I Need Some Help

[triggrhappy94]

So, I've been talking to this one girl, mostly through texts and IMing, because I haven't been able to talk to, or see her in person since school ended. It seemed as though everything was going well. She was telling me how I'm so amazing, because I've been playing the guitar for 5 years, I know how to build a computer, I'm a boy scout (almost Eagle), and have flown a plane before. Well, I thought everything was going good...
I was joking about how I don't always get out much during the summer, except for all the long trips I go on. About half way through the conversation she just stopped texting me.
I've tried texting, and messaging her since than, but she hasn't replied and it's been three days.
I talked to a friend, and she told me just to move on, that this was a clear sign that she doesn't want to talk to me.
I, however, am not so willing to believe that and just give up.
I don't want to come off clingy or creepy though.
Should I try texting her, just not that often, or try reaching her a different way, or what?

 

[Dimitriov]

Just wait. Either she got your text and knows you want to continue talking to her, or if for some reason she didn't I would assume it's a problem with her phone or something and she'll et back to you.

 

[Scabadus]

You know there's a seperate advice forum for things like this?

Well anyway, try just asking her what she's been up to. Don't try to hide that you're trying to get her attention, mention that she's been quiet and vanished in the middle of a conversation and ask her if something's up. That's not creepy, it's being a friend.

Bonus tip because I'm feeling nice: once you're talking again get to see her in person. Texting and IMs have their place but by and large they are terrible at conversations. Go shopping, see a film, go for a walk, get together with a group of friends, just hang out, anything as long as it's not via a screen.

 

[artanis_neravar]

You know there's a seperate advice forum for things like this?

Well anyway, try just asking her what she's been up to. Don't try to hide that you're trying to get her attention, mention that she's been quiet and vanished in the middle of a conversation and ask her if something's up. That's not creepy, it's being a friend.

Bonus tip because I'm feeling nice: once you're talking again get to see her in person. Texting and IMs have their place but by and large they are terrible at conversations. Go shopping, see a film, go for a walk, get together with a group of friends, just hang out, anything as long as it's not via a screen.

I agree with this

Also

I talked to a friend, and she told me just to move on, that this was a clear sign that she doesn't want to talk to me.

I don't buy this, people don't just stop talking in the middle of a good conversation when they want to stop being friends.

 

[triggrhappy94]

You know there's a seperate advice forum for things like this?

Well anyway, try just asking her what she's been up to. Don't try to hide that you're trying to get her attention, mention that she's been quiet and vanished in the middle of a conversation and ask her if something's up. That's not creepy, it's being a friend.

Bonus tip because I'm feeling nice: once you're talking again get to see her in person. Texting and IMs have their place but by and large they are terrible at conversations. Go shopping, see a film, go for a walk, get together with a group of friends, just hang out, anything as long as it's not via a screen.

I was actually just about to ask her if she wanted to hang out with me when she stopped texting me.

 

[open trap]

Just stopping in the middle of a conversation is not how some one says "go away i dont want to see you"
From what i see i think something whent wrong on her end communication wise.
Good luck with this

 

[Berethond]

Maybe she got her phone jacked?
Or her parents cut her off?
Or any number of other things.

 

[Scde2]

I can relate to this. I'm going to say don't dwell on it or over-analyze things, it won't help at all. Three days may feel like a long time, but it really isn't. People lose internet connections, become busy, want some time to themselves, etc. Try your best to get out of the house for as much as you can and try not to think about it. I can tell you that being clingy would probably just annoy her, so give her some space. The only thing you can really do is just wait for her to message you. Is she still on your contact/friends list on whatever you use to message her? If so don't worry.

You know there's a seperate advice forum for things like this?

Well anyway, try just asking her what she's been up to. Don't try to hide that you're trying to get her attention, mention that she's been quiet and vanished in the middle of a conversation and ask her if something's up. That's not creepy, it's being a friend.

Bonus tip because I'm feeling nice: once you're talking again get to see her in person. Texting and IMs have their place but by and large they are terrible at conversations. Go shopping, see a film, go for a walk, get together with a group of friends, just hang out, anything as long as it's not via a screen.

Or you can follow this advice.

 

[Smooth Operator]

Can you contact her any other way?
Seems oddly abrupt to just end that way, more likely her phone died or something, I say give it a week then try texting her again or better yet call her.
If that still doesn't work give it another week before trying again, after that I would leave it be.

It's a possibility she didn't want to continue the conversation, but ending it like that is really dickish, you deserve an explanation.

 

[mionic]

Sounds suspicious, if she did not want to talk anymore, she would probably say so.