Ok, this is mainly to vent but this question boggles my mind and I would like someone to explain this to me. We've all either said this or have been told this. Conversation goes on, someone makes a politically-incorrect joke on some level and someone doesn't find it funny and gives the joker a death stare. Why is that? And I don't mean something like "Because that person took the joke personally." I have had a situation where the reason this death stare was given was because the joker "believed in what he said."
Correct me if I'm wrong, but is a joke meant to not be taken seriously? Is a joke always meant to be the truth, and are we always suppose to believe this joke as if it is a factual statement? I say neigh to that. When I make a joke, especially an offensive one on some level, I mean absolutely no harm in what I say. It's meant to make you laugh, not meant to offend you. Even if it hurts you personally, I don't believe what I say. Half the time with my offensive humor, it's stuff that I believe is so exaggerated and so out-there that it can't be a true statement.
If I want to be offensive to you, there will be no joke. If I want to be a sexist asshole, I will do everything in my power to make one sex over power the other, whether it be man or woman. If I want to be a racist asshole, I'd do everything in my power to make one race over power all others. It's as simple as that. Because I say something like "I can't find the black man..." when looking at a picture doesn't make me racist. I would not judge a person for their color, or their nationality, or the fact they have breasts. Just because I told my friend if he leaves me to go hang with some other friends, I'll rape him later doesn't mean I'll actually go through with it or that I think rape is an ok thing.
Humor is limitless. Anything is funny to someone, you can't stop that. But when something is meant as a joke, I surely hope it stays that way. Just because I told my friend to get back in the kitchen doesn't mean I treat women badly. She is my equal, and her skills in anything is left to her own being, not because she's a woman. If I start talking in a "stereotypical" voice, I don't think all people that fall in that category talk like that. I grew up in international communities, and I'm the last person to treat someone differently because of what category they fall in. A joke is a joke, not an insult. And if anyone treats it as one, that's their fault, and their problem.
Correct me if I'm wrong, but is a joke meant to not be taken seriously? Is a joke always meant to be the truth, and are we always suppose to believe this joke as if it is a factual statement? I say neigh to that. When I make a joke, especially an offensive one on some level, I mean absolutely no harm in what I say. It's meant to make you laugh, not meant to offend you. Even if it hurts you personally, I don't believe what I say. Half the time with my offensive humor, it's stuff that I believe is so exaggerated and so out-there that it can't be a true statement.
If I want to be offensive to you, there will be no joke. If I want to be a sexist asshole, I will do everything in my power to make one sex over power the other, whether it be man or woman. If I want to be a racist asshole, I'd do everything in my power to make one race over power all others. It's as simple as that. Because I say something like "I can't find the black man..." when looking at a picture doesn't make me racist. I would not judge a person for their color, or their nationality, or the fact they have breasts. Just because I told my friend if he leaves me to go hang with some other friends, I'll rape him later doesn't mean I'll actually go through with it or that I think rape is an ok thing.
Humor is limitless. Anything is funny to someone, you can't stop that. But when something is meant as a joke, I surely hope it stays that way. Just because I told my friend to get back in the kitchen doesn't mean I treat women badly. She is my equal, and her skills in anything is left to her own being, not because she's a woman. If I start talking in a "stereotypical" voice, I don't think all people that fall in that category talk like that. I grew up in international communities, and I'm the last person to treat someone differently because of what category they fall in. A joke is a joke, not an insult. And if anyone treats it as one, that's their fault, and their problem.
