I need advice.

[THEMILKMAN]

I need some advice about this girl.

I asked her out at the end of Sophomore year and she said maybe but she never had a boyfriend before and didn't really know what to do (WTF right?). Anyway, after that I had some shit going on that Summer and that combined with her flimsy answer, well I kinda forgot about her LOL. But now it's the beginning of our Senior year and one bad relationship later, I find I'm thinking about her alot again and I found her on Myspace and I think I want to ask her out again. How should I go about this? What should I say?

Keep in mind, it's been like 1 year and 4 months since we last talked, I go to a different school now but it's very close and I still live in the same area. Also she may not even remember me at first if at all and for all I know she could have a boyfriend right now. Any advice?

Also, I lost her phone number so Myspace is the only way to contact her right now.

 

[oliveira8]

I never got these threads...I'm not Dr. Phil or Oprah. Learn life by yourself!

Just forget about her anyway. Move on.

 

[Xojins]

Bad idea. Read your post as if you were a stranger looking at the facts, I think you'll see the flaw in your plan.

 

[grimsprice]

Or, she could have been thinking about you all along. Weirder shit happens, me and my girlfriend met, had class together, then parted for 4 years. We met on Myspace a year ago and we both confessed that we had been thinking about each other non-stop for 4 years! Go for it man, if you've come back to her after a long separation then maybe you actually have feelings for her. And honestly... do you expect to get any other advice besides go for it? Just say hi, hows it going, whats up in your life? Things will go from there.

 

[Pimppeter2]

Meh, theres other like her that you don't have to go threw the awkwardness to get ot

 

[oliveira8]

I think first you should start talking to her again, see where her life is, get a feel for the situation and then make the appropriate move based on those things.

I never got these threads...I'm not Dr. Phil or Oprah. Learn life by yourself!

Just forget about her anyway. Move on.

Yes you are, you are the portuguese version. Doctor Felipe!

Actually we have or own version of Oprah here. It's called Fatima. And the set is bright neon pink. So when zapping through channels you don't wanna stop at channel 4, or your eyes might burn.

 

[TheNumber1Zero]

yeah,I have no love life,nor have I ever had,I'm not even really that social.

people like me area all over this site,are we the kind of people you want for love life advice?

still,at least were not stupid enough to try online dating...wait...that is what you are thinking about in a way.

also it would seem everyone thinks you should move on,I could care less.you could cut off own foot because of what I say,I'll just shrug it off as your parents being at fault for giving loony access to tools for lopping off of foot.

some stuff you can ask,relationships,kinda hard for good answer to be found in all the rubbish

 

[j0z]

I say go for it, Get back in touch with her, and play it by ear. I wish you luck.

 

[SebZero]

This in a nutshell, don't ask us about Love. We're gamers, we don't know about that stuff.

What is love?


Anyways, I'd say just get back in touch with her and see how you feel afterwards.

 

[THEMILKMAN]

I never got these threads...I'm not Dr. Phil or Oprah. Learn life by yourself!

Just forget about her anyway. Move on.

This in a nutshell, don't ask us about Love. We're gamers, we don't know about that stuff.

Yeah you're right what do you Ass Hats know about Love? Screw it, I'm just gonna go for it and play it by ear. I can't embarass myself that much because I'll probably never even see her again unless she wants to anyway.

 

[Ursus Astrorum]

What is love?

Baby don't hurt me,
Don't hurt me,
No more.

I'm truly sorry, but you warranted this.

 

[Onichanbura]

You didn't give me enough information. Did you actually want to have a meaningful relationship with her, or just hook up? My answer would change drastically based on that info. Please don't judge me I could help you either way.

 

[SebZero]

What is love?

Baby don't hurt me,
Don't hurt me,
No more.

I'm truly sorry, but you warranted this.

*sigh* Yeah.... I know....

I immediately regretted that question after I hit "Post."

 

[zagazsano]

Or, she could have been thinking about you all along. Weirder shit happens, me and my girlfriend met, had class together, then parted for 4 years. We met on Myspace a year ago and we both confessed that we had been thinking about each other non-stop for 4 years! Go for it man, if you've come back to her after a long separation then maybe you actually have feelings for her. And honestly... do you expect to get any other advice besides go for it? Just say hi, hows it going, whats up in your life? Things will go from there.

Somewhat I agree, it actually depends on the girl, did you talk to each other a lot? Did she get to know you well? But by all means, go for it.

 

[skyfire_freckles]

I never got these threads...I'm not Dr. Phil or Oprah. Learn life by yourself!

Just forget about her anyway. Move on.

This in a nutshell, don't ask us about Love. We're gamers, we don't know about that stuff.

Yeah you're right what do you Ass Hats know about Love? Screw it, I'm just gonna go for it and play it by ear. I can't embarass myself that much because I'll probably never even see her again unless she wants to anyway.

Good for you! Go for it. The only advice I would give you that hasn't been said yet is don't come on too strong at first. Odub's advice is great, with one caveat:

The best way to get into the sack with her is just to AVOID LABELS. Don't talk about "going out", and don't try to label each other as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" until you've had coitus at least three times. You want her to be completely relaxed in your presence, not feeling like she has to fufill some pre-concieved notion that she has any role to perform other than "hot female."

You're young enough that if she wants to, it's not a bad idea to actually be in an official relationship before any 'coitus' as he likes to put it. Girls often like things to be official.

 

[Bofus Teefus]

I never got these threads...I'm not Dr. Phil or Oprah. Learn life by yourself!

Just forget about her anyway. Move on.

This in a nutshell, don't ask us about Love. We're gamers, we don't know about that stuff.

Yeah you're right what do you Ass Hats know about Love? Screw it, I'm just gonna go for it and play it by ear. I can't embarass myself that much because I'll probably never even see her again unless she wants to anyway.

You can ignore all these naysayers- Dr. Bofus is in! Sit yourself down on the couch and have a listen. I've got bullshit coming out of my ears real world advice for real people with really problematic problems.

Your thinking about her alot, so it's obviously love. Not just love- but love in all caps and underlined. I'll bet she feels the same way, too! You need to do sum bout dat, and what you need to do is call her in the middle of the night (you know she won't be busy at 3am, and you'll really get her attention) and confess your undying love for her. Now, she may express doubts, or play little games by saying "what the hell are you calling me at this hour for, you creep," but she'll come around.

....and if she doesn't, try chloroform.

 

[THEMILKMAN]

You didn't give me enough information. Did you actually want to have a meaningful relationship with her, or just hook up? My answer would change drastically based on that info. Please don't judge me I could help you either way.

I'm hoping for something meaningful. I haven't had one of those in a while but I really think she's different.

 

[THEMILKMAN]

I never got these threads...I'm not Dr. Phil or Oprah. Learn life by yourself!

Just forget about her anyway. Move on.

This in a nutshell, don't ask us about Love. We're gamers, we don't know about that stuff.

Yeah you're right what do you Ass Hats know about Love? Screw it, I'm just gonna go for it and play it by ear. I can't embarass myself that much because I'll probably never even see her again unless she wants to anyway.

You can ignore all these naysayers- Dr. Bofus is in! Sit yourself down on the couch and have a listen. I've got bullshit coming out of my ears real world advice for real people with really problematic problems.

Your thinking about her alot, so it's obviously love. Not just love- but love in all caps and underlined. I'll bet she feels the same way, too! You need to do sum bout dat, and what you need to do is call her in the middle of the night (you know she won't be busy at 3am, and you'll really get her attention) and confess your undying love for her. Now, she may express doubts, or play little games by saying "what the hell are you calling me at this hour for, you creep," but she'll come around.

....and if she doesn't, try chloroform.

I like your advice [and Buddy Christ avatar]! I'm gonna do what you said! I want to thankfully thank you for helpfully helping me with my problematic problem!

 

[Bofus Teefus]

You can ignore all these naysayers- Dr. Bofus is in! Sit yourself down on the couch and have a listen.

Snipped the wise words.

I like your advice [and Buddy Christ avatar]! I'm gonna do what you said! I want to thankfully thank you for helpfully helping me with my problematic problem!

Well I'm thankful for your thankfulness, and glad I could help. It's just a good thing I showed up when I did...otherwise...love would not have been served. Make sure you don't call me when you get arrested invite me to the wedding, and the catering is up to par (my advice can be paid for with really good food.)

 

[BonsaiK]

I have answered the OP's question in this thread: ---> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161?page=1