How do you get over someone?

[Sonofadiddly]

I would suggest that you ignore the people who say that it isn't a big deal, because if you feel this bad, it is a big deal. It's a big deal to you. Trying to pretend it doesn't affect you or convince yourself that it doesn't matter will only make you feel worse.

Other than that everyone else is right, time heals. If you can, try and figure out what it was about this girl that you loved so much and why you loved this about her. Is there some issue or fear you have that is involved here? Think about where this issue came from and try to think of the relationship and the breakup as a learning experience. After this, it will be a lot easier to get over the whole thing. After this, distractions are helpful. Get a hobby, hang out with friends.

Oh, one thing that helped me a lot was going onto Craigslist to the missed connections and reading about other people's problems. Knowing that you're not alone does wonders.

 

[Fawcks]

Gah, falling in love with people without being in a relationship.

I was engaged and dating her for almost a year before she left me broken and useless. -Gets out the booze-

 

[Togs]

I was in a similar position to you OP, I fell head over heels for a friend of mine and told her so, which she didnt appreciate- I was in turmoil for a long length of time before getting over her, my advice? dont put her on a pedestal as she isnt perfect, NOONE IS- the sooner you realise that the easier it will get.
Also, cut her out of your life, have next to no contact with her and keep yourself distracted with whatever you can, pick up a hobby, something youve always wanted to do and devote yourself to it, preferably something physical or not requiring large amounts of thought like a sport or something.
Also, dont sit in your room and stew over it, not only is it unhelpful its very unhealthy- as a good friend once told me unrequited love is a perversion- by now your feelings for her resemble nothing like their original form- in my case id formed an overly romanticized fantasy of her that was vastly inaccurate.

Also, it seems bad now but trust me when I say theres life beyond this, and when you do get to ther other side your gonna be a stronger person for it- as the old saying goes never trust a man who hasnt had his heart broken.

 

[MarkDavis94]

Its happened to us all, I had a girl arse about with me and it hurt, and I was upset about it, but I decided if she was going to be like that then she doesn't deserve my time. Just got to keep your chin up, be positive and let it go

 

[New Troll]

The only way to get over someone is to find someone new.

My problem is I fell in love with a pregnant woman, who's son I claimed as my own. I even named him and was there in the delivery room, something I wasn't able to do with even my own son. So when she abrubtly left, I didn't just lose the love of my life, I lost my entire family. Since her I have found other women to replace her somewhat, but even having a new son, my first son will always be a major part of me, even if I never get to see him again.