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[DeathWyrmNexus]

You know what pisses me off more than ANYTHING on this topic?. Shirts with writing across the breast on women. I cant read it because il be called a pervert but it seems like the person in question wasted their time buying a humerous shirt if i do not.

Fig one: Read a girls shirt in town one i knew in passing and was called a pervert for staring there when theres some writing in MASSIVE multicoloured font.

Fig two: Different girl gets annoyed at me for not noticing the funny writing writen across her chest.

WHY DAMMIT WHY! I cant win with these people.

I just tend to give them the same scathing look they give me with more acid on it. Convey their level of fucking jackass with my eyes. They even get madder or surprised. Then I just chuckle and keep walking.

I'm just glad that I won the female lottery with my Lynn. She wears the stuff from time to time but lacks the hypocritical batshit insanity to think she isn't making a spectacle.

 

[Elurindel]

Well, my opinion is, if you don't want people looking, don't show them off so obviously. You put breasts on display, people are going to look, get used to it.

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

No you're not a pervert.
Same sort of thing happened to me. A girl was bent over my desk when she was talking to me, said "Oh, bit of clevage there" and then told me off when I looked. I mean, she pointed it out for Christ's sake.

I am adding this woman to my list of people to hate with a seething passion.

 

[Godavari]

I stand firmly resolved that women who put their bodies on display should fully expect to be stared at, and not take offense. That being said, most women who dress like sluts (who aren't actually sluts) don't think that way.

It's a double standard I'd like to abolish, but for now, I'll just wear dark sunglasses wherever I go.

 

[Sparcrypt]

I LOVE when women do that to me...

First - sorry ladies but you get a choice... dress like that and guys will stare. You know they will, don't ***** when they do. If you don't like it then too bad - I really don't care how much of a 'right' you think you have to dress like that and expect people to pretend you're not because you're living in a fantasy world.

Basically I will probably check you out if I think you're attractive. If you're dressed like a slut, I'm also laughing at you. If you're dressed nicely, I'm just silently admiring before going on with my day. I'm not obsessing over you, I'm noticing that you're attractive the same way you notice a guy you think is attractive. The main difference is that women are more likely to notice you doing it (apparently I get checked out, according to my female friends.. I never notice) and that if a guy DOES notice? He takes it as a compliment, just like you should.

Second.. my response! Now I don't stare like a perv and think guys who do are a bit odd... it's not hard to get a look subtly. However if they scream at you for that.. just come back with "Sorry, I thought you looked quite nice today and was appreciating it... were you not trying to look attractive?" quite often makes them feel stupid

Or if they're really annoying "Yes.. because what you're wearing just screams 'respect me as a woman...'" then walk off.

If nothing else, don't let it get to you - they're being stupid so it's not your problem. Try not to look embarrassed or bashful - that's what they're aiming for. Whatever your response, make it clear and strong and you will win.

 

[Sparcrypt]

Still, not a problem I ever face, being Asexual/Anti-sexual.

Why? Choice or psychological issues?

I mean bad relationships etc suck but good ones make up for it with ease.

 

[Altorin]

"'Hey!! Just because I'm dressed this way, does not make me a whore!'

and she's right, just because you dress a certain way doesn't mean you are a certain way, but believe me ladies.. you have to understand how confusing that is..

That'd be like me, Dave Chapelle, the comedian, walking around dressed in a cop's uniform. Someone might come up to me and --

'Oh Officer, I'm so glad you're here, there are some guys chasing us.'
'Hey!! Just because i'm dressed this way, does not make me a police officer.'

So ladies, you might not be a whore.. but you are wearing a whore's uniform."

- Dave Chapelle, Killing Me Softly HBO Special

 

[Julianking93]

Well some women feel offended when a guy "not up to her standards" stares away like that. Also you could have made it a little less obvious. That was probably some girl i know, you're lucky you didn't get punched. You have much to learn young one.

I never understood that, i mean, now stuck up can you be when you think "He's not good enough to be looking at me". That is without a doubt one of the bitchiest things a woman can think.

Very true. If she puts it on display, she should expect [b/]everyone[/b] to notice.

 

[KamachoMcSagget]

Question.

Were you staring, or just glancing?

good question.

 

[ScruffyTheJanitor]

Loads of women say they'll hate something when they do in fact, like it. Surely it's a bit of a compliment if you like a women's appearance to look and enjoy the view. Sure it may be a bit takky and if the guy gawks at it it's hardly a sophisticated compliment, but it's nice once in a while to know your an attractive person and can catch the eye of the opposite sex just by walking near them.

 

[quiet_samurai]

If a girl doesn't want you to see her goods she won't put them on display, she wanted you to look... she just didn't want you to know that she wanted you to.

or

She wasn't attracted to you and figured you had no right to do so.

women..........

 

[Numb1lp]

Screw her. Why do girls do that?

 

[Hutch Hutchenson]

No you're not a pervert.
Same sort of thing happened to me. A girl was bent over my desk when she was talking to me, said "Oh, bit of clevage there" and then told me off when I looked. I mean, she pointed it out for Christ's sake.

I will admit I had the same thing happen to me at work last month. But it wasn't even the boobage of the girl who said. She was just pointing out another girls to me. Glad shes looking out for me. o.o

 

[microwaviblerabbit]

I dunno. I have never really had this problem. One of my close friends would walk up to girls he knew and squeeze their breasts. Also a lot of the girls I know have big breasts and dislike them. They have back pain.

However there is a double standard. If you know a girl well, you can say things along the lines of nice tits, and they will talk back to you. I have found older girls often know if they are well endowed and have come to accept it. Girls you do not know, will either look at you like you are some evil perverted rapist, or be flattered.

My advice, if you see a girl and want to stare at her, talk to her. Her breasts will be in front of you as long as the conversation lasts. USE YOUR Peripherals. Plus you can find out if you is just an attention seeker, a normal person, or is interested in you.

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

No you're not a pervert.
Same sort of thing happened to me. A girl was bent over my desk when she was talking to me, said "Oh, bit of clevage there" and then told me off when I looked. I mean, she pointed it out for Christ's sake.

I will admit I had the same thing happen to me at work last month. But it wasn't even the boobage of the girl who said. She was just pointing out another girls to me. Glad shes looking out for me. o.o

The quote is a bit messed up but I am glad you weren't Akbar'd sir. *nods*

 

[Fallingwater]

Before all of you agree with her saying that I was only looking at her breasts, let me tell you that the woman had semi-short black hair that was dyed (a rather nice shade) of brown (I could see the black hair emerging from her scalp), light brown eyes, black eyeliner and blue eye shadow, and lip gloss on. So yes, I did look at her face (for a considerable amount of time, i might add).

That's a hell of a lot more than I'd have remembered, partially because I have very little attention to this sort of detail (I'm convinced attention to detail is a biological thing), and partially because OMG BOOBS!!!

So how am I the one thats perverted enough to get that sort of treatment? I know she saw me looking at her face because we locked eyes at one point. I wasn't looking at something she was obviously trying to hide. I wasn't touching them nor did i make any gestures that implied that I was going to. I was simply looking at something that SHE put on display.

It's one of those weird behaviours exhibited by the more irrational members of the female gender. My theory is as follows:
They like to show off their bodies, but they can't justify it to themselves because showing too much boobage obviously makes you a slut, as any deity-fearing person ought to know. So they show off, but mask their own unforgivable moral decadence by giving the blame to YOU, who dared to look at the HOLY CRAP BOOBS. Since most males have this weird tendency to feel incredibly ashamed if they're caught looking at the BOOBS WHOA and almost always scuttle away looking down, never replying or defending themselves, the irrational women in question get to keep doing this with no adverse consequences.

Note that my point of view is entirely different. I lack any sense of decency whatsoever, so as far as I'm concerned everyone should be completely free to walk around in the nude if they so wished. And as far as looking at BOOOOOOBS, I tend to do it relatively explicitly, in that I don't try to pass it as looking at something else, and if I'm caught I simply smile. And if someone ever tells me "PERVERT!", I'll simply say "well, you've put your boobs/legs/ass on display, what do you expect me to do? You should be glad I'm looking at them, it means they're nice".

 

[PTSpyder]

I always go by two rules. First of all, its usually more fun to watch the slack jawed guys around you being anything but slick while staring at them (sometimes the are being even creepier, following her around, ect).

Second, my personal policy is to treat them like a solar eclipse. Beautiful to look at, sure, but never, ever look directly at them.

 

[KurtzGallahad]

While I always wear sunglasses It nonetheless is polite to at least pretend not to notice such apparel, one of the tennets of chivalry is respect, and If someone chooses to wear such clothing that does not necessarily mean they wish to be oggled at. It may leave you feeling embarassed about having to constantly adjust your posture to avoid appearing to stare but these are the sacrifices men must make for proprietry.

I feel your pain.

 

[KurtzGallahad]

And remember never mention that "W0W 3v3n F0r 4 ChiCk50r Y0u R r4ck3d" the agony is untold

 

[T5seconds]

All I can say is that the girls I stal- look at are "come up and put a fist in Tonys face"

Or " Wave teh massive boobies in Tonys face"

So yeah...