I WAS Sleeping...

[Sexy Street]

Okay, as the subject entails I was sleeping, when I was awoken at 3:35. I was screamed-awake by my mother screaming,
" YOU FUCKERS!"
I did not know what was going on, so I got dressed and ran outside my room, thinking something bad had just happened.
My mom awoke everyone because Lila, (My mother's pug) was missing. She was accusing me and my dad, because we were the ones who locked up the house.
My mom (Oh yeah and she is totally fucking drunk) then starts punching me and screaming at me.
At this point I am scared, because I have no idea what the fuck is happening.
My dad tells me what is going on, and I look for the pug.
She was under the bed that my mom was sleeping, where she was too scared to leave because of the screaming.
We accuse my mom of being a psycho ***** (that is me and my dad) which she just shrugs off and goes to sleep.
We go downstairs, but I can't shake the feeling that this is wrong. I have seen this happen sooooooo many times with my mom. She gets drunk almost every-other day and fucking yells at all of us.
Now I have a question. How the hell do I get her to stop drinking.
And no there isn't any booze in the house, she leaves to get that.

 

[ThePoodonkis]

Does she know how she acts? If not, video tape it and show her the next day.

 

[Turtleboy1017]

Tell your dad she is a psycho *****, and that he has to leave her for a nicer, more docile and less insane woman.

On a less stupid note, ask your dad to get a divorce or something? I mean if she really is as bad as it seems, you're dad should probably be pretty sick of her by now as well so.

 

[Gmano]

Does she know how she acts? If not, video tape it and show her the next day.

This...

And then when she acknowledges that it is a problem, try some counselling.

 

[oliveira8]

Hmm...force her to go to AA?

If she says no. Leave the house for a couple of days, you and your dad say "We'll come back when you stop drinking" and leave her to her ruin. If she hasn't changed...get your dad to divorce her and forget all about it.

 

[Sexy Street]

Tell your dad she is a psycho *****, and that he has to leave her for a nicer, more docile and less insane woman.

On a less stupid note, ask your dad to get a divorce or something? I mean if she really is as bad as it seems, you're dad should probably be pretty sick of her by now as well so.

Yeah, he is, but I can't just leave her. She is my mom, and I love her.

 

[Kpt._Rob]

That sounds like the sort of thing you need to get professionals for, unfortunately an alchoholic won't quit just because you asked them nicely to. If you really want to even have a chance of changing how things are, you'll probably have to hire a professional psychologist and try to hold an intervention or take her to an alchahol rehabilitation center.

 

[Aesir23]

Does she know how she acts? If not, video tape it and show her the next day.

I recommend this. I've never had to deal with drunk relatives (thank God), but this seems like the best solution. That or have an intervention and send her to AA or a rehab clinic.

 

[Skeleon]

Try to convince your dad that she needs help. Maybe ask him how she was some years ago, before she started drinking, to remind him.
Maybe she can get therapy.

 

[Pegghead]

Send her to an AA meeting? Maybe you could hold an intervention for her.

 

[tijuanatim]

Maybe it's time for an intervention.

Does she know how she acts? If not, video tape it and show her the next day.

^^^ Can be used as evidence.

 

[Sneaklemming]

Refer her to professional help. Actually, your father should be taking care of it. If you're worried talk to him about it.

Also wtf is a Pug?

 

[Glerken]

Sorry but I don't think the people at the Escapist can solve this problem for you. You may need to get professional help if it's that bad.

Also wtf is a Pug?

A breed of dog.

 

[FalloutJack]

Great. An angry drunk. Okay, lemme think here with my big mental book of dealing with people.

*Flips pages*

Anal-retentive? No... Arrogance? Whoops, too far. Hmmm... Ah, here we go.

*Pokes brain-page*

Says here that words mean nothing to an angry drunk, ever. They're always convinced their right and will brush off anything contradictory. At least, that's while they're DRUNK. When their euphoria's passed, then you have an opening.

*Slams book shut*

Now, I may be a sadist, but I know how people work. People who get angry drunk will not take advice usually even when they are SOBER. SO...you have to put on the pressure during the hangover. In your case, it's a matter of tough love. You will have to be loud and pissed off to get your point across, not merely because you're right but because you are willing to cause anguish to the pounding headachy head. She deserves it and she will reap the consequences of ruining a night's sleep like that. Your voice in her ears during a hangover should drive any person to understand that can't get away with this shit anymore.

 

[Turtleboy1017]

Tell your dad she is a psycho *****, and that he has to leave her for a nicer, more docile and less insane woman.

On a less stupid note, ask your dad to get a divorce or something? I mean if she really is as bad as it seems, you're dad should probably be pretty sick of her by now as well so.

Yeah, he is, but I can't just leave her. She is my mom, and I love her.

Well if she is as bad of a person as she comes across to me, I don't see why you could love her. Family is a tricky subject, but its best to learn early on that family =/= love.

My parents were always good to me, so I can not speak out of experience, but I am pretty certain that overcoming the barrier to loving your mother is the first step. It's understandable if she acts okay when shes not drunk, but be bold and tell her you won't be able to tolerate her if she keeps up with the crap you have to deal with.

 

[Sexy Street]

Tell your dad she is a psycho *****, and that he has to leave her for a nicer, more docile and less insane woman.

On a less stupid note, ask your dad to get a divorce or something? I mean if she really is as bad as it seems, you're dad should probably be pretty sick of her by now as well so.

Yeah, he is, but I can't just leave her. She is my mom, and I love her.

Well if she is as bad of a person as she comes across to me, I don't see why you could love her. Family is a tricky subject, but its best to learn early on that family =/= love.

My parents were always good to me, so I can not speak out of experience, but I am pretty certain that overcoming the barrier to loving your mother is the first step. It's understandable if she acts okay when shes not drunk, but be bold and tell her you won't be able to tolerate her if she keeps up with the crap you have to deal with.

Family almost always gives you an automatic bond with another. I love my mom and I cannot leave her (until college) so I need another way to get her to stop this. I have video taped her but she just doesn't listen to whatever is on the screen.

 

[fanklok]

Hmm...force her to go to AA?

If she says no. Leave the house for a couple of days, you and your dad say "We'll come back when you stop drinking" and leave her to her ruin. If she hasn't changed...get your dad to divorce her and forget all about it.

i always found AA to be the most ironic thing ever first thing you do in the meeting is announce your name to everyone then after so much time of being there and being sober they give you a badge to wear that fully announces that you are the attendant of an anonymous group

as for you problem OP you can just go to every establishment in a reasonable (and slightly unreasonable) area that serves/sells alcohol ask to speak with the manager and ask him not to sell your mom booze (it's within the managers rights to refuse service to anyone) not a guaranteed fix to it but a start

 

[similar.squirrel]

Does she have any friends?Video her zany antics and invite them over for a dinner party/formal screening.

 

[Sexy Street]

Eh, my mother was like that for a short time when I was a kid. I fixed her with a two part plan. A) Anytime she yelled at me or tried to hit me I smacked her in the face and B) any time she brought alcohol into the house the moment it was out of her sight I poured it out. As she was unable to hit me due to A she was unable to stop me from doing B.

Yes she has friends, and she drinks with most of them.

 

[squid5580]

You can't make her stop drinking. And no it isn't right what she did. How old are you? Call the cops. Call Children's Aid. GTFO of that house. That could be the wake up call she needs. If not well it is completely out of your hands. And smack you dad upside the head while you are at it. He should not be allowing shit like that to happen to you.