I am not even sure how to react to this..

[Odbarc]

Drag her to bed and teach her she's wrong.

 

[Lavi]

Anger, she just insinuated that you can only like what you like because you are gay (using it to refer to the various ideas about what being gay entails and not necessarily that she insinuated that orientation). That is basically shoving you into a box of society's that she also subscribes to. I would not be amused at all.

 

[Biodeamon]

I actually kind of know how you feel...
i think of other things first before finding a girlfriend and people always ask me if i`m gay some time or another. it`s a bit annoying.

In your situation though i would probably just laugh it off then take a stern expression and say no i`m not. And then i`d ask her what her reaction would be if i said yes, if she answers wrong i dump her outright.

 

[CleverCover]

Perhaps she was asking hopefully...like "hey, you sure you don't want to get another dude in on this action?"

Oh God. It's this. It's totally this.
She wants a threesome!

 

[nunqual]

So... I talked to her about it, and it seems to me that she has some very.. skewed views on bisexuality. She doesn't understand that I would still be in the relationship if I was bisexual.. This is becoming a rather stupid ordeal. I'm not bisexual, I don't really know why I'm discussing hypotheticals with her.

 

[Belated]

Thinking about it though, it was kind of horrible. Not only was she questioning my sexuality (which she, of all people, should be pretty sure about), she was basing it on some truly awful stereotypes.

If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, quacks like a duck, it's probably a duck. She's not in the wrong for thinking something is exactly what it looks like it is. When I open the door to a thing with four wheels, four seats, and an ignition, and climb in, I'm well within my rights to assume that what I'm about to sit in is indeed a car, and not the mouth of a giant silver space whale. When I pick up a black rectangular object with a bunch of buttons including a red one that reads "Power", I generally expect that black object to indeed turn on my TV because that's generally what a remote looks like.

And no, you shouldn't get mad at her. Not only because her assumption was at least a little bit fair, but because she was under the influence of an alarmist TV program at the time. Stuff like that can make a person paranoid. She probably didn't actually believe you could be bisexual. She just wanted to confirm you weren't. Just to be 100% sure. Because if she didn't ask you, that tiny doubt in her head would be gnawing at her brain for months. She probably even felt guilty for asking you, but she just had to. Basically, she couldn't not ask.

And some stereotypes really aren't that "horrible". A lot of gay people really do love fashion and other feminine things. If you had also said you like theater a lot and wanted to be an interior decorator, I'd probably think you were in denial. Stereotypes often really are based on truth, and come from observing a pattern. Because there's often a logical reason why certain stereotypes are true. And while not all gay people are into feminine things, those stereotypes certainly weren't pulled out of thin air.

EDIT: So you say she's got skewed views about bisexuals? I don't suppose she watches the show "Glee", does she? For all the good in that show, you may be surprised to learn that Glee is biphobic. There are two bisexual girls in that show, both of which are depicted as slutty and easy and willing to use sex to get what they want. The writer himself is biphobic. So in spite of "Glee" seemingly representing and condoning every single minority on earth, bisexuality is the one thing it's secretly insulting. Oh, and chicks totally love this show.

Glee, something else, wherever your girl is getting skewed ideas about bisexuals, you should probably try to clear her mind from those ideas. In fact, this bein' the case, just listen to this guy [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.299096-I-am-not-even-sure-how-to-react-to-this?page=2#11881688].

 

[Dr. Feelgood]

Remind her that she got the idea from a tv show, then ask if she still feels the same way.

 

[Hawgh]

I gotta say, bemusement at the quaint prejudices of random tv people seems a decent approach.

 

[rmb1983]

First reaction (and really, all that's necessary):

Not only because her assumption was at least a little bit unfair,

Fixed.

In all seriousness, here, cooking and baking really have little to do with the stereotyping. I happen to enjoy cooking and baking, as well. Granted that I am a chef, so it tends to come with the territory, but it's not uncommon. Especially given that it's a male-dominated industry, so regardless of whether it's your trade or not, it's something men are drawn to.
"Fashion", on the other hand, seems to be lacking context. Looking/dressing/etc well and taking care of your physical appearance is hardly something that would imply anything. Being a fashion diva, though, tends to summon up the stereotypes.

At any rate, stereotypes are bad, mm'kay?

 

[Da Orky Man]

How would you react if you were in my place? What do you think about my situation?

That does sound a bit awkward. I occasionally get mistaken for being gay because I like cooking, and have the dry wit that people associate with gays. Even more awkward was when my mum asked me about any girls I were interested in, then said the same about guys.

Anyway, I would probably just laugh it off. Tell her that you're not bisexual, and that the cooking and fashion is just a bonus.

Or ask her the same question.

 

[freakydan]

I can't remember who said it, but some celebrity once said "Women used to assume I was gay. I'd let them. After all, women always want to be the one who converted the gay guy..."

Use this situation to your advantage, young man. This could turn out to be quite the beautiful opportunity.

 

[MaxwellEdison]

I've had similar issues where TV shows colored my girlfriend's perception of things. After she found my handcuffs, I let her know that I was sorta into being a sub. Now, she watches Desperate Housewives, so her only experience with that subject was a character who likes to be literally walked on and cheated on his wife to get this. So, yeah, screw TV.

OT: Shrug it off. Just chat with her about it, tell her you're not into men, and remind her that even if you were bi, you would not then be more likely to cheat on her.

 

[Not-here-anymore]

I'm expecting to be challenged on that point pretty much any day now, really.
Apparently my girlfriend doesn't automatically associate campness with homo/bisexuality, though.
If asked though? I'd probably just laugh it off, assure her I'm not, and then...

There may be a point where if pressed I do have to admit to the fact that I got with a guy once in the past, but meh. No idea how she'd react to that. Well, she'd probably think it was cute or something.

 

[winter2]

I think the best thing to do is first to find out why she asked, then figure out how to react from that. Just tell her you are a little confused as to why she would even ask and you would like to know why.

 

[ZeroMachine]

I would have laughed, grabbed one of her boobs, and said "No, no, no, I'm straight as a whistle, silly" in the gayest voice possible, just to hilariously cause more confusion.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

Why would you let that get to you? If your girl knows she can shake you up with such an obvious throwaway question, she's going to judge you for it no matter how you decide to react. Besides, she's just another person, no matter how you feel about her; if she asks a question that you wouldn't take seriously from anybody else, the same amount of thought should go into dismissing it: none.

 

[Scipio1770]

buy a katana and hang it up in your room. that's worth at least 500 man points.

 

[The Night Shade]

Assure her that you are straight and that you have eyes only for her

 

[SIXVI06-M]

However, last night my girlfriend asked me if '[she]was ever going to have to worry that I was bisexual.' I was kind of stunned. I am not bisexual, I've never been attracted to any guys. I've never had any trouble with people thinking I'm not straight before, but the last person I expected to have suspicions was my girlfriend. Her reasoning was that I like baking and fashion. She said she had been watching some show called 'Happily Divorced.' (I've never seen the show, but apparently it's about a husband of 18 years who suddenly comes out as gay to his wife).

To tell the truth, it's more her problem to convince herself than yours - if your relationship is good and you two connect really well, then you won't need to convince her at all (and unfortunately, she wouldn't be having these odd suspicions).

If anything, don't turn it into a thing - because it sounds like your girlfriend is the type of person who is looking for an excuse to validate her own beliefs and opinions, you make a big deal of it, and you'll either come off as defensive or put on the spot about it as if you were uncomfortable with being 'exposed' (to you it is not like that, but to her it may be). Just be straight up and tell her what you honestly think and leave it at that - if she wants to keep digging, then well... that might help you make up your mind about her perhaps.

I'd hate to think how your girlfriend will be in time considering what other crap there is on TV - soon she'll be suspecting that you're a racist, a cheater, a misogynist, a black person, an asian, a vampire, etc. You'd think after a year, she would know you better than that.

Perhaps spend some more time with her maybe - and actually get to know each other better so no one makes any more assumptions about each other.

 

[Buizel91]

Perhaps she was asking hopefully...like "hey, you sure you don't want to get another dude in on this action?"

Oh God. It's this. It's totally this.
She wants a threesome!

This made me chuckle inside xD

I wouldn't get worked up about it, she'll just be curious, although i can see why you may be a lil angry/upset.

Nout to worry about bud least she still loves you =3

Also this works to...

I would have laughed, grabbed one of her boobs, and said "No, no, no, I'm straight as a whistle, silly" in the gayest voice possible, just to hilariously cause more confusion.