Iv'e been wanting to make this thread for a while out of curiosity . I was talking to my mother yesterday and she said that children these days are not disciplined at all . Which made me think about how she and my father disciplined me as a child . My parents were pretty strict growing up and i got punished a lot ( especially as a child ).
So my question to you guys is:
How were you disciplined ( punished for doing something bad/wrong) as a child, and how effective do you think that method was for you .
As a bonus question i would like to know , as an adult now , do you agree with the way your parents disciplined you , and would/do you use the same method on your children?
As for me, the main method of punishment was spankings . My parents are from the caribbean ,barbados to be exact . Spanking were the way they got disciplined and they used the same method on me . It was usually my mother that did the spanking unless it was something very serious ( usually school related ) then my father was the one to take care of it . It was always bare assed , and with a belt . The average amount of lashes i got was 3 . Unless i tried to avoid a hit ( or put my hand to block it), that earned me more lashes . Pull down your pants , bend over and don't flinch . I was usually sent to my room afterwards for about an hour to reflect on what i did .
I have to admit , it was a VERY effective way to discipline me . Because i never did the same thing twice , because i knew the consequences and i didn't want to get spanked . By 8 years old i was straight as an arrow . I never got in trouble for anything after that. Even as a teenager , i never did anything that would warrant my parents punishing me in any way . I always followed the rules for everything. I'm 24 years old now , and have never been in any sort or trouble at school , at work , with the police , nothing . I always try to do what i believe is right . I guess that means they did their job as parents propely.
However , i'm not sure if i would used that same method on my child . My parents conditionned me to be docile , and i don't think i could discipline a child that way . I also do not want to have children for this very reason . I am sure i would make a terrible father , and would let my kid get away with anything without any severe punishment .
Your turn.
So my question to you guys is:
How were you disciplined ( punished for doing something bad/wrong) as a child, and how effective do you think that method was for you .
As a bonus question i would like to know , as an adult now , do you agree with the way your parents disciplined you , and would/do you use the same method on your children?
As for me, the main method of punishment was spankings . My parents are from the caribbean ,barbados to be exact . Spanking were the way they got disciplined and they used the same method on me . It was usually my mother that did the spanking unless it was something very serious ( usually school related ) then my father was the one to take care of it . It was always bare assed , and with a belt . The average amount of lashes i got was 3 . Unless i tried to avoid a hit ( or put my hand to block it), that earned me more lashes . Pull down your pants , bend over and don't flinch . I was usually sent to my room afterwards for about an hour to reflect on what i did .
I have to admit , it was a VERY effective way to discipline me . Because i never did the same thing twice , because i knew the consequences and i didn't want to get spanked . By 8 years old i was straight as an arrow . I never got in trouble for anything after that. Even as a teenager , i never did anything that would warrant my parents punishing me in any way . I always followed the rules for everything. I'm 24 years old now , and have never been in any sort or trouble at school , at work , with the police , nothing . I always try to do what i believe is right . I guess that means they did their job as parents propely.
However , i'm not sure if i would used that same method on my child . My parents conditionned me to be docile , and i don't think i could discipline a child that way . I also do not want to have children for this very reason . I am sure i would make a terrible father , and would let my kid get away with anything without any severe punishment .
Your turn.