Were you two sort of hinting at a possible relationship previously to going to Norway? If not, then who cares? Is she going to get upset at all your previous relationships and stuff?
I did somehing rather dumb
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I've been in a similar situation to hers before and I can kinda understand why she got upset. My current boyfriend and I were 'friends with benefits' before we started dating. During that phase he went and had gay sex with a mutual friend. It did hurt me but I said to myself, we're not actually a couple so I can't really stop him. But I got him in the end anyway so I just forget about it now.
And that is what she should do. You slept with someone BEFORE you knew she liked you and BEFORE you started dating. She may not like it, but there's nothing she can do about it. You aren't in the wrong here and she needs to get over it.
And that is what she should do. You slept with someone BEFORE you knew she liked you and BEFORE you started dating. She may not like it, but there's nothing she can do about it. You aren't in the wrong here and she needs to get over it.
It's rough but I think you did the right thing in telling her. You can't build trust keeping secrets like that.
I'm guessing she was mad because she had those feelings for you before you knew it. It might not seem like much to your perspective, because to you she only confessed her feelings after you'd supposedly had a fling in Norway. But from her perspective? She might have been feeling things for you long before that, and had only recently worked up the courage to say as much.
From that perspective it can feel like a betrayal. She'll feel hurt that you were involved with someone else, a natural reaction even if it isn't a rational one. Love rarely is.
Just make it clear that now that you're reciprocating her feelings that she's the only one in your life. If you really love her, then it won't be hard. The trust will grow back as you do.
And no more drinking after a long flight, eh?
I'm guessing she was mad because she had those feelings for you before you knew it. It might not seem like much to your perspective, because to you she only confessed her feelings after you'd supposedly had a fling in Norway. But from her perspective? She might have been feeling things for you long before that, and had only recently worked up the courage to say as much.
From that perspective it can feel like a betrayal. She'll feel hurt that you were involved with someone else, a natural reaction even if it isn't a rational one. Love rarely is.
Just make it clear that now that you're reciprocating her feelings that she's the only one in your life. If you really love her, then it won't be hard. The trust will grow back as you do.
And no more drinking after a long flight, eh?
do a barrel roll...
or something else less useful cause crazy cannot be stopped with logic...
so you = screwed
or something else less useful cause crazy cannot be stopped with logic...
so you = screwed
You had sex with someone else before you even knew your friend had feelings for you let alone started dating.
Sounds like your girlfriend needs to remove the rod from her arse.
Sounds like your girlfriend needs to remove the rod from her arse.
I dunno if you know this or not but RAKtheUndead does this on every relationship/love/dating thread that gets put out there. It's an intentional trolling he's doing to try and derail/kill these types of threads. So don't take him too seriously on theseWeslebear said:
OT: It really depends on how close the two of you were to being a couple before you made this trip. If what your post said is true and she confessed her love and it was out of left field I don't think telling her was the best decision. I mean look at it from her POV; she finally tells you how she feels and is ecstatic you reciprocated the feelings, but hold on right before this you were totally sleeping around with all sorts of sluts and bimbos. It happened just before we got together![footnote]Her Potential POV, not mine[/footnote]. I mean nobody wants to hear about any stuff that happens in someones past, especially not the recently recent stuff.