How can you justify this view-point?
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I was done for a few days after losing my dog I had known for basically my entire life. Luckily no one too close to me has died.
I think he should have worded that better. Something like "You need to power through these tragedies and let them make you a better stronger person, crisis is half oppurtunity half tragdy..."
I think he should have worded that better. Something like "You need to power through these tragedies and let them make you a better stronger person, crisis is half oppurtunity half tragdy..."
What an arse. I lost my Dad when i was 13 and right in the middle of exams. In fact, i was in the middle of exam when a teacher came in, wrenched me out of the exam room as a family friend was on their way to pick me up to take me to the Hospital where my Dad was. He had Emphysema and was supposedly ok until he contracted Pneumonia, and he passed away the next morning. It was a massive shock and i was devastated as we were very close, and we were assured that he was going to get better.ToastiestZombie said:
My form tutor at the time even rang home and told my Mum that it was "in my best interest" to return to school, 3 days after he died. For the next 2 years that i was in her form she constantly questioned why i would not come to school on my Dad's anniversary and i was told that it wasn't "a good enough reason" to not come to school. She even tried to give me detention so i had to come in and reported me when i didn't.
My head of year was brilliant and allowed me as much time as i needed, organised my exams for me, etc. However i do think the school could have done more to help me.
Your Headmaster, sir, is a dick. He's going to damage students with that kind of attitude.
Unfortunately, this new headmaster is just trying to teach you a life lesson. You can't let a death in the family or any other tragedy affect your work or your behavior. Most if not all employers will either suspend or fire you. Reason being because if you are letting your personal life affect your work, you are costing the company money.
I'm American btw, so I'm going on how things are over on the Western Hemisphere.
I'm American btw, so I'm going on how things are over on the Western Hemisphere.
What a ****, you have to do something about this man. Or just try to get a few people to not come to school every now and again. Find out his personal number and ring him, pretending to be a cop, saying that his sister has just died in a horrific car accident. Procede to say "Don't bother coming to her funeral, just proceed with everyday life."
See it as an institution that has to make money.
Schools (at least over here) get government pay from delivering graduates. People who do not graduate won't retrieve any money. Hence the argument that everyone needs to succeed.
Not sure if it'smentioned in the 5 past pages, I didn't read it all. But this is probably why he's beeing like this.
Money, money and then some more money
Schools (at least over here) get government pay from delivering graduates. People who do not graduate won't retrieve any money. Hence the argument that everyone needs to succeed.
Not sure if it'smentioned in the 5 past pages, I didn't read it all. But this is probably why he's beeing like this.
Money, money and then some more money
Just reading about this made me want to punch your headmaster in a face, multiple times. What a fucking asshole. Just proves my point, people suck, dogs rule!
In the immortal words of Benjamin Yahtzee Sebastian Godzilla Croshaw,
"There is no middle finger big enough!"
"There is no middle finger big enough!"
When I was younger, about 14, I lost a cousin in a car accident (my aunt and uncle died too) and I was seriously affected by it, my grades dropped from top of the class to some of the worst in the class because I couldn't take anything in. About a fortnight after the accident, a teacher held me back after the class went to lunch and shouted at me for a while telling me to man up and get over it. Didn't exactly take it well, I split his lip and when I told the Headteacher why I hit him, he was fired. A teacher waiting outside to talk to him heard the whole thing. I had to give a statement at the police station and everything, but he didn't take it any further, I don't think he wanted everyone to know what he said to me.
I wasn't thinking rationally at the time, and I don't think what I did was right, but he was a horrible little man and deserved nothing less, he was an enormous bully who liked nothing less than to intimidate and harass students too shy to stand up for themselves. Our headteacher was an amazing guy who took it all very well, and told me he probably would have done the same thing if he had been in my position. If I faced that choice again, I doubt I'd do it, it stressed my parents out at a time when they didn't really need the hassle.
So no, the school hasn't ever been a dick to me, only a specific teacher.
I wasn't thinking rationally at the time, and I don't think what I did was right, but he was a horrible little man and deserved nothing less, he was an enormous bully who liked nothing less than to intimidate and harass students too shy to stand up for themselves. Our headteacher was an amazing guy who took it all very well, and told me he probably would have done the same thing if he had been in my position. If I faced that choice again, I doubt I'd do it, it stressed my parents out at a time when they didn't really need the hassle.
So no, the school hasn't ever been a dick to me, only a specific teacher.
One way to justify the viewpoint is that you owe the school your best, because it is giving you an education, you ungrateful wretch!
Lol, no but seriously, yeah he's an asshole. High School is always problematic, because you never learn what you want to learn, and never what the teachers want to teach, but you have to because you're forced to by the state because you can't think for yourselves at the age of 16+.
Lol, no but seriously, yeah he's an asshole. High School is always problematic, because you never learn what you want to learn, and never what the teachers want to teach, but you have to because you're forced to by the state because you can't think for yourselves at the age of 16+.
business people are hopelessly stuck in their own shit filled assholes. Oh yes, because they've made the world such a wonderland! Good work chaps, decades of economic decline. Bravo.
God forbid he at least show some understanding and support. If he offered a helping hand he'd have the loyalty and hard work of someone in trouble and this would be a moot point.
But as it is he sounds like the little bastards on this thread saying he's right. Go fuck yourselves. They've tried installing businessmen in American schools over the last couple decades, and military guys too. No improvement to testing or grades, in fact actually statistically a little lower performing. Doesn't matter about numbers they're right because they FEEL right...
I was in this situation last year. I got a call during a test that my best friend since middle school had killed himself. I hung with this guy every day, he got me into metal, we did art school together for a while (til I moved away from that field), and worked two jobs with him. Pretty much my spare brother. He was drunk, tore up the house, fought our friends, threw em a suicide note and went out of the house into traffic. Into our friend's car (he was coming to help wrangle my deceased friend until the cops got there). Three of my best buds watched him die. Ever seen someone wash their hands for six hours because they still feel blood on them? Or when everyone you know is depressed? Or when your pal who hit him has PTSD and recurring nightmares because of it?
Sit there and tell me it doesn't affect you. Go ahead. You're only proving there is something wrong with you.
God forbid he at least show some understanding and support. If he offered a helping hand he'd have the loyalty and hard work of someone in trouble and this would be a moot point.
But as it is he sounds like the little bastards on this thread saying he's right. Go fuck yourselves. They've tried installing businessmen in American schools over the last couple decades, and military guys too. No improvement to testing or grades, in fact actually statistically a little lower performing. Doesn't matter about numbers they're right because they FEEL right...
I was in this situation last year. I got a call during a test that my best friend since middle school had killed himself. I hung with this guy every day, he got me into metal, we did art school together for a while (til I moved away from that field), and worked two jobs with him. Pretty much my spare brother. He was drunk, tore up the house, fought our friends, threw em a suicide note and went out of the house into traffic. Into our friend's car (he was coming to help wrangle my deceased friend until the cops got there). Three of my best buds watched him die. Ever seen someone wash their hands for six hours because they still feel blood on them? Or when everyone you know is depressed? Or when your pal who hit him has PTSD and recurring nightmares because of it?
Sit there and tell me it doesn't affect you. Go ahead. You're only proving there is something wrong with you.
Children suffer greatly from family upheaval. They can become heavily depressed during a divorce, the sky's the limit on how hard a child/young adult will handle a death.
Your headmaster is ignorant and has a low emotional intelligence.
Your headmaster is ignorant and has a low emotional intelligence.
Maybe he survived a plague and that's just pride speaking--everybody else was tending to their dying relatives while he continued studying.
It is justified, just he said it wrong. Although it does suck when young kids lose family members, its different when your an adult. Your schooling is important, and blaming a relations death on it doesnt change the fact that you failed your exams. You cant blame it on that stuff because you are graded on what you do. A death in the family will not change your grades.
Yeah, it may be heartless, but its true.
Yeah, it may be heartless, but its true.
There's only one way to handle this. Wait for the day he loses a loved one, then pour salt on his open wound. Then wait for the moment to throw his own words back in his face. Poetic justice can be harsh, but its impact is undeniable.
