I can't do this anymore
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1. Ditch her
2. Go do something fun
3. ????
4. Profit!
No seriously. She's not worth it. Go do something fun, get over it eventually, however long it takes you. It won't happen overnight, no matter how many other idiots think "stop being a ***** grow a pair" is the proper answer. For now, happy birthday. Hope it kicks ass and you get more kick ass days. You'll live.
2. Go do something fun
3. ????
4. Profit!
No seriously. She's not worth it. Go do something fun, get over it eventually, however long it takes you. It won't happen overnight, no matter how many other idiots think "stop being a ***** grow a pair" is the proper answer. For now, happy birthday. Hope it kicks ass and you get more kick ass days. You'll live.
What you should do is (besides not talk, go near, or look at said girl) is go shotgunning. Grab a couple buddies, a lesson, and go shoot some clay. I don't know if you're against guns or w/e, but it is very theraputic. There's nothing like watching something explode after you shot at it. Did I mention it's fun?Lord Trilby said:
If you can't do that, go split some wood with an axe. If you can't do that, get some friends and play some video games.
I had problems with a redhead (I'm a sado-masochist, I know) that I genuinely thought was the one for me, but after a bit of downtime, and some great stress therapy involving shooting ranges, I found a girl who appeals to me in more ways than I thought possible.
I know it's hard, but just keep trudging forward, and eventually you'll stumble on somebody nearly perfect for you, and she'll make your life wonderfully miserable. Just remember, nobody's perfect so don't look for one.
I know it's hard, but just keep trudging forward, and eventually you'll stumble on somebody nearly perfect for you, and she'll make your life wonderfully miserable. Just remember, nobody's perfect so don't look for one.
You come off as a tool in that story and the ***** sounds like a tease. What you gotta do is get trashed vent all your broken heart feeling and found a new girl to plow (or have a relationship with if that's your bag).
I was in a relationship with someone recently that did some similar mind-fucking. After a year of being treated like shit and just generally putting up with her, I finally had to break up with her. It was my first serious relationship, so I guess that's why I put it off for so long. All my friend would tell me she was fucking crazy, I never listened. Stupid move. I'd hate for you to make the same mistake, even if the people telling you to not bother with her are strangers on a forum.
I JUST moved to a new city for college, so ending our year-long relationship and then moving somewhere where I knew NO ONE was probably a bad move, but to be honest I couldn't be happier. Here's some things to keep in mind to help you get over the post-relationship trauma.
Firstly, DO NOT stay in touch with her. AT ALL. At least until you've gotten over it. My ex got a new boyfriend before I had moved on completely, it drove me CRAZY, even though I wasn't talking to her. It's not worth being around.
Secondly, DO NOT regret anything. Even if you regret being with her after being treated like shit. DON'T. I don't regret a thing from my last relationship, realizing that made me a lot happier. Not because being/staying with her was the right move, but because it helped me grow as a person, and learn what kinds of things to avoid in a girl, and how not to let them walk all over you. Girls aren't attracted to wusses, so use this experience as a lesson rather than regretting it and learning nothing. Embrace what you've learned, accept that you have to change how you deal with girls, and work with it.
Lastly, friends. I just moved to this new city, and I knew nooobody. It sucked ass. I was lonely for a LONG time, and had nothing to comfort me. The only thing I thought about really was her, I had nothing distracting me. Luckily for you, you're still around home. If you hangout with your friends enough, even meet new people, eventually you'll start to realize there are more important things in life. MUCH more important things. My studies and my new friends have made life AWESOME, I haven't even bothered to seriously look for a new girl yet. I'm livin' the sweet life, and so should you.
Hope you can take this shit seriously. It's hard now. But believe me, NO girl is worth doing anything drastic over. As shitty as you feel now, you'll get better. And you'll meet someone worth being with, since now you know who and what to avoid.
I JUST moved to a new city for college, so ending our year-long relationship and then moving somewhere where I knew NO ONE was probably a bad move, but to be honest I couldn't be happier. Here's some things to keep in mind to help you get over the post-relationship trauma.
Firstly, DO NOT stay in touch with her. AT ALL. At least until you've gotten over it. My ex got a new boyfriend before I had moved on completely, it drove me CRAZY, even though I wasn't talking to her. It's not worth being around.
Secondly, DO NOT regret anything. Even if you regret being with her after being treated like shit. DON'T. I don't regret a thing from my last relationship, realizing that made me a lot happier. Not because being/staying with her was the right move, but because it helped me grow as a person, and learn what kinds of things to avoid in a girl, and how not to let them walk all over you. Girls aren't attracted to wusses, so use this experience as a lesson rather than regretting it and learning nothing. Embrace what you've learned, accept that you have to change how you deal with girls, and work with it.
Lastly, friends. I just moved to this new city, and I knew nooobody. It sucked ass. I was lonely for a LONG time, and had nothing to comfort me. The only thing I thought about really was her, I had nothing distracting me. Luckily for you, you're still around home. If you hangout with your friends enough, even meet new people, eventually you'll start to realize there are more important things in life. MUCH more important things. My studies and my new friends have made life AWESOME, I haven't even bothered to seriously look for a new girl yet. I'm livin' the sweet life, and so should you.
Hope you can take this shit seriously. It's hard now. But believe me, NO girl is worth doing anything drastic over. As shitty as you feel now, you'll get better. And you'll meet someone worth being with, since now you know who and what to avoid.
You really go out of your way to report people for what they say on an online foum? its not like i care but you need something better to do with your time. i might be an asshole here and there but you need a hobby.Firia said:
You sir, are awesome.chronobreak said:
I've only read the OP, but from what I've seen I think you need to get out of there. If she causes this much grief, it's time to get out. Get some sleep, pick yourself up and focus on something else, I recommend focusing on your studies.
hmm. i used to feel like that. with other problems going on at the time too. get urself a Massive RPG. like final fantasy, oblivion etc. and play it constantly. to be honest if you play FFX you will probably cry but sometimes its just good to let it out while you play if youre that upset. My lifes much much much better now. hope your feeling fine. also "stupid" posts like this are fine. sometimes theres just no one to talk to and pretty much everyone here is amazing
Hey, think of it this way: at least you had a relationship with a girl. Otherwise, this kind of drama happens to everyone (although not as intense). The best you can do is move on.
Look buddy,this is just what they do. Most girls,if put in a position of power by a guy obviously completely head over heels for them with treat him like shit unless the feeling is completely mutual. lets look at the evidence shall we. She breaks up with you 'for no reason'. oh man have i been there,but its not really for no reason,you think it is because your in love with her and dont see how anything could possibly go wrong,but the cold hard truth was she didnt like you as much as you liked her.
Now onto the the next point,she wanted to be friends.They always want to be friends and of course you obligue because you want her in your life and you want to believe theres a chance you can get back together. Ive learnt from experience that the best possible response to lets still be friends is(depending on how much of a ***** she is)either 'thats not a good idea i need time(like forever..)away from you' or,my personal favourite 'fuck you'. Ive experienced both your approach and my approach of a clean break.Mine works much better. You see the friends set up isnt actually to your benefit,its to hers. You cant get over her because your still talking and the longer her cock teasing goes on the more unhealthily bessoted you will become,and meanwhile shes got a little ***** to unload on emotinally whenever she wants. She can do whatever the fuck she wants to you,lead you on,make you apologize when youve done nothing wrong and of course just generally telling you about her stupid fucking problems,completely absorbed in the kind of enormous fucking self centred bubble than only a teenaged girl can inhabit.
Mate,ive been in your situation before,literally almost word for word your post,that happened to me.everything youve described ive been through.and i imagine a lot of other members on here have as well. please,stop trying to rationalise her actions,theres no logic behind her arguments youve just given her so much power in your relationship shes basically become a massive despot doing whatever the fuck she feels like because whatever SHE does all that happens is you say sorry. please stop apologizing to her and locate your balls. And please stop talking to her. I know how difficult it is to make that break,but you will feel so much better afterwards. Its not an instant thing it takes time,and actually telling her will just draw you into a pointless argument. just stop texting her/replying to texts,block her on msn,dont hang out with her,and after a while you will start to feel better.and even if,once youve reclaimed a bit of power she comes back nicer again,resist!realise that nothing good can come out of it now. Cutting her out is the only way to get over her.
phew that was longer than i expected,
oh ye and that 'like a brother/friend'thing really made my blood boil,that is literally the epitomy of prick teasing *****.
Now onto the the next point,she wanted to be friends.They always want to be friends and of course you obligue because you want her in your life and you want to believe theres a chance you can get back together. Ive learnt from experience that the best possible response to lets still be friends is(depending on how much of a ***** she is)either 'thats not a good idea i need time(like forever..)away from you' or,my personal favourite 'fuck you'. Ive experienced both your approach and my approach of a clean break.Mine works much better. You see the friends set up isnt actually to your benefit,its to hers. You cant get over her because your still talking and the longer her cock teasing goes on the more unhealthily bessoted you will become,and meanwhile shes got a little ***** to unload on emotinally whenever she wants. She can do whatever the fuck she wants to you,lead you on,make you apologize when youve done nothing wrong and of course just generally telling you about her stupid fucking problems,completely absorbed in the kind of enormous fucking self centred bubble than only a teenaged girl can inhabit.
Mate,ive been in your situation before,literally almost word for word your post,that happened to me.everything youve described ive been through.and i imagine a lot of other members on here have as well. please,stop trying to rationalise her actions,theres no logic behind her arguments youve just given her so much power in your relationship shes basically become a massive despot doing whatever the fuck she feels like because whatever SHE does all that happens is you say sorry. please stop apologizing to her and locate your balls. And please stop talking to her. I know how difficult it is to make that break,but you will feel so much better afterwards. Its not an instant thing it takes time,and actually telling her will just draw you into a pointless argument. just stop texting her/replying to texts,block her on msn,dont hang out with her,and after a while you will start to feel better.and even if,once youve reclaimed a bit of power she comes back nicer again,resist!realise that nothing good can come out of it now. Cutting her out is the only way to get over her.
phew that was longer than i expected,
oh ye and that 'like a brother/friend'thing really made my blood boil,that is literally the epitomy of prick teasing *****.
Wow, what a completely normal relationship problem
but also ;JESUS I know all teenagers are emotionally unstable but what you have there is a perfect example of the manipulatory *****.
I hope she gets a boyfriend as stable as her, and I hope you find a girlfriend that is caring enought to help you with any psychologicall scars you've picked up.
but also ;JESUS I know all teenagers are emotionally unstable but what you have there is a perfect example of the manipulatory *****.
I hope she gets a boyfriend as stable as her, and I hope you find a girlfriend that is caring enought to help you with any psychologicall scars you've picked up.
