I just ain't that into her.....

[Roamin11]

So I have been dating this one girl for four months now, and I come to you guys seeking advice because I don't know how to proceed.... I just ain't that into her, when I met her I thought I liked her, but recently she has had qualities which I find most hard to deal with, and I just don't know how to break it off..... Do I just speak my mind here? Or do I use tact and smarts in order to keep my balls intact?

Or is there another way to do this? BUT PLEASE NOTE, what the problem is no we can't work though this, not at all!!!

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[Cherry Cola]

Confront her in real life and tell her that it isn't working out. It's as simple as that.

No tricks, no tactics, just confront her and say that it's over.

 

[Sleekgiant]

Just tell her its not working and there is no way to fix it, she will probably blow up in your face and talk about you behind your back but thats life

 

[Deleted]

So I have been dating this one girl for four months now, and I come to you guys seeking advice because I don't know how to proceed.... I just ain't that into her, when I met her I thought I liked her, but recently she has had qualities which I find most hard to deal with, and I just don't know how to break it off..... Do I just speak my mind here? Or do I use tact and smarts in order to keep my balls intact?

Or is there another way to do this? BUT PLEASE NOTE, what the problem is no we can't work though this, not at all!!!

do something to make her hate you, like 'cheat' on a friend (an act of course) or something.

 

[Roamin11]

So I have been dating this one girl for four months now, and I come to you guys seeking advice because I don't know how to proceed.... I just ain't that into her, when I met her I thought I liked her, but recently she has had qualities which I find most hard to deal with, and I just don't know how to break it off..... Do I just speak my mind here? Or do I use tact and smarts in order to keep my balls intact?

Or is there another way to do this? BUT PLEASE NOTE, what the problem is no we can't work though this, not at all!!!

do something to make her hate you, like 'cheat' on a friend (an act of course) or something.

That is just the Mondays talking, lets not become devious bastards now!!! I also want to get out of this with the utmost grace!

 

[Sanquinius96]

Confront her in real life and tell her that it isn't working out. It's as simple as that.

No tricks, no tactics, just confront her and say that it's over.

I second that

 

[Wolfram23]

Just tell her you don't feel like you have "good chemistry" and you think you should stop seeing eachother.

 

[Deleted]

So I have been dating this one girl for four months now, and I come to you guys seeking advice because I don't know how to proceed.... I just ain't that into her, when I met her I thought I liked her, but recently she has had qualities which I find most hard to deal with, and I just don't know how to break it off..... Do I just speak my mind here? Or do I use tact and smarts in order to keep my balls intact?

Or is there another way to do this? BUT PLEASE NOTE, what the problem is no we can't work though this, not at all!!!

do something to make her hate you, like 'cheat' on a friend (an act of course) or something.

That is just the Mondays talking, lets not become devious bastards now!!! I also want to get out of this with the utmost grace!

What do you mean Mondays? I'm always like that. Chances are you're a teenager so of course she's going to be "crushed" when she sees you pretending to cheat. But like all teenage girls she will be over it shortly and have a new boyfriend who is her forever and ever love.

In the long run she'll think she got rid of you when it is actually the other way around. If the plan works though you'll have to pay me $50 because I don't give advice for free

 

[rockingnic]

Ask her if she sees anything worth being in a relationship with you, if she doesn't, problem solved. If she does though, just say your mind. If she's the kind of girl that you see overreacting to a break up, just distance yourself from her, could be safer.

 

[Motiv_]

Become a priest.

In all seriousness, probably the best thing to do is just be honest about it, and get it over with before she gets too emotionally attached.

 

[Cherry Cola]

So I have been dating this one girl for four months now, and I come to you guys seeking advice because I don't know how to proceed.... I just ain't that into her, when I met her I thought I liked her, but recently she has had qualities which I find most hard to deal with, and I just don't know how to break it off..... Do I just speak my mind here? Or do I use tact and smarts in order to keep my balls intact?

Or is there another way to do this? BUT PLEASE NOTE, what the problem is no we can't work though this, not at all!!!

do something to make her hate you, like 'cheat' on a friend (an act of course) or something.

That is just the Mondays talking, lets not become devious bastards now!!! I also want to get out of this with the utmost grace!

When the Titanic sank, do you think people cared about getting out of there alive with grace?

No, they just wanted to get the fuck out.

Which you need to do right now!

[sub]Sorry for the possibly offensive comment I made, but it was for a good cause[/sub]

 

[Booze Zombie]

"You're hot, but I'm not attracted to you."

It'll sound strange, but, well... yeah.

 

[Rednog]

Find a way to break up with her so that she thinks you're absolutely nuts and that she is better off without you. Seriously, it makes them feel better if they dump you and you don't have to worry about them raging on you.

 

[Legion]

"I have enjoyed being with you but I don't think this will work out between us as I don't feel the same way as I used to" or something else that has dignity and honesty. If you try any tricks to get out of it then what you are looking for is the appearance of ending it gracefully rather than the actuality of it.

As much as I despise the phrase: Be a man about it.

 

[HSIAMetalKing]

Send her a text that says "I'm breaking up with you" and then change your phone number. Boom, problem solved-- even if she knows where you live you can basically just avoid her forever, lock the doors and hide until she stops coming around.

Things must have been so much easier back in the days before cell phones... humm...

 

[ReverendJ]

BE HONEST. If you sit around waiting for some catalyst to come along and allow you to get out guilt-free, well, it ain't happening. You'll just prolong everything, and make the eventual damage you're going to cause that much worse. And you're going to cause damage. Nothing you can do will prevent it, and any method you may devise to weasel out of hurting her will only backfire and cause more. Be honest, and be quick.

Seriously.... I waited, in the hopes that maybe something would happen that would break off a less-than-fulfilling relationship, hoping to be able to get away guilt-free. Now my son is 6, and I have to try to maintain a civil relationship with someone I wasn't that into in the first place, but now has reason to hate me. So...yeah.

 

[technoted]

Is going to the shops and never coming back an option? If not it's probably best to just man up and say "It's not working, it wont work therefore using all obvious logic it's over, see ya."

 

[BonsaiK]

So I have been dating this one girl for four months now, and I come to you guys seeking advice because I don't know how to proceed.... I just ain't that into her, when I met her I thought I liked her, but recently she has had qualities which I find most hard to deal with, and I just don't know how to break it off..... Do I just speak my mind here? Or do I use tact and smarts in order to keep my balls intact?

Or is there another way to do this? BUT PLEASE NOTE, what the problem is no we can't work though this, not at all!!!

This question has been answered in the Relationship Problem thread, at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=30#5760362

 

[kurupt87]

Confront her in real life and tell her that it isn't working out. It's as simple as that.

No tricks, no tactics, just confront her and say that it's over.

I second that

And I third it.
I'd been in that situation, and chose the "I'll be a fucker" approach to end it, ie cheat on her and let her know it (twice in fact, she forgave me the first time, dozy mare). While it's easier to let her hate you in order to end it in the short term, it's not good for either of you in the long run. You cause her more hurt this way, and for selfish reasons, guilt = bad.
Cheating (the act of which is fun) and breaking up (which is what you ultimately want) is a selfish and cuntish way to do it.