid the creeps and weirdos on there; chances are good she enjoys talking to you.)

Ask her out, don't make her guess what you are thinking for too long. If she says "no' there is no shortage of girls out there ask the next one out.

 

[Actual Charlie Nash]

I wouldn't know anything and don't lisen to me since I'm awful at asking people out. Remember, however, to replace those "X"s with actual words. It could end badly.

tell her your her density (yay reference ftw)

or just follow the other advice

I just saw that film yesterday. Proof that the best way to win a girl's heart is through violence.

i also just saw it yesterday and sir stephen hawking just saw it before i did!
i was quite happy

 

[C4N4DUCK18]

Just act reeeeeeaal cool, and don't come off as desperate or horny. The above advise is pretty good. Go for it! you only live once! (unless you become a Zombie of course).

 

[Isolda Sage]

short story.

met a girl at a club, and whilst i was about to ask her out (i was genuinly building up to it) she left early. i found her on facebook and have started up a conversation, and now want to ask her out via that.

a) is that ok? (there is zero chance i will see her again otherwise before this club again and i don't want to wait that long, knowing my luck someone else will snap her up.)

b) how should i do it? i can't for the life of me think of how to word it.

Could you let us know how it turned out.

 

[blankedboy]

Le casuals.