How do you know?

[DemonicVixen]

Someone did a thread on cheating the other day. Upon reading through the posts i could not find what i needed to hear.

As some on this site are aware i am currently in a relationship with another member. He says he loves me and i know i love him. Trouble is i have been raised by my single mother who says all lads are scum. She had her heart broken many times and now chooses to be single.
I hate being paranoid but how do i know he does love me? How can i tell if he is genuine and not just using me for sex (of which we have not done just incase). I find myself often scared of being hurt by him. When he is not online or answering the phone i wonder what he is doing. I am scared to sleep with him incase he runs afterwards.

Can someone help me understand how to tell if he loves me? Or if my fears are being confirmed...

 

[Ciarang]

Unless you want to end up marrying him you're going to break up and get hurt.
And I seriously doubt you're going to marry him.

[small]Jeebus, so much drama.[/small]

 

[Amnestic]

Thanks to my incredible mind reading powers to discern not only who your boyfriend is out of the 6.x billion people on this planet, but also to discover his intentions I have discovered that yes, he loves you from the bottom of his heart and wishes for nothing more than to spend the rest of his life with you.

S'true.

 

[Gigaguy64]

oh god the relationship drama it is strangling me hurlblghr

Can someone help me understand how to tell if he loves me?

No.
We've never met him (presumably.)
If you were to say "He's being a jerk" we could say "HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU" but for all we know, he's always like that, and that's just how he expresses his twu wuv for you.

Chances are he doesn't really love you because you're both kids and most kids are too busy being ruled by hormones to actually feel genuine love.

Most, not all.
Chances are even better that he's not the one you'll end up with.

And you just have to learn to live with the fact that you're going to get hurt.
'Cause it will happen.
And then you'll meet someone new!
And you'll think they're really neat.
And then it'll happen again.

That's just life.

This.
And you shouldent let what your mother thinks about men effect how you feel.
You will get hurt eventualy but you can and will move on.
And you should talk to him about how you feel, trust is a major thing in a relationship.
If he trusts you then you need to trust him.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

Why don't you come to that part when/if it occurs? You'll feel much better about it.

 

[SultanP]

Max speaks the truth. When it comes to love there is no way to be safe or certain of anything. But that's how that particular game works. You put yourself out there, and if you're lucky you hit the jackpot big time, and if you're not it'll leave you devastated. Only thing to do is to decide with yourself whether you want to give it a try or not. You can decide you don't want to be vulnerable and not open yourself up and play it safe, but that doesn't help anyone.

 

[ArcWinter]

You seem insecure. This is bad. Try not being insecure, you will be happier.

Insecure people actually are less lovable than normal people.

 

[RagingMetrosexual]

Seeing as he's a member of the escapist, isn't there a fairly good chance he'll read this?

Awkward!

 

[Peanut Butter]

If you loved him as much as you think you do then you wouldn't feel the doubt or uncertainty you have now.

 

[Woodsey]

Damn, a girl; I can't give my usual answer. Well, I could... It would be a little odd though.

 

[Smudge91]

Hmmm today my teleopathic powers arn't working although i have a really good idea, if he is being a arse then probably no but if he isn't then yes he loves you.
edit: just to let the OP know, this is a gaming forum so theres a high possibility of silly answers to your questions and some cranky people from the flood of relationship's threads recently.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Oh Look, you're 18.

[small](I know some people really od find their soul mates at a young age. But I think its redonculus)[/small]

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

Thanks to my incredible mind reading powers to discern not only who your boyfriend is out of the 6.x billion people on this planet, but also to discover his intentions I have discovered that yes, he loves you from the bottom of his heart and wishes for nothing more than to spend the rest of his life with you.

S'true.

Oh Amnestic, how I do love to read your replies.

OT: I'd say you have some real trust issues. If he's given you no real reason to suspect him of dicking about behind your back, then just roll with it. And sometimes, you really just do have to ignore your parents. This is one of those cases.

 

[ItsAChiaotzu]

He doesn't, you're too young, you don't either, as soon as you find someone better you'll just move on, you're way too young to actually believe that you will stay with this guy.

(Definitely not a cynic)

 

[Nickolai77]

OT: I'd say you have some real trust issues. If he's given you no real reason to suspect him of dicking about behind your back, then just roll with it. And sometimes, you really just do have to ignore your parents. This is one of those cases.

This here is truth^ Read it OP.


Chances are you more likely than not that you and you bf will split, so you may as well enjoy the ride while you can. If he is currently doing nothing wrong, then roll with it. If he starts doing wrong, whatever that may be, then think about about dumping him. Relationship's can be very painful and upsetting, just look at your mother. However, if you learn from your experiences, then you can have no regrets. Good luck.

 

[Amnestic]

How many people in this thread can read minds? What, no one except me? That's what I thought.

These two are meant for each other, and you people are so wrapped up in your own self-loathing and lack of intimacy that when you see a couple which is actually right for each other, you can't help but try to pull them apart.

You should all be ashamed. I'm calling each of your parents to tell them to give you a stern talking to.

 

[jthm]

Guys, this is a cry for attention. She's looking for his response because she's insecure (being raised by someone who can't trust, for whatever reason, will do that).

Here's a tip: Have sex if you enjoy it too. Be safe about it, but by all means, go nuts on him if you want to. If you don't, or you "just want to wait", keep in mind that at your age hormones make all sorts of demands on a young man. I'm not saying he'll cheat on you if you don't lay him, but he will be a lot more tempted.

Personally, I don't continue to date a girl who won't have sex after two months. I think that's enough time to decide if you trust and care about someone. A relationship without sex is a friendship.

 

[Vanguard_Ex]

OT: I'd say you have some real trust issues. If he's given you no real reason to suspect him of dicking about behind your back, then just roll with it. And sometimes, you really just do have to ignore your parents. This is one of those cases.

This here is truth^ Read it OP.


Chances are you more likely than not that you and you bf will split, so you may as well enjoy the ride while you can. If he is currently doing nothing wrong, then roll with it. If he starts doing wrong, whatever that may be, then think about about dumping him. Relationship's can be very painful and upsetting, just look at your mother. However, if you learn from your experiences, then you can have no regrets. Good luck.

Why thank you.
Look at this OP, you've got a double truther right here ^^^ Read-y read-y.

How many people in this thread can read minds? What, no one except me? That's what I thought.

These two are meant for each other, and you people are so wrapped up in your own self-loathing and lack of intimacy that when you see a couple which is actually right for each other, you can't help but try to pull them apart.

You should all be ashamed. I'm calling each of your parents to tell them to give you a stern talking to.

But but but I helped D:

 

[DemonicVixen]

Thanks to my incredible mind reading powers to discern not only who your boyfriend is out of the 6.x billion people on this planet, but also to discover his intentions I have discovered that yes, he loves you from the bottom of his heart and wishes for nothing more than to spend the rest of his life with you.

S'true.

scary coz thats what he says to me often. We already have planned about our wedding, kids, moving in together... You name it, its planned already in 2months. If you check my profile you will notice whom it is (almightywabbit for those who can't be bothered or choose not to check lol).

But thanks for making me feel better

 

[Amnestic]

But thanks for making me feel better

You're welcome, ignore all the nay-sayers. They're just stuck in a rut because they wish they were in a relationship of their own.