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Well, I'm not gonna bother you with the "if you love her, you'll move along" crap, it's happened to me. Basically, remind her that even after that chiken-shit move you're still willing to be freinds. And if she does another one, tell her you're anger for her...
Welcome to the Escapist. All the people here are nice, kind and intelligent people.Ziggy109 said:You guys are all some of the nicest people I've met on the internet. I feel a lot better now because of what you've all said to help me. Thank you all.
Except when it comes to relationship threads and religion threads. Your lucky that no one complained about this thread. Its actually surprising.
Sorry, I cannot give you anything besides a *hug*. Never been in a relationship yet, but I am working on it. Hope you get thru this
Honestly there isn't much you could do if she makes her decision few people can change her mind what she did was unforgivable but if you feel real pissed with her get a dog to poop in her shoe or bed
*hug*
*hug*
First off, I find it funny that your posting name is a nickname that I've acquired.Ziggy109 said:
However, on topic I'd say that what you're feeling is normal, painful, crappy, understandable, and something that, ultimately, will either husk you or fill you out.
The very first real girlfriend that I had (dating slightly over a year) broke up with me days before Valentine's day (make of that what you will, but for me it was crushing). I later learned she was with a good friend of mine. And by with I mean sleeping with. I felt pretty much the same that you do now, and for awhile I let it husk me.
What I mean by that is that I let my anger and jealousy eat up my inside so that rather for living for me, I was living for hating this girl and this guy. Which is stupid. Why? Go watch Scott Pilgrim vs. The World and check out the last fight scene. Which brings me to another point:
Go out with some friends, have a good time, and start celebrating life again. I know it sucks right now - I've been there, but you cannot let someone else's actions dictate the things you do. You're stronger than that. I wish you the best of luck, and I'll sign off with a quote from Spock's Beard "The Bottom Line"
*50% off hug*
{After reading other comments} However, if you don't wanna give up, there's still my method.
Stay her friend and always be there for her. Don't diss the guy. If and when he hurts her, comfort her and do NOT bad mouth him. Always be the good guy and look out for her and not yourself. Compliment her, call her beautiful. And when you do, say this: "When a guy looks at a girls body, he calls her sexy. When he calls her cute, he's looking at her face. But when a man calls a girl beautiful, he looking at her heart. And you, my dear, are the most beautiful girl I have ever had the pleasure to meet"
In the end you will still be there and she will see how wrong she was for ever letting you go. That's what's worked for me anyway. Good luck
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{After reading other comments} However, if you don't wanna give up, there's still my method.
Stay her friend and always be there for her. Don't diss the guy. If and when he hurts her, comfort her and do NOT bad mouth him. Always be the good guy and look out for her and not yourself. Compliment her, call her beautiful. And when you do, say this: "When a guy looks at a girls body, he calls her sexy. When he calls her cute, he's looking at her face. But when a man calls a girl beautiful, he looking at her heart. And you, my dear, are the most beautiful girl I have ever had the pleasure to meet"
In the end you will still be there and she will see how wrong she was for ever letting you go. That's what's worked for me anyway. Good luck
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If you love her, then men up. It's what TRUE love does - you want her to be happy and you ALLOW her to be happy, even if happy means you are NOT in that picture.
Everything else is self pitying. Why judge her? When she said what she said, she meant it at the given time. but things change DAILY, emotions are not to be controlled and pushed. One day one just wakes up and realizes where ones happiness lies. Let her go.
How do you know that she doesn't feels bad about the things she said to you, and not being able to fulfill them? but if she forced herself to do so, than she goes against herself, and both of you will end up very very bitter, cause you'll know in time that she is with you because of a promise, and not because of love, and that my friend hurts waaayy more than this. I don't see her as a liar, I see her as a brave and honest person. And truth hurts when we don't like the way things are.
Give yourself time to be sad, deal with the pain in ways you know best. Then, when the time is right and you feel ready... let go. And start over again with someone new.
*hug*
Everything else is self pitying. Why judge her? When she said what she said, she meant it at the given time. but things change DAILY, emotions are not to be controlled and pushed. One day one just wakes up and realizes where ones happiness lies. Let her go.
How do you know that she doesn't feels bad about the things she said to you, and not being able to fulfill them? but if she forced herself to do so, than she goes against herself, and both of you will end up very very bitter, cause you'll know in time that she is with you because of a promise, and not because of love, and that my friend hurts waaayy more than this. I don't see her as a liar, I see her as a brave and honest person. And truth hurts when we don't like the way things are.
Give yourself time to be sad, deal with the pain in ways you know best. Then, when the time is right and you feel ready... let go. And start over again with someone new.
*hug*
*hugs*
You got balls kid, talking about that on a website, though this isn't 4chan so thankgod for that. I can't say 'she was just using you because she just wanted your attention' because I know nothing about you or her, but I can say that you just need to let it go, don't stop having her as a friend, but just let it go, be happy about the times you had and live your life how you wanted it, go out and live, take the chances. Loves like ducttape on your forearm, first few times it's ripped off it hurts, but as it happens it gets easier, its still terrible to go through, but its apart of life.
Be safe my friend
You got balls kid, talking about that on a website, though this isn't 4chan so thankgod for that. I can't say 'she was just using you because she just wanted your attention' because I know nothing about you or her, but I can say that you just need to let it go, don't stop having her as a friend, but just let it go, be happy about the times you had and live your life how you wanted it, go out and live, take the chances. Loves like ducttape on your forearm, first few times it's ripped off it hurts, but as it happens it gets easier, its still terrible to go through, but its apart of life.
Be safe my friend
Son, and I say that with plenty of experience, don't do it.Ziggy109 said:
She was a ***** (fact) and now she wants to have you as a friend that hangs onto her. DON'T.
She's trying to get the two of you to love her equally and that's not fair on either of you. Lose her quick and find someone who actually cares for you as much as you care for them. They are out there and you CERTAINLY don't need someone who just wants a fair-weather friend.
There's a lot of decent people out there who'd be happy to have you; but an equal amount of people who just want you to be their sycophant.
DON'T STAND FOR SECOND PLACE. And have a hug.
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Wild Tiger Used Hug!
I've been through a similar situation, it sucked. I recommend not even trying to talk with her, respond if she calls you and such, but don't be angry or make a situation. Rather, just slowly let her fade out of your life, because you don't need someone like that. Seriously, that was a huge ***** move, and to continue to be friends would only serve to hurt you more. Best of luck though.
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I don't always hug others. But when I do, I prefer tigers. Keep hugging my friends...
I've been through something similar, yet worse and more serious recently. My only advice, though this may seem a bit harsh and extremely hard, is just to get over it. Starving yourself is definetly not the answer and you're a teenager, these things happen to a lot of people this age. Trust me, you'll find someone else, it's really just to get back up.Ziggy109 said:
oh, and *hug*
Punch the other guy, then you`ll feel better unless he beats you up then you`ll feel even worse.. all i know is it worked for me i felt much better after
wow the misogyny is strong in this forum. What's with all the people calling her a *****? what did she do? stop loving a guy who from what i am reading was probably quite smothering? Your angry because she did something she said she wouldn't do? (Dating before she left) Well you weren't upset when she went against what she said to date you. Look she's not doing any of this to spite you she's just doing what she knows she wants. My only advice to you is to not stay cooked up and to get out and keep yourself busy.