"I'm Bi"

[WildSeraph]

I'm bisexual, but even I'm skeptical when I hear someone come out of the closet as bi. Many people do it because it's "hot" and "cool", and they give a bad name to those who actually would like having a sexual relationship with either males or females, like me. I've had many friends and acquaintances who identify as bi if anyone ever asks, but outside of that, I've never seen or heard them go any farther than the occasional "He's/She's pretty hot". It appears girls feign this more, and out of all the "bisexual" girls I've met, only one of them has actually done things that confirm her to like other girls. It's too bad. Now all of us are labeled either as posers that want more attention, or cowards that don't want to be completely out of the closet. Also, there's a big difference between bisexuality and bicuriosity, people! A mild attraction to someone of the same sex does NOT mean you can go around calling yourself a bisexual!

 

[Jezzy54]

I'm more bi-curious, and I think it's just easier to admit stuff on the internet.

 

[Zenn3k]

Most people you see in real life aren't going to admit they are bi, gay and lesbians often can't hide it if they even wanted to because of how non-masculine or non-feminine they are in general life. Hell, the only gay people I know are "textbook", and that you can tell they are before you finish a conversation with them.

A "bi person" doesn't usually behave in this manor, they usually "act straight", and therefore aren't easy to spot.

So saying you don't know any in your real life, doesn't mean its accurate, there could be many and you just don't know about it, either because its something they keep hidden, or simply because you see them with the opposite sex.

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

Who gives a shit what someone's sexuality is?
As long as they aren't constantly shoving it in my face (In this case they aren't by just saying "I'm bi"), then I don't care.

Answered in the first post. I don't have much to add since this is where I stand. I don't really see why it matters what someone's sexuality is on here. If they lie or tell the truth, it won't affect you in either way.

 

[Blind Sight]

The hell is up with all these sexuality threads? Can't we just get over the whole gay/bi/macroherpophile thing? Some people sleep with the opposite sex, some people sleep with the same sex, some do both, and some want to fuck Godzilla. In the end, is it really of great interest who fucks what in their spare time?

Whether they're bi or not is irrelevant, it's not like you can actually test or figure out if someone is lying about it on these forums, so basically everything comes down to assumptions and speculation.

 

[Levitas1234]

When regular porn gets boring and actual sex is too troublesome, nerds go to f'ed up porn then identify themselves with this porn. Hence furies and bisexual people on forums.

 

[WildSeraph]

Most people you see in real life aren't going to admit they are bi, gay and lesbians often can't hide it if they even wanted to because of how non-masculine or non-feminine they are in general life. Hell, the only gay people I know are "textbook", and that you can tell they are before you finish a conversation with them.

A "bi person" doesn't usually behave in this manor, they usually "act straight", and therefore aren't easy to spot.

So saying you don't know any in your real life, doesn't mean its accurate, there could be many and you just don't know about it, either because its something they keep hidden, or simply because you see them with the opposite sex.

Huh. I spend a lot of time with gays, and only a few of them couldn't pass themselves off as straight in a conversation. You could tell with me after, say, a week or so of talking to me regularly, if I don't outright state it. You probably know many more gay people than you think, you just can't tell. And you probably know fewer bisexuals than you think, because four fifths of those who say they are are posing attention whores!

 

[MelasZepheos_v1legacy]

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Thats another thing, how bisexual do you have to be to consider yourself so? Like I said before, I believe you have to be willing to perform sexual acts comfortably with both genders to consider yourself bisexual. None of this bi-romantic stuff, anyone can consider anything attractive from men to women to animals (ew).

Well, yeah, that's pretty much all sexual attraction is based on. If you are willing to perform sex acts or have sex acts performed on you then you are a type of sexual, whichever it is.

If you are a man who prefers to have his sexual acts with a woman, but there are certain men with whom he wouldn't mind sharing any form of sexual activity, then he is bisexual, even if there is only one other man. To take the Kinsey scale, which grades from 0 to 6, 0 being fully hetero, 6 being fully homo, our hypothetical man is thus a 1. A fully homoseuxal man who is okay with sex acts with a select group of women would then be 5 on the scale. Even if you don't want to acknowledge it to yourself, and even if you haven't engaged your acts, you are bisexual, whether you like it or not.

Basically the more willing you are to have sex equally with people of either gender the closer to the middle of the scale you are, and it's that simple. You could probably further generalise and say that het men at '1' would be more drawn to feminine men, but that doesn't have quite as solid research behind it.

The problem with your question seems to be more about considering yourself to be bisexual, as opposed to actually being bisexual. If you have a sexual attraction to someone of the opposite gender, which includes being comfortable with sexual acts on either side, you are bisexual, it's just whether you acknowledge it. If you don't know but think you might be comfortable with it, then you are bi-curious.

And kissing, sensuous back massages, long romantic walks, hugging, basically doesn't count, because that falls under 'romantic'.

Also, the Kinsey scale doesn't account for any attraction besides male of female human. So no animals of transgender.

 

[Phyroxis]

I've been reading these forums for a while and I made an account specifically to post this cause it's kind of getting on my nerves.

I have serious doubts that all the "bisexual" posters in the "what sexuality are you?" and "what do you find attractive" kinds of threads are actually bi.

Now I have nothing against homosexuals, heterosexuals, or bisexuals, but I really wonder if you're all actually bi, or just either straight/gay and trying to make others go "Wow! A bisexual person! I wonder what that?s like!?!? What a cool person!" or gay people who are not completely ready to admit it, or just people who think they are "attracted" to everything from men, to women, to a loaf of bread, or maybe even people who want to be non-conformist super bad.

The reason I say this is because I see a serious disconnect with the amount of bi people I see in real life and the amount on these forums, as well as the amount of posts that begin with or mention "I'm bi" when it is not really necessary or relevant.

This thread is not meant to offend, please don't take it that way, I?m just curious as to what you think.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Heterosexual%E2%80%93homosexual_continuum

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[gbemery]

The reason I say this is because I see a serious disconnect with the amount of bi people I see in real life and the amount on these forums...

I would imagine that's because you get the anonymity of the internet and can say, feel what you want easier then you would in real life. Not as many consequences being who you are on the internet as there is off line. I'm straight by the way.

 

[smallthemouse]

The reason I say this is because I see a serious disconnect with the amount of bi people I see in real life and the amount on these forums...

I would imagine that's because you get the anonymity of the internet and can say, feel what you want easier then you would in real life. Not as many consequences being who you are on the internet as there is off line. I'm straight by the way.

Yes but as i said before, it goes the opposite way too, people can pretend to be anything they're not either

 

[feycreature]

Most people who are actually bisexual tend to call themselves "pansexual" these days.
"Bisexual" seems to be the new equivalent of "easy." (not my opinion, just the opinion of most teens, it seems)

I heard a girl boasting that she was bisexual, and girls were whispering that she was a whore.
Another girl claimed to be pan, and no one bothered her :/

Why do people make this shit so confuzzling o.o
At least straights and gays can make up their fuckin' minds :/

OK, I'm going to try to put the "make up your mind" argument to bed at least in this setting. I will probably fail, but I have to make the attempt.

What if I told you that you had to choose whether to date blondes or brunettes, that it would become a significant part of your identity and if you ever changed your mind you'd be branded a liar? Or...theists or atheists? Tall people or short people? Thin people or fat people? People older than you or people younger than you? Some people have a strong preference for each of these, some do not. Some have no preference at all. There's a difference between being indecisive and just plain not caring which camp you happen to find beauty in. Of course there's the whole issue of binary-only gender classification but I'll save that rant for another time.

So I'm not going to make up my mind because I already have. I fall pretty much in the middle of the Kinsey scale. I've known that most of my life, and I was lucky enough to grow up in an accepting environment where no one gave me grief for it and I felt no pressure to fit in with the dominant orientation of my social group. I love PEOPLE. Frankly, it's always puzzled me that what sex and/or gender someone is could matter so much that you wouldn't even consider dating them if they were on the wrong side of the line. I know that's how lots of people feel, most people apparently. I still can't imagine what it's like.

I can't imagine not enjoying boobs. They are delightful in every way. So therefore I can't be straight. I can't imagine not enjoying the ahem...male body, let's say. It's fascinating and different from me, and I love that. So therefore I can't be gay. Shall I stop admitting to admiring the male or the female form so that no one gets confused?

 

[Vivace-Vivian]

Gives those who truly are Bisexual a bad name.

It's so bizzare that I find it easier to come out as a lesbian then bisexual. No matter the company it's just easier to let people think I'm gay then to give them even the thought that I'm bisexual (Or Pansexual... but that's another story) just because of the stigma surrounding them. I understansd why. Most people who say they're bisexual aren't. They're either curious, on the gravy train to gay or just plain lieing for attention.

It's almsot worse in some parts of the 'gay community'. They get even more up in arms about it sometimes.

 

[Artina89]

I'm Pi, I love regular and prime numbers.

When I saw this post I laughed really hard. Thankyou good sir for getting my day off to a nice start.

OT: I consider myself straight, and if people say to me that they are bisexual then I am not going to question it. Why should I? If that is how you identify yourself then I have no right or inclination to rain on your parade.

 

[WildSeraph]

OK, I'm going to try to put the "make up your mind" argument to bed at least in this setting. I will probably fail, but I have to make the attempt.

You know, I always considered that argument trolling, because I didn't think anybody would be stupid enough to ACTUALLY think bisexuals just can't make up their mind! Recently being proven wrong, and discovering that I overestimated human intelligence, I can only say that your comment is the only one in this thread that I wholeheartedly agree with. Well, I don't like boobs, but that's beside the point. Thank you for stating things better than I could have.

 

[smallthemouse]

Most people who are actually bisexual tend to call themselves "pansexual" these days.
"Bisexual" seems to be the new equivalent of "easy." (not my opinion, just the opinion of most teens, it seems)

I heard a girl boasting that she was bisexual, and girls were whispering that she was a whore.
Another girl claimed to be pan, and no one bothered her :/

Why do people make this shit so confuzzling o.o
At least straights and gays can make up their fuckin' minds :/

OK, I'm going to try to put the "make up your mind" argument to bed at least in this setting. I will probably fail, but I have to make the attempt.

What if I told you that you had to choose whether to date blondes or brunettes, that it would become a significant part of your identity and if you ever changed your mind you'd be branded a liar? Or...theists or atheists? Tall people or short people? Thin people or fat people? People older than you or people younger than you? Some people have a strong preference for each of these, some do not. Some have no preference at all. There's a difference between being indecisive and just plain not caring which camp you happen to find beauty in. Of course there's the whole issue of binary-only gender classification but I'll save that rant for another time.

So I'm not going to make up my mind because I already have. I fall pretty much in the middle of the Kinsey scale. I've known that most of my life, and I was lucky enough to grow up in an accepting environment where no one gave me grief for it and I felt no pressure to fit in with the dominant orientation of my social group. I love PEOPLE. Frankly, it's always puzzled me that what sex and/or gender someone is could matter so much that you wouldn't even consider dating them if they were on the wrong side of the line. I know that's how lots of people feel, most people apparently. I still can't imagine what it's like.

I can't imagine not enjoying boobs. They are delightful in every way. So therefore I can't be straight. I can't imagine not enjoying the ahem...male body, let's say. It's fascinating and different from me, and I love that. So therefore I can't be gay. Shall I stop admitting to admiring the male or the female form so that no one gets confused?

Most of those things you described are extremely superficial, and not two extreme black and white dichotomies like gender, and also most of the population is already at one side anyway. But ok, I don't have anything against you, but like I said before I guess its too alien for me to fully understand, so i'm just going to leave it alone.

 

[MaxwellEdison]

Don't give a shit.

Closing with a quote from my friend on the "spectrum" of sexuality,

"Bisexuals are just honest people."

 

[gbemery]

The reason I say this is because I see a serious disconnect with the amount of bi people I see in real life and the amount on these forums...

I would imagine that's because you get the anonymity of the internet and can say, feel what you want easier then you would in real life. Not as many consequences being who you are on the internet as there is off line. I'm straight by the way.

Yes but as i said before, it goes the opposite way too, people can pretend to be anything they're not either

yes and that helps to prove my point more. People tend to grow a set when they go online. Whether it to be an ass or be themselves (which usually if they go online to be an ass they really are on in real life they just don't show it). People are more prone to be their true selves online no matter what. The majority of people put on their "faces" when they are out in the real world and be who they think others will find acceptable...with in reason(even if they say they don't care what others think). But when they are online there are no social safeties and nothing you have to worry about being judged on. So people will be their "true selves" more easily. If they are really an asshole but hide it in public they will be an asshole on line. If they are a closet racist then they will be a racist online. Same goes with being gay, bi, unfaithful etc.

 

[WildSeraph]

... two extreme black and white dichotomies like gender...

That's to say you can ONLY be a "he" or a "she"? What about those who prefer to be an "it", or accept either pronoun? There are very few things that are 100% Black and White, outside of the visible spectrum. Gender isn't completely one way or the other.

 

[Nuckelavee]

I'm Asexual but I consider myself Bi for one reason. I consider both sexes equally attractive, I.E not at all.