How do you handle death?

[Tales of Golden Sun]

My father died when I was eight, which was really difficult for me and my sister to handle.
We went to see some woman that would help me and my sister to move on, and that really helped.

But because a lot of my family members have died in recent years (5), the passing away of family members has almost become a natural thing for me.

I cry, pay my respects, and move on.

 

[wewontdie11]

I either don't react at all or make incredibly inappropriate jokes. It doesn't seem to phase me given the correct mental preparation.

 

[Space Spoons]

I make jokes. When my dad died, I realized how much it hurt to really break down and cry, and how much worse it was to see your family members suffering through the same. I didn't like the way it felt, so I decided I'd make people laugh instead.

 

[Phoenix Arrow]

Noone that close to me has died. I know how I'd deal with it though, I'd act like it never happened and deny my emotions until I had a total breakdown. I've done it before with other things.

 

[cleverlymadeup]

i have friends that die all the time, i don't really cry or anything. i just say "well they died, they were nice" and then move on

 

[egwidalin]

I think "Better them than me" Then just forget about it.

you are a terrible person...

I have only had one death, and it was my grandmother who lived with me. i cried a whole ton because i was there when she passed, but at the funeral just full of grief.

 

[Sneaky-Pie]

Even though I'm a very optimistic person, I also have issues with depression. I will become withdrawn and isolated, and though I'm not one to just openly cry, I am a leaky faucet ready to burst at any moment. I'm generally okay as long as there's nothing else messing with my emotions.

Wow. I'm just about identical to your description.

High five?

 

[bradley348]

You know,the person only died because you were too weak to handle death!

personally, i use a SPAS 12 shotgun, now thats just me, some people prefer the classic AK 47 to hold death off.

Now, you may think that death's weak spot is his head, but when the grim reaper comes calling, a shotgun blast to the legs is generally the best move, reducing him to.... CRAWLING pace (AHAHAHA)

If it really comes down to it, find another body to offer up. Death likes them in the 5-10 age range for some reason, and he likes them to be asian males.

I wonder why?...

 

[LewsTherin]

With a hazmat suit lots of talking, usually crying, and brooding thought.

 

[GamerPhate]

Do you know what stoicism is? It is bearing the pain of the world with a blah look upon your face. Most guys don't cry or admit to it at least, lest they look like little school girls and get teased on the playground. That being said, it is quite healthy to let it all out sometimes. But if you are feeling a deep gut pain, then you are effected by it. If you don't feel like you need to cry, don't, just talk to someone you know and trust, and maybe they can help you sort it all out. (I don't know if you personally know or should trust anyone on here as your mending crutch, but eh worth a shot though right?)

Also, you said you weren't as close to this family member, so it wouldn't make sense for you to break down balling over it. But some people or more sensitive or empathetic than others. Now in my case, I just lost my mom a few months ago, and although I am not physically sad over it anymore, as I know theres not a damn thing I can do, every day I reply imagages of her passing in my head. Makes it kind of hard to sleep as you can imagine... but time is the healer of all wounds. Oh yeah, and I got layed off from work while she was dying and am still off work... horray. So yeah, I don't know what else to tell you other than this:

Dying is easy.. is the living part that is hard.

Especially living with someone that has died.. i don't think there is a worse pain (short of breakups when you're both throwing $hit so hard it embeds in the Sheetrock)

 

[mangus]

Blinding indifference. Especially when it's someone I don't know. To get emotional over the death of someone you don't know is to devalue their life.

I should mention that my reaction is not "urgh, I'm too tough to cry" it's more that I accept that people die. Studies have shown.

 

[Guitarmasterx7]

I generally stop moving and then hit rigor mortis a few minutes later.

 

[smithy1234]

It really depends on who actually died and how close they were to you.

 

[la-le-lu-li-lo]

Well, I've only ever had one death in the family. I didn't cry when I heard she died, but I got pretty misty-eyed and depressed when I started thinking about how my grandfather was alone now in his big empty house. And how my younger niece must feel.

And more than anything, I felt guilty. Most of my family lives in South Africa, and I live in America, so I don't get to see them very often. I felt guilty for not having visited her one last time before she passed. She'd been sick for a while...

Then I saw the video from her funeral. They buried her out in the middle of nowhere, I don't even think she has a tombstone. But my whole family made it out there... Except for me. Seeing the people who work for my family singing in Afrikaans, while my grandfather stood off alone to the side kinda killed me a little.

Seeing her grave will make it seem more real than it does to me now, so I suppose I can't give you a decent answer until then...

 

[Some bullets]

People cope with death in different ways mine is to numb and deal with it when it isn't as fresh in the mind. It hurts but it should it just makes you human.

 

[Gooble]

I'm pretty comfortable with death-it's an inevitability, and a lot easier to deal with if it's been expected.

I personally have been to four funerals so far, my Grandma, who had recently fallen down some stairs, was OK-ish in hospital but I had thought that she could die, and she had a series of massive heart attacks-I cried for a few minutes, but then was OK; my Grandad, who had been in hospital for a good while with various ailments, and I'm sad to say I can't actually remember when it happened; my other Grandad, who at the start of the week we found out he had lung cancer, during the week I had a good cry about the fact that I knew he didn't have that long left, and he ended up dying at the end of the week of a heart attack; and my old boss (he was cool), who had some really rare form of cancer and was only 34 :S

Funerals are the worst though, I cry my eyes out at those.

 

[TwistedEllipses]

I cry intensely for an hour. Then I go emotionally distant.

 

[Chartic]

I'm like you, I can't really express feelings well.

 

[sms_117b]

Very, very badly

 

[Cmrl91]

Not to sound like an unemotional douche, but in the span of 2 years i lost My grandmother, My Father, My cousin, And nearly my older brother. So honestly when confronted with death i put up a stone wall of emotion where im not depressed, weeping, mourning, nothing. Just slate,I care but I cant show it. I thinks its because of the shock my mind went through in those 2 years.