How do you know when you love someone?
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Or your Diablo/Dark Souls/any-long-investment-RPG account.Lawrence Salcido said:
OT: Not the slightest clue. I'm going to assume I've never been 'in love' (I'd probably know if I was), but I think it is just a vague term people use when they have an intense emotional/physical/social attraction to someone, and it can manifest as selfishness (Jealousy, possessiveness), selflessness (putting them first), shared experience (you work together for whatever benefits 'the couple' the most), or some combination thereof.
Also sex, people seem to like having sex with people they care about.
But yeah, it seems to be somewhat vague, and even when the experience is the same, the responses it provokes are different between individuals and couples.
It's the ability to sacrifice and know that'll pan it out for you. It's a mutual understanding of each other and your problems. It's sitting down and her wanting to play sonic with you. It's heving your ex call at 2 in the morning bawling about some guy. It's then later letting your girlfriend know and have her think your so sweet. Love simply is being two people willing to share everything with each other, and understanding that you both need to bear some burdens alone. Love is being each others best friend and learinng to live with the other in the background. Love is going all in, no resentment.
For me, love is when you don't care how much you have sex anymore you're just happy to be with them.
Love is when you wake up look at that person and be perfectly satisfied waking up next to them for the rest of your life.
Love is when sleeping in your own bed alone is hard because that other person isn't there.
Love is when you say "i love you" and mean it. You aren't saying it to get laid or get what you want or get out of trouble, you are saying it because you deeply and truly feel that way.
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Love is when your signifcant other can walk into a room you are masturbating in not bat an eye, go get what they wanted out of the closet and walk out without a word. And you don't stop fapping... Oh wait is that just me?
Love is when you wake up look at that person and be perfectly satisfied waking up next to them for the rest of your life.
Love is when sleeping in your own bed alone is hard because that other person isn't there.
Love is when you say "i love you" and mean it. You aren't saying it to get laid or get what you want or get out of trouble, you are saying it because you deeply and truly feel that way.
---end serious part---
Love is when your signifcant other can walk into a room you are masturbating in not bat an eye, go get what they wanted out of the closet and walk out without a word. And you don't stop fapping... Oh wait is that just me?
I realized I love my girlfriend when I learned about Sternberg's Triangular Theory of Love in one of my psychology courses and realized that my feelings for her matched all of the requirements for consummate love (intimacy, passion, commitment).
Here's the Wikipedia page for the theory: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sternberg_Love_triangle
Here's the Wikipedia page for the theory: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sternberg_Love_triangle
If you have a situation yourself, use this as a test:latenightapplepie said:
If you really want to call him/her to spend time with them, and feel like you want this more than anything else, don't call. Instead, jerk off.
Now ask yourself again if you want to call. Yes? Maybe it's love. No? Might just be physical attraction.
For me it was a feeling I experienced that was unique to that person. We held a connection that we could tell how we feel without words through text message as well as in person.
You forget about your problems when in the presence of this person, and you smile at the thought of them when you're away. You stop thinking about yourself and your needs, and focus on making them happy, because that's what you truly want.
Someone with whom you can be yourself, where nothing feels forced and progresses naturally on both sides.
You forget about your problems when in the presence of this person, and you smile at the thought of them when you're away. You stop thinking about yourself and your needs, and focus on making them happy, because that's what you truly want.
Someone with whom you can be yourself, where nothing feels forced and progresses naturally on both sides.
When you care about them for who they are.
When you think about them all day and night, unable to stop even if you try.
When you admire someone from afar but get nervous when talking face to face.
When you want them to accompany you through whatever life may throw at either of you.
When you can spend hours staring off into space wishing they where near you.
When you're happiness becomes a secondary concern to their's.
When you don't want to change a thing about them.
When you're willing to do anything to see them smile.
When you feel like you can tell them anything.
When you dream about them in a non-sexual way.
and for me
When you no longer care what society thinks of you for feeling this way, and gender ceases to be.
When you think about them all day and night, unable to stop even if you try.
When you admire someone from afar but get nervous when talking face to face.
When you want them to accompany you through whatever life may throw at either of you.
When you can spend hours staring off into space wishing they where near you.
When you're happiness becomes a secondary concern to their's.
When you don't want to change a thing about them.
When you're willing to do anything to see them smile.
When you feel like you can tell them anything.
When you dream about them in a non-sexual way.
and for me
When you no longer care what society thinks of you for feeling this way, and gender ceases to be.
Inb4 some miserable sod leaves an emo comment and- Damn too late.
I'd say it's different for everyone else, and if I tried explaining it someone will say I'm wrong or whatever.
My boyfriend left me for a night and I didn't sleep a wink because I need him next to me. Even when we argued a few weeks back, he went to sleep on the couch and I told him to stay with me. The thought of him leaving me just terrifies me, so much so I'd try avoid arguments even if it's him in the wrong.
I didn't feel like this with my ex; I was with him for 2 years and it got to the point where I was making excuses so I only had to see him once a month. I was just staying with him out of comfort.
I'd say it's different for everyone else, and if I tried explaining it someone will say I'm wrong or whatever.
My boyfriend left me for a night and I didn't sleep a wink because I need him next to me. Even when we argued a few weeks back, he went to sleep on the couch and I told him to stay with me. The thought of him leaving me just terrifies me, so much so I'd try avoid arguments even if it's him in the wrong.
I didn't feel like this with my ex; I was with him for 2 years and it got to the point where I was making excuses so I only had to see him once a month. I was just staying with him out of comfort.
Ummmm....It's...not easy to describe. It's one of those things you have to experience for yourself to understand how it feels.
The closest I can describe is this. Just being with them makes you happy. Holding them close makes all your worries go away. When you feel like they are an extension of yourself.
The closest I can describe is this. Just being with them makes you happy. Holding them close makes all your worries go away. When you feel like they are an extension of yourself.
Or at least, they all become tolerable, and they don't sound so vague and weird anymore.illas said: