I suggest you look around for a roleplaying game you might actually enjoy first. Not to say I know what you'd enjoy but there are a lot of different roleplaying games out there, not all of which follow the dumbed down simplistic gaming style of dungeons and dragons where you play one of a few races with one of a few classes that punishes you for doing anything but the standard. Sure there's roleplaying aspect, but then why do I have to even put up with the rules system if I'm there to roleplay? So I found a game whos rules actually lend to roleplaying instead of going against it's grain. Give GURPS a look up. It gives me a lot more room for designing exactly what kind of character I want to play without bogging me down with useless gaming constructs you'd normally find in an MMO. Leveling, Class, Race...what is stopping that mage from wearing armor? What's stopping that Knight from picking a lock? Honestly. "The knight doesn't have dexterous fingers" or some nonsense? So it takes no finesse to wield a sword now...Reasons I avoided Dungeons and Dragons all together.
I typically play in the living room of my friends house or the local game shop. The only basement I've ever played in was a really nice basement with a TV, bar, fridge, table-hockey, was well lit and well air conditioned. We all bathe regularly too and for the most part enjoy our significant others with varying frequency.
Gamer chicks are also 50/50 in my area.
DND is only the most popular because it has the most advertisement, so it tends to be the first game anyone plays. And once you've commited time and money into one thing you tend not to move away from it, and since you pretty much NEED every book and the gaming culture involved tends to believe that its not a DND game unless the GM has all the books, that tends to be a LOT of time and money. Sad thing since dungeons and dragons took [x] editions (yeah right just four...) to finally get around to doing what other games could do in their first. With Gurps I only need two books to run and play a game, the other books just help me along and save me time.