No offense, but it doesn't sound like we're going through the same thing at all. Don't get me wrong: There are MANY similarities, but the core of our respective "crises" (I wouldn't even call my issue a crisis really) is very different. Nonetheless, the advice is appreciated.kongajinken said:You are basically going through the same "life crisis" I have been going through. So instead of saying anything I'll just say the answer I found to this dilemma. I can totally feel you on the, but it feels like I won't be helping society directly part. What I ended up finding out for myself is basically this.
I want to help people BECAUSE that is more than just living. To me, just living is providing for yourself and your immediate family members and friends and just going through your daily routine. It's bland. It sounds to me your issue was more about how if that's all you did in life, then are you really enjoying all that life has to offer. You were worried you weren't productive enough to call yourself a part of evolution and a party of society. I, on the other hand, love helping people because I don't do it to prove I'm productive enough to justify that evolution kept me, but rather because it gives me such joy. It's fun and kind and creative and interesting and lots of other things all in one. I consider it more than just going through the routine of the day. It's not about lost productive time spent doing fun things, which I still love doing; I certainly feel no shame in enjoying myself just because there are people suffering from situations I can't stop. But, I do want to help those people get out of those situations even if I can't control the situations.
I know there's other ways to help people and I know sometimes it's good enough to just make people's lives pleasurable even if you can't solve their core problems. But, I'm not suffering a life crisis over this. I want my life to have meaning, yes, but it's not something I lose sleep over nor is it something I let control my life the way it sounds like it did to you. You didn't sound happy focusing solely on the world's problems/providing for yourself and your family because you lost time that could have been devoted to making the most out of your life rather than others', like having fun playing video games. For me though, it makes me very happy while still making me feel like I'm getting the most out of my life. The former situation is not something to be ashamed of; heck, I sometimes feel like that due to the stress and work it requires. I just feel the latter more. You weren't enjoying it because you wanted to help people in ways that didn't damage your physical and mental well being and still allowed you to pursue more personal interests, so you didn't miss life itself. For the most part I do enjoy doing it though and it is just as much of a personal interest to my well being as playing video games or spending time with friends and family or going for a nice run. And, the best part is, I don't let it make me miss life; I don't let it control me as you are warning me it could. In fact, I sometimes experience life through aiding others.
As I said, I may still become a game developer. It'll just be a hobbyist or part time thing to devote my life to what I truly love.