I cheated

[con70solo]

hey everyone, alright so this is what happened this past weekend my fiance was in new york and i stayed at home. well long story short i had ppl over saturday night and went out to the bars next thing i know i was making out with some random girl. I just wanted to see if any one on here has had and simalar experances or advice for me

thanks

 

[Cherry Cola]

No, I have never cheated.

You see, I'm not a horrible boyfriend.

You want advice? Suck it up, tell your fiance, and pray that she forgives you.

 

[cuddly_tomato]

Most people here have their posts read by their lovers or significant others. I don't think that you will garner many confessions to be honest.

 

[xHipaboo420x]

Most people here have their posts read by their lovers or significant others.

Really? That seems a little... odd.

 

[Baby Tea]

next thing i know i was making out with some random girl.

Really? 'Next thing you know'?
I really have a hard (Read: Impossible) time believing anyone who says 'next thing you know'. It's never 'next thing you know'. It's a choice, and you blew it. And, no, being drunk isn't an excuse.
Kind of a selfish, dick thing to do, don't you think?

Well if you're any kind of man, you'll fess up to your fiancé and count yourself incredibly lucky if she doesn't toss you out.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

Most people here have their posts read by their lovers or significant others.

Really? That seems a little... odd.

I thought so too. Seems a little controlling...

 

[Brotherofwill]

You want advice? Suck it up, tell your fiance, and pray that she forgives you.

Possibly the worst advice ever.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

next thing i know i was making out with some random girl.

Really? 'Next thing you know'?
I really have a hard (Read: Impossible) time believing anyone who says 'next thing you know'. It's never 'next thing you know'. It's a choice, and you blew it. And, no, being drunk isn't an excuse.
Kind of a selfish, dick thing to do, don't you think?

Well if you're any kind of man, you'll fess up to your fiancé and count yourself incredibly lucky if she doesn't toss you out.

No official Mod Wrath can compare to that. I've got to agree with it though. You may not remember how things happened but while you were drunk a conscious decision was made and that decision was a bad one.

 

[maddawg IAJI]

Ummm Tell the truth? Lying about it and keeping it a secret will only make it worse in the end.

No, I've never cheated on anyone. Then again, I've never dated anyone either.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

You want advice? Suck it up, tell your fiance, and pray that she forgives you.

Possibly the worst advice ever.

Better she finds out from him now than from someone else much later.

 

[Starke]

No, I have never cheated.

You see, I'm not a horrible boyfriend.

You want advice? Suck it up, tell your fiance, and pray that she forgives you.

Honestly, while good advice in theory, in practice, I can't recommend this.

That said, one psychotic ex of mine invented indiscressions I supposidly participated in, including claiming that I'd cheated on her with someone who'd died four years before I met her so I could be biased on that front.

Also, if your signifigant other approaches you and tells you they've cheated on you, dump their ass. If they're coming to you it usually means they're going to do it again, and they're looking for your blessing.

Most people here have their posts read by their lovers or significant others.

Really? That seems a little... odd.

I know my GF's on these boards, and posting...

Nothing odd about it, that I can see.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

Most people here have their posts read by their lovers or significant others.

Really? That seems a little... odd.

Nope, my last one managed to find my profile here by searching for my name on Google.

 

[cuddly_tomato]

Most people here have their posts read by their lovers or significant others.

Really? That seems a little... odd.

I don't mean in a stakerish "what are you up too" kind of way. I mean just in passing. If I am at my ladies place and I am hammering away at her keyboard to post here she might take a look over my shoulder to see what I am going on about.

Even if this isn't the case, signing a "I am a cheating bastard" certificate on the world wide web seems like a bad idea.

 

[Mr. Grey]

Buy a puppy for her. Place that puppy in the room and when you lay the truth on her and she starts yelling at you... tell her not to yell because there's a puppy in the room. [/sarcasm]

You dug yourself a deep hole... the best thing to do in that situation is to stop digging and ask for a hand getting out of it. Apologize, be honest and take all of the blame. You'll be lucky if she accepts you back and from then on never do it again, because she won't be so forgiving if there's a next time.

EDIT: Wait... how serious was this "cheating"?

 

[Jordi]

I've heard people say that if you confess, it only eases your guilty conscience, but that if you care about your relationship or her feelings, you should just keep it a secret and live with the guilt. I don't know if I agree, but I think this statement makes a valid point. Basically, if the relationship is good for her, than confessing will only make her unhappy and likely ends the relationship (which was assumed to be good for her). I wonder what other people think of this.

 

[con70solo]

You want advice? Suck it up, tell your fiance, and pray that she forgives you.

Possibly the worst advice ever.

Better she finds out from him now than from someone else much later.

yea i have already told her. almost as soon as i could and i know I'm a horrble boyfriends or whatever trust me i just want to die that's how bad i feel.

 

[Frungy]

hey everyone, alright so this is what happened this past weekend my fiance was in new york and i stayed at home. well long story short i had ppl over saturday night and went out to the bars next thing i know i was making out with some random girl. I just wanted to see if any one on here has had and simalar experances or advice for me

thanks

Did it mean anything to you? If it didn't then just forget about it. Don't tell your fiance, and don't do it again.

Don't tell your fiance for precisely the same reason you don't tell her when she puts on a couple of pounds or her favourite dress is a little snug around her posterior, because it'll needlessly upset her. Yes, telling her may make you feel better, but it'll make her feel lousy, so suck it up, don't do it again.

It may seem a little harsh, but it's good that you feel guilty. It means you still love her and that your conscience is still operational. This isn't a "get out of jail free" card; you have to live with the guilt and the secret and that's going to be hard, but you did it and you have no right to make her miserable too.

I don't believe in lies, but I also don't believe in unkind truths that serve no purpose.

 

[Cherry Cola]

No, I have never cheated.

You see, I'm not a horrible boyfriend.

You want advice? Suck it up, tell your fiance, and pray that she forgives you.

Honestly, while good advice in theory, in practice, I can't recommend this.

It's either telling the truth, or deny your loved one to hear what she deserves to hear.

 

[xHipaboo420x]

I know my GF's on these boards, and posting...

Nothing odd about it, that I can see.

Yeah, I just assumed it to mean that this so-called 'girlfriend' was screening the posts.

I don't mean in a stakerish "what are you up too" kind of way. I mean just in passing. If I am at my ladies place and I am hammering away at her keyboard to post here she might take a look over my shoulder to see what I am going on about.

Even if this isn't the case, signing a "I am a cheating bastard" certificate on the world wide web seems like a bad idea.

Agreed.

 

[Brotherofwill]

Better she finds out from him now than from someone else much later.

Not really. Either you tell her and dump her or you just go on in secrecy. That's really almost all the choice you have.

Also, if your signifigant other approaches you and tells you they've cheated on you, dump their ass. If they're coming to you it usually means they're going to do it again, and they're looking for your blessing.

Amen.