i need advice

[shootthebandit]

i dont often come to the internet for this sort of advice but i know this is a good community (for the most part).

basically there's this girl at work, she seems really nice and i kinda think she likes me, problem is that she only works saturdays and only work 3 hours on saturday. I was going to ask her out on saturday but i was working in a different area.

since i dont really see her often i thought id add her on facebook and ask her out on facebook. problem is that its not the same as asking someone face to face and it makes me feel like a stalker

what do you think, is facebook an appropriate way to ask someone out?

edit: ive not added her yet

 

[CCountZero]

If she doesn't really known you that well, I'd stick with the face2face approach.

Personally, I don't use "social networking" at all, but I'd assume that it'd be ok if you're already friends and know eachother.

 

[Bobic]

I'd go for the in person do hickey personally but she's just as likely to say yes either way. So do whatever's easier.

 

[370999]

I'll say fact to face, ask if there is anyone time you could meet up. Afterall it's harder to say no to a human then a computer. Though lappy does make a convinvcing argument with his MS paint of candles, rose petals on a bed and a condum.

 

[Sinclair Solutions]

Meh, I have always thought it was better to ask someone out face to face rather than on Facebook. I don't know, I just always thought that asking someone out over Facebook to be kind of silly. I would say just wait until you have the time to ask her. Maybe you can think of what you want to say and where you want to go during that time.

 

[Fetzenfisch]

If you now each other a little bit more than "good morning" "goodbye" at work, asking to go for a coffee or whatever to get to know you even better could be ok.
But a "real date" , call me old fashioned, should be done face to face.

 

[spartan231490]

Ask her to meet up on Facebook. Something along the lines of 'hey, its *insert your name* from work, fancy getting a coffee after your shift?' or something. After that, you can arrange other dates.

I fell in love with a girl online, so its not that bad, my man.

I'd say this would work alright, as long as she's not way too skidish. but why do you have to, it takes all of 5 minutes to walk up to her and ask her. I'd just stick to something quick like a coffee for the first, but that's just me.

 

[StBishop]

Ask her to meet up on Facebook. Something along the lines of 'hey, its *insert your name* from work, fancy getting a coffee after your shift?' or something. After that, you can arrange other dates.

I fell in love with a girl online, so its not that bad, my man.

This sums up my thoughts more eloquently and succinctly than I would have.

I support this opinion and think there's nothing wrong with organising a catch up with someone over facebook.

 

[shootthebandit]

If she doesn't really known you that well, I'd stick with the face2face approach.

Personally, I don't use "social networking" at all, but I'd assume that it'd be ok if you're already friends and know eachother.

i dont know her that well thats why its kinda awkward. on the other hand she might be impressed that i took the effort to find her on FB also i didnt want to ask her infront of my colleagues because most of them are immature.

i was thinking of say (on facebook) "hi its me from work, i really wanted to ask you out at work but i didn't want to infront of my colleagues because they can be jerks"

 

[Sevre]

i dont often come to the internet for this sort of advice but i know this is a good community (for the most part).

basically there's this girl at work, she seems really nice and i kinda think she likes me, problem is that she only works saturdays and only work 3 hours on saturday. I was going to ask her out on saturday but i was working in a different area.

since i dont really see her often i thought id add her on facebook and ask her out on facebook. problem is that its not the same as asking someone face to face and it makes me feel like a stalker

what do you think, is facebook an appropriate way to ask someone out?

edit: ive not added her yet

Moved this thread to Advice Forum since you'll get better help here.

G'luck in your endeavours. ~Sev

 

[shootthebandit]

i dont often come to the internet for this sort of advice but i know this is a good community (for the most part).

basically there's this girl at work, she seems really nice and i kinda think she likes me, problem is that she only works saturdays and only work 3 hours on saturday. I was going to ask her out on saturday but i was working in a different area.

since i dont really see her often i thought id add her on facebook and ask her out on facebook. problem is that its not the same as asking someone face to face and it makes me feel like a stalker

what do you think, is facebook an appropriate way to ask someone out?

edit: ive not added her yet

Moved this thread to Advice Forum since you'll get better help here.

G'luck in your endeavours. ~Sev

thankyou sir, i wasn't aware of this advice section. it must be new

 

[shootthebandit]

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thanks for the advice but i start working in a different area, also theres not really a moment and if i did get a moment one of my workmates would be there. Im only there temporarily so i dont care what they think but i dont want to make the situation awkward for her. If i ask on facebook it means they arent going to mock her for saying yes or make her feel awkward for saying no.

it seems like a very viable option and i think "is it really any different than asking someone face-to-face?" BUT i think im just to old fashioned for my age

there's pros and cons for each, i just gotta think about it

 

[dmase]

Well i wouldn't necessarily send her the fbook invite with:

Chat with her a little on fbook and once you feel comfortable enough be like yeah me and my friends are doing this coming up... hey you wanna tag along?

 

[Antonidious]

Ask her to meet up on Facebook. Something along the lines of 'hey, its *insert your name* from work, fancy getting a coffee after your shift?' or something. After that, you can arrange other dates.

I fell in love with a girl online, so its not that bad, my man.

Not that I'm the best person to take advice from, but I'd recommend following this. Just see if she is interested in meeting up outside work. If she agrees then great, ask her out there. If not you'll know she's not interested.

Good luck!

 

[Madara XIII]

Ask her to meet up on Facebook. Something along the lines of 'hey, its *insert your name* from work, fancy getting a coffee after your shift?' or something. After that, you can arrange other dates.

I fell in love with a girl online, so its not that bad, my man.

^ This has the best chance in my opinion.

 

[BonsaiK]

i dont often come to the internet for this sort of advice but i know this is a good community (for the most part).

basically there's this girl at work, she seems really nice and i kinda think she likes me, problem is that she only works saturdays and only work 3 hours on saturday. I was going to ask her out on saturday but i was working in a different area.

since i dont really see her often i thought id add her on facebook and ask her out on facebook. problem is that its not the same as asking someone face to face and it makes me feel like a stalker

what do you think, is facebook an appropriate way to ask someone out?

edit: ive not added her yet

I would add her on Facebook, but I wouldn't "ask her out" on there, hell no. Most women I know get guys trying to hit them up on FB all the time, and boy do they get incredibly sick of it. However, you could still add her, and once added, you could use FB to see what sort of common interests you have, and what sort of social events you're going to, and if you coincidentally happen to be going to the same thing you could say to her "hey I'm going to this too, maybe I'll see you there", and THEN you could intercept her and have a chat and see what happens from there and IF you both really hit it off like crazy THEN you could ask her out to something else a little more "structured". On the other hand, if you're not going to any common stuff, and you don't seem to have similar interests by looking at her FB, consider that a warning sign not to proceed.

 

[Frozen Donkey Wheel2]

Screw this "facebook" shit. Screw this "I was working in a different area" shit. You're just making excuses. GO TALK TO HER, IN PERSON.

Facebook......Kids these days.....

 

[tharglet]

If you're not already talking online, it's prolly not going to come across as you'd like. It's better to ask in person if you can, so she can see that you want to, and see your body language along with the question.

You may want to pick your time carefully, might want to do it towards the end of your shift, if it doesn't go as planned.