I'm going to express how competitive gaming communities feel about these kind of issues, since I probably have the most experience with competitive gaming communities.
When it comes to competitive gaming for fighting games and shooters, no one in general cares about what other people think, feel, or want. All that matters to the vast majority of these communities is improving their skill, pwning people lower skilled than themselves, and gaining reputation. The community surrounding fighting games started with the arcades. And the community starting with shooters started with Quake and Unreal Tournament. In both of these, the strongest survived and the weak were lambasted and made an example of. Trash talking, sexism, racism, and other negative things will happen because to competitive gamers all that matters is winning. They will do whatever it takes to make sure they win and that includes doing rude things. An entire culture grew up treating video games as like a war type of thing. All that matters is victory and to hell with honor or equality.
The sad truth that for many competitive gamers, you don't have an opinion until your good. In fact, your not even a person worth of respect or even dignity if your not good. All you are is cannon fodder for their dominance. Competitive gaming is more like a war than it is like a sport. So when people start talking about what is "fair or just", the reply your going to get from a pure competitive gamer is probably going to be along the lines of, "Lol, your stats are terrible, not listening". Or from fighting games you will get "OMFG, play and do well in a tournament before whining".
Is it right or wrong? Doesn't matter. You don't expect an entire culture that started with the arcade era and early online shooters to change it's views. Especially when for almost two decades, we grew up in an environment where it was basically get good or STFU and quit playing. This was before matchmaking systems were around and allowed lesser skilled players to play other lesser skilled players. This is where the majority which are casual gamers were DESTROYED by their superior higher skilled players every single match. Which honestly should be.