Okay so, me and my girlfriend have been really happy for a long time. We were inseprable, no one could pull us apart. But about a month ago my parents found out about us being more..... intamate than they thought, and they wanted me to have nothing to do with her. But we made it through, i text her when i can behind their back and we are trying to make it work. But lately we fight every other day, she talks to other guys when im not around, she dosent flirt but all of them do, and every time we fight she threatens to end it. I love her so much but lately i dont feel happy with us any more. I wanna be with her, i want the old us back, but i wont be able to see her till like 4 years from now. And even if we struggle through it, i would have no family cuz they would abandon me if i married her. I love her with all my heart but lately all i do is cry while i think of our "future together". Plz give me some advice on what i should do.
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Yea, Im moving to another city and i cant come back to visit with them basically hating her. I dont want us to break up but its four years, and i can rarly text her as it is cuz my parents. Should i just break it off?
Your profile doesn't say what your age is but you sound young. I don't think you're at a place where holding out for 4 years is going to work, especially if there are cracks in the relationship trust issues, etc - that kind of time apart would strain a marriage, let alone a teenage romance. Consider taking a break, it's probably best for the both of you to spend some time deciding what you want and how you feel apart. It'll be OK.
I talked to her about it, and we decided to give it a week or two to try and fix things between us, and if that dosent work then we're better off seeing other people. What do yall think?
Sounds pretty sensible. If it goes tits up just remember, you're going to college. There are more women than men typically, don't panic, more fish out there and that whole thing. You deserve to be happy so if you're not then it's not good for you.Jakemills02 said:
Yeah, sounds sensible. You mentioned there's already friction when she talks to other guys - perhaps you're being over-possessive or maybe you do have cause to be worried, or maybe a bit of both. Anyway, what's certain is that friction will only increase if you attempted to make a long-distance relationship work. It sounds like you two had a great time together but you're drifting apart - metaphorically and literally - and your relationship just isn't mature/established enough to survive that.Jakemills02 said:
I think a break or scaling things back to "just friends" is a great idea. Who knows, maybe after those 4 years you'll reconnect. Or maybe you'll both go your separate ways. She might be a great girl, but the fact is there are hundreds of great girls out there. And, a relationship that was right at the time, won't be right for eternity. I'd say, don't fight this one. Let life happen, be super-honest with her, keep the door open for her but don't try to force things either.