I am a sensitive man.

[Rock-nerd]

So, i'm a guy, but my problem is that i'm too sensitive. I just get so emotional and sad about what might just anger or not bother some people. For example, i hate when my teachers yell at me or lecturing the whole class, i feel reduced to nothing when people think badly of me or are angry with me. It just makes me want to cry.

And i do get visibly upset in public sometimes, i'm not someone who can hold everything in until i get home, it's so hard not to do it then and there.
What enrages me most is that people who don't have this don't understand, they always say "Get a grip" or "Man up" or "Chill out" i can't. Since when was it so bad to show your emotions?

 

[Doclector]

I used to be like that. Now I just get angry, and it's not really any better a way to deal with your problems, it's just that one response is more socially acceptable to come from a man.

Basically, there's no real rules I know of to controlling your emotions, but there's no "wrong" response to have. In that situation you will feel negative emotions, and none are any better than the others.

 

[Zerstiren]

I feel, from what you've said, you're okay. People will find their place in the world, one way or another. The only thing you can do, is not compound on it with conscious worrying. If you worry, you worry. If you cry, you cry.

 

[Xeraxis]

I'm guessing it became bad for men to show emotions because some random idiot said so and now every guy has to follow that ideology. Try your best to not let things get to you so much. To say the least, there's nothing wrong with expressing such emotions sometimes (but not too often), and it's better than acting like a robot. Overall, I'd say anybody that judges you in that kind of situation otherwise can go damn themselves.

 

[Phasmal]

Absolutely nothing wrong with sensitve men at all.

Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it if I were you. There's no reason to pay attention to societal expectations.
It might suck to feel that people are judging you for it but it's better to just be who you are.

EDIT: Also, I don't know if you want advice about this but- when I don't wanna cry and I feel like crying I find it helps to distract your mind. (Personally I try to remember all the lyrics of a random song).

 

[Lunatic High]

Whenever someone's emotional responses make others uncomfortable is pretty much when its considered wrong or even not expressing them an bottling them up is considered creepy, and resentful, theres really no such thing as absolute victory when it comes to how you act around people. I woulddn't worry about it though if they don't like it thats they're weakness not yours I always say "don't piss me off I'm sensetive" makes people laugh.

 

[theLadyBugg]

While I absolutely agree that you have nothing to be ashamed of for having feelings, there is a reason people tell you (and often me) to "Chill out" or "get a grip." It's because there is a time and place for certain emotional reactions. For example, when a teacher yells at you or the class during class time, it's inappropriate to cry not because you're a guy, but because you're in class. Some people naturally tend to laugh in high-stress situations, but it's not okay to dissolve into giggles while listening to a heartfelt eulogy.

It's probably a good idea to work on emotional control. It's something I struggle with all the time, but the truth is letting every emotional reaction happen as strongly and immediately as we want to eats up a lot of our time, and can really throw off the people around us. Yes, we want our feelings to be respected, but in order to maintain that respect, we need to also be respectful of others.

 

[White Lightning]

What is the meaning of heresy?! You can't put the words "sensitive" and "man" beside each other!

But seriously it's not a big deal. If people make fun of you for it just ignore them because they obivously aren't worth listening too. As long as you don't break down into tears if a small child bumps into you and you drop your Ice Cream you're fine.

 

[JimB]

Since when was it so bad to show your emotions?

It's...not really a new thing. The display of emotion in men and women alike has been considered a sign of weakness forprettymuchever...well, depending on the part of the world you're from, anyway. White Americans try very hard to be stoic, but Latino Americans are socially allowed to get away with a lot more, for example.

 

[Eclipse Dragon]

You live in a society in which people expect a man to not cry (at least in public), however, it's completely normal to feel the way you do, and you shouldn't be ashamed of it, if you're flipping out over tiny little things (like the above mentioned ice cream cone example) that might hint at some bigger issue you might not be aware of.

In your lecturing example, you're perfectly justified in feeling upset for being singled out in front of the whole class, that would certainly upset me.

Also if it makes you feel better, in my personal opinion, guys who are more in-tuned with their emotional side are much more attractive. I don't typically go for the "manly man macho" types.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

It really depends how bad it is. Are you like poser emo goth my life is pain and I cut myself at night? Because thats too much and not many women will put up with that.

If your just letting your emotions be what they are thats fine as long as you maintain a certain level of control to get through your day. Remember, emotions by themselves are fine and healthy, but if they hurt your ability to get out of the situation that is making you sad to begin with then you have a problem.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

So, i'm a guy, but my problem is that i'm too sensitive. I just get so emotional and sad about what might just anger or not bother some people. For example, i hate when my teachers yell at me or lecturing the whole class, i feel reduced to nothing when people think badly of me or are angry with me. It just makes me want to cry.

And i do get visibly upset in public sometimes, i'm not someone who can hold everything in until i get home, it's so hard not to do it then and there.
What enrages me most is that people who don't have this don't understand, they always say "Get a grip" or "Man up" or "Chill out" i can't. Since when was it so bad to show your emotions?

I think I'm the same (if what I'm getting from this is what happens to me)


I find when people yell at me I start to cry, probably something to do with my child hood. People yelled at me a lot through my life (mainly cause I was a demon child what with my ADD and ADHD) and I just get really upset when people yell at me.

 

[SpectacularWebHead]

So, i'm a guy, but my problem is that i'm too sensitive. I just get so emotional and sad about what might just anger or not bother some people. For example, i hate when my teachers yell at me or lecturing the whole class, i feel reduced to nothing when people think badly of me or are angry with me. It just makes me want to cry.

And i do get visibly upset in public sometimes, i'm not someone who can hold everything in until i get home, it's so hard not to do it then and there.
What enrages me most is that people who don't have this don't understand, they always say "Get a grip" or "Man up" or "Chill out" i can't. Since when was it so bad to show your emotions?

Dude, Speaking as someone who is every awkward social stereotype, suffers MOST social anxiety disorders, and someone who because of this gets emotional in public alot, all I can suggest to you is that you don't take to heart other peoples opinions of you so heavily. If you stop worrying what other people think of you, Most of your other issues will go away.

I realise this is not something that will occur overnight, but try to work on it. It'll help.

EDIT: If all else fails, lets hug it out. Hell, hug it out with someone. It really doesn't matter who, or what.