fellow escapists i need some help with low confidence when trying to talk to or get to know girls that i like no matter what i try it usually has the same results as the Hindenburg any advice at all would be greatly appreciated
i need some advice
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Well, I'm no expert, by no means, but I've gotten a lot of advice and read a lot on this site, written by people who do know their stuff. I've tried it myself and it works, atleast for me.annilator666 said:
The key is to not treat it like a big deal. When you want to get to know a girl, treat her like she's a person, not an object to be put on a pedistal and admired. She's a living, breathing person, just like you, with fears, hopes, dreams and interests. Find something you two have in common and talk about that. If she's doing something that interests you, make comment about it, just don't be rude. Find out what she likes and just let the converstation roll from there. Don't ask her out or anything like that, until further down the line.
You just have to take a chance, if you don't nothing will happen and you'll be in the same situation you're in now, alone and lonely. Just don't treat it like a big deal, when you first talk to them, because it's not. It's just talking.
Also, don't listen to the guy above me, he's probably just been rejected and/or not met someone interesting. Girls are as diverse as guys and can be just as interesting or boring as us.
Don't listen to Ando.
If you need help with low confidence, go stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself, then say 1 good thing about yourself. ("I just finished this case in 2 days" or "I look good"). There is always something good about a person, no matter who it is. Even Ando has a good point, somewhere XD.
This.Sp3ratus said:
If you need help with low confidence, go stand in front of a mirror and look at yourself, then say 1 good thing about yourself. ("I just finished this case in 2 days" or "I look good"). There is always something good about a person, no matter who it is. Even Ando has a good point, somewhere XD.
Leave it to escapist to give a warning simply for speaking the truth. But, I think the warning was more focused on vulgarity rather than giving bad advice. But, anywho, I should of mentioned not all girls are like that, but sadly a lot of them are. I apologize for generalizing too much. There is still a lot of guys like that as well so it works both ways. Thing is you gotta weed out a lot of crap before you find the "right one".Sp3ratus said:
The pedistal thing is a great thing to uphold. These girls aren't someone to treat like a princess or above or beyond yourself. They are just people with flaws as well like was said. Get to know the girl without constantly trying to think about if she likes you or not. You might find that she isn't interesting at all and not worth your time. Some will also think you are uninteresting and not worth their time.
If you do happen to get rejected a lot just keep trying with new girls. Don't let a few rejections think that every other girl will reject you. Cliche yes, but there are plenty of fish in the sea. Keep it up and the confidence will build. Keep some standards, no need to be desperate you deserve the right girl. It may take a lot of patience but eventually its worth the wait.
The way to a girls heart is through her abdomen, then up behind the ribcage. Should you want a more alive one though, just relax, these other posts above mine seem to be very helpful and talk a lot of sense.
Except that first post by Ando.
Except that first post by Ando.