"I'm Bi"

[Dunvi]

You know, in general society, people don't go around exclaiming their sexualities. We all talk about our "gaydar" but you know what? That's all BS. There's kids who you are completely sure are straight who fall somewhere on the gay spectrum and haven't bothered to tell you. Is there any reason to, after all? Furthermore, it's safer to admit it anonymously than in RL. I will say that I'm bi online, but in RL, when I'm asked (and I have been asked), I avoid the question. Most of the time, I stay silent, make sly little grins, or point to my boyfriend as an answer, depending on who asked.

In an anonymous forum, people ask questions that don't get asked in RL, and people answer in ways they don't in RL. It's really that simple.

This thread is not meant to offend, please don't take it that way, I?m just curious as to what you think.

Look, I get that you meant well, but your approach fails. Rather than assuming that everyone else is wrong, you might want to reconsider your own approach to your question.

I understand but there is potentially an equal amount of people pretending BECAUSE they are anonymous as well. I'm not singling you out.

What I'm trying to say i guess is that i feel that to be bisexual, you must have tried both ways and liked it at least once before you go telling everyone that you're bisexual and this is how bisexuals are, and that there must be far more bisexual posters here that have not done this than have.

edit: and if im wrong in my definition, ok fine, im still not going to discriminate, and since everyone is saying it, "i don't care!!! lets not discuss anything on a discussion forum!"

Well then to completely screw up everything you just said, you are explicitly excluding me, because I have had exactly 1 significant other and furthermore that significant other is a heterosexual relationship. So I'm probably just deluding myself with my curiosity.

There's more to it than that. Many gays know they're gay before they ever have a sexual encounter of any sort, let alone a homosexual one. Why would it be any different for bi?

 

[Andy of Comix Inc]

You're right. I'm not bisexual.

I'm omnisexual [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality].

But no-one - I say NO ONE!! - understands the concept behind it, so I say "bisexual" because it seems, I think, to be easier to understand. "He loves guys and girls!" Yes, I do. So I say bisexual, despite it being a tad more complicated than that. Gotta leverage these things for the thickies of the interwebs.

 

[Mr.Pandah]

My affection does not extend into "furry" territory though, thankfully.

I'm sorry, but I can't help but take this offensively ... :/

Take it how you will. I'm not about to change this into a furry debate.

 

[lacktheknack]

Anonymity+Internet = A good chance you are pretending to be something or someone you are not.

This. I'm pretty sure I've seen <link=http://redwing.hutman.net/~mreed/warriorshtm/impostor.htm>this guy on this forum quite a few times.

For some reason I am TERRIFIED to click on that. >.<

It's okay, really. It's just a description of "that guy who switches identities at will for amusement".

 

[Le_Cable]

Simply noticing a disconnect between the number of self proclaimed bisexuals here versus real life does not constitute enough information for reasonable doubt. The escapist could just have a large concentration of bisexuals posting on the site.

 

[DarthFennec]

You're right. I'm not bisexual.

I'm omnisexual [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pansexuality].

But no-one - I say NO ONE!! - understands the concept behind it

Wow, people don't understand pansexuality? I probably shouldn't be as surprised as I am, in retrospect ... but what's not to get?

 

[witness51]

I'm Pi, I love regular and prime numbers.

 

[JezebelinHell]

Anonymity+Internet = A good chance you are pretending to be something or someone you are not.

This. I'm pretty sure I've seen <link=http://redwing.hutman.net/~mreed/warriorshtm/impostor.htm>this guy on this forum quite a few times.

For some reason I am TERRIFIED to click on that. >.<

It's okay, really. It's just a description of "that guy who switches identities at will for amusement".

Yay for maintenance, I lost my whole post.

I have talked with more than a few guys that play girls on the Internet, some just because they prefer female characters to look at, some for game loot and others for sexual gratification. I don't quite get the sexual part of that because if you are into that I figure there are plenty of people out there that will go along with it. I am guessing it is the deception that is exciting. But I guess it all boils down to being attention seeking in the end. Even the wrong attention seems to work.

 

[Paksenarrion]

...and I'm a PC.

I can't believe no one has posted this yet.

 

[BonsaiK]

I've been reading these forums for a while and I made an account specifically to post this cause it's kind of getting on my nerves.

I have serious doubts that all the "bisexual" posters in the "what sexuality are you?" and "what do you find attractive" kinds of threads are actually bi.

Now I have nothing against homosexuals, heterosexuals, or bisexuals, but I really wonder if you're all actually bi, or just either straight/gay and trying to make others go "Wow! A bisexual person! I wonder what that?s like!?!? What a cool person!" or gay people who are not completely ready to admit it, or just people who think they are "attracted" to everything from men, to women, to a loaf of bread, or maybe even people who want to be non-conformist super bad.

The reason I say this is because I see a serious disconnect with the amount of bi people I see in real life and the amount on these forums, as well as the amount of posts that begin with or mention "I'm bi" when it is not really necessary or relevant.

This thread is not meant to offend, please don't take it that way, I?m just curious as to what you think.

Actually I see more bi people in real life than I notice on here. Most of my girlfriends have been bisexual, including my current one, and if anything I'd say that although some are open about it, quite a few of the male friends I have are probably bi and deep in the closet.

I'm completely hetero though. You believe me, right?

 

[brunothepig]

No. I doubt many people here are lying. I think what it is, is that the topic of "are you bisexual" doesn't come up much in casual conversation. Can't imagine why. Hell, I probably know a few bisexual people, but not that well. I do have one close friend who is bisexual.
But as people have said, the anonymity provided, plus the fact that there are threads straight out asking about it, means you will notice more people talking about their sexuality.
For the record, I'm not bisexual, I don't ever want to have sex with a man, but I will call men sexy/hot/hawt/whatever. Usually because they're fucking metal, or just plain awesome, like Old Spice Guy. Kind of as a joke, kind of because, well, it's true.

 

[Yomandude]

Who gives a shit what someone's sexuality is?
As long as they aren't constantly shoving it in my face (In this case they aren't by just saying "I'm bi"), then I don't care.

Heehee, shoving it in your face.
But in all seriousness, I agree w/ you.

 

[JezebelinHell]

I don't even know how one can be "more normal" than someone else. If you manage to pull this off, I'd be impressed.

haha False Anonymity...So I'm truthfully exposed?! Blast! Back to the Panda lair!

I wouldn't be able to pull it off. Sadly/happily? I have my own predilections to deal with like everyone else. I just choose to not go tossing them about in public for any sort of attention. Even if I am "more normal" it really isn't within my character to do such a thing. So I will just sit here and be boring, personally secretive, quiet ol' me.

Please no exposing yourself here, I recall your mention of just dropping your pants for attention. Keep that in your lair.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

:/ <-- That face right there, that was my face after I read your post. I think you're ridiculous. A significant number of people call themselves bi-sexual, and you think they're just doing it for attention? Why would you assume that? Why would you think that having a sexuality would make you anything more than a person with said sexuality?

 

[smallthemouse]

You know, in general society, people don't go around exclaiming their sexualities. We all talk about our "gaydar" but you know what? That's all BS. There's kids who you are completely sure are straight who fall somewhere on the gay spectrum and haven't bothered to tell you. Is there any reason to, after all? Furthermore, it's safer to admit it anonymously than in RL. I will say that I'm bi online, but in RL, when I'm asked (and I have been asked), I avoid the question. Most of the time, I stay silent, make sly little grins, or point to my boyfriend as an answer, depending on who asked.

In an anonymous forum, people ask questions that don't get asked in RL, and people answer in ways they don't in RL. It's really that simple.

This thread is not meant to offend, please don't take it that way, I?m just curious as to what you think.

Look, I get that you meant well, but your approach fails. Rather than assuming that everyone else is wrong, you might want to reconsider your own approach to your question.

I understand but there is potentially an equal amount of people pretending BECAUSE they are anonymous as well. I'm not singling you out.

What I'm trying to say i guess is that i feel that to be bisexual, you must have tried both ways and liked it at least once before you go telling everyone that you're bisexual and this is how bisexuals are, and that there must be far more bisexual posters here that have not done this than have.

edit: and if im wrong in my definition, ok fine, im still not going to discriminate, and since everyone is saying it, "i don't care!!! lets not discuss anything on a discussion forum!"

Well then to completely screw up everything you just said, you are explicitly excluding me, because I have had exactly 1 significant other and furthermore that significant other is a heterosexual relationship. So I'm probably just deluding myself with my curiosity.

There's more to it than that. Many gays know they're gay before they ever have a sexual encounter of any sort, let alone a homosexual one. Why would it be any different for bi?

I suppose thats fair. I guess I'm willing to bet that most of the "bi's" that are not faking it would get a taste of one gender and not like it and suddenly realize that they do really lean more one way than another. Still, i'm not bi, so I don't suppose it's my place to assume this, so I'll just leave it at that. Still not convinced, but I guess I never will be just cause it's so alien to me.

 

[lacktheknack]

Well...I'm going to try and break this down for you.

Anonymity+Internet = Capability of being who you actually are.

This is also true for being someone who you actually aren't.

When people say they are bisexual on here, I find it hard to believe they're doing it to be "cool" or edgy or anything silly like that.

I'm straight, not gay, not bi, not trans, not a furry, not any of that stuff.

I'M SPECIAL NOW.

So yeah. LOVE ME FOR MY STRAIGHTNESS!

I point to the fact that you have a panda as your avatar......

and yes, I know I have a tiger in mine.............. but........but Hobbes is a BOSS.

Ummm...

If one's avatar reveals one's sexuality, then what does mine say about me?

........................ well...............


Im not exatly sure but the two sentences that come to mind are:

1. I CAN SEE FOREVER........

2. Japanese isn't a sexuality.

Um, it was done by a Brit. Does that make it better or worse?

 

[joshthor]

one: its WAY harder to tell if someone is bi than if someone is gay or straight. if they are with a guy you assume gay, if they are with a girl you assume straight (assuming we are talking about a guy) with by people you REALLY have to ask. plus i have a feeling there are even more closeted bi guys than gay guys and they feel safer discussing it on the internet

 

[KalosCast]

Yeah, on the Escapist forums, you're either a Straight Guy, a Bi Girl, or am Asexual Biromantic.

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

A lot of people who feel they can't admit to things in their real life find a release for it on the internet, so it could be that you've met a lot of bisexual people in real life who wouldn't ever admit to it out of some sort of fear of being persecuted.

The Kinsey scale of sexuality also suggests that you can be bisexual to a certain degree, that is to say heterosexual but with bisexual leanings or vice versa. Some people criticse his results but I've always thought they were at least a sound basis. So to take it further some people who might think they are dead centre on the Kinsey scale are in fact closer to one side or the other, which doesn't mean they aren't bisexual, just that they aren't as bisexual as it is possible to be.

And also, some people mistake romantic attraction for sexual attraction, which is what I did when I was younger. You find members of the same sex attractive, but don't want to have sex with them, but because they are attractive to you that must mean you're bisexual right? Well maybe not actually, you could be bi-romantic, but not bi-sexual. The difference being sexual attraction, the desire to want to have sex with, as opposed to the various other things we have decided must go with sexual attraction.

 

[smallthemouse]

A lot of people who feel they can't admit to things in their real life find a release for it on the internet, so it could be that you've met a lot of bisexual people in real life who wouldn't ever admit to it out of some sort of fear of being persecuted.

The Kinsey scale of sexuality also suggests that you can be bisexual to a certain degree, that is to say heterosexual but with bisexual leanings or vice versa. Some people criticse his results but I've always thought they were at least a sound basis. So to take it further some people who might think they are dead centre on the Kinsey scale are in fact closer to one side or the other, which doesn't mean they aren't bisexual, just that they aren't as bisexual as it is possible to be.

And also, some people mistake romantic attraction for sexual attraction, which is what I did when I was younger. You find members of the same sex attractive, but don't want to have sex with them, but because they are attractive to you that must mean you're bisexual right? Well maybe not actually, you could be bi-romantic, but not bi-sexual. The difference being sexual attraction, the desire to want to have sex with, as opposed to the various other things we have decided must go with sexual attraction.

Thats another thing, how bisexual do you have to be to consider yourself so? Like I said before, I believe you have to be willing to perform sexual acts comfortably with both genders to consider yourself bisexual. None of this bi-romantic stuff, anyone can consider anything attractive from men to women to animals (ew).