I'm gonna sound soooo racist but...

[Cridhe]

I can't seem to find myself attracted to hispanic women personally (unless I'm drunk), but no I really don't think you're racist for a sexual preference.

 

[HardkorSB]

I like how you have some people have to explain themselves of their taste:
"I attracted more to white girls than black girls... B...But it's not like I think that black people aren't good people!!!" These forced politically correct disclaimers actually make you seem more racist.

Me? I like pretty much every skin tone except these pale, vampire type people.

 

[Cheesus333]

I like pale white girls. I don't know why, I just do.

Not like make-up pale, where it's as white as a blank canvas, but just naturally pale. Kind of matches my own skin tone, really.

 

[Dennis Jakobsen]

Pfft.. that's not racist, it's just superficial

I prefer tanned blondes.. somehow the contrast of light hair on nicely tanned skin is very pleasing to my eyes (think tanned swedish girls).

In at a close second must be the latin type, all dark, tanned skin, dark hair, big brown eyes .. and you know what else is big!!? that's right.. i'm a buttman!

/Brunis

 

[Xaio30]

I like naturally tanned women with white hair. A combination that may not be too common to have, but I like it.

That or bright-skinned with brown hair. It's just a matter of color combinations for me. Nothing racist.

 

[wurrble182]

i wouldn't call the OP's post racist, sexual preference is something you can't decide, it's not fuelled by bigotory or hate so i wouldn't consider it racist. i for one have no personal preference and can see beauty no matter someones skin tone. so long as they're bangin' hot.

 

[Da Orky Man]

For the Emperor!

No, it's not racist. That term gets thrown about too much.

With skin colour, no real preferance. Though I do like the slender Asian features.

I wouldn't have expected it, but a lot of people seem to like really pale skin. And since the UK gets next to now sun, I'm whiter than a cloud. Awesome.

 

[Dr-Sock]

I don't think its racist, Its the same as not liking blondes or brunettes (incidentally i do) but for me Its a pale skinned red head.

 

[wills_b]

"I prefer white men and women ... to me it is an unconscious symbol of purity and depth."

Yes I have totally unfairly edited your statement, but that's the bit of what you said that I found offensive.

To say someone is racist for having a sexual preference for a skin tone is stupid, because you're not making any negative insinuations about other skin tones. However to say that you think one particular skin tone is "pure" immediately implies the opposite tone is "impure", and as such is highly, highly offensive.

I'm sure you didn't mean it that way, but yeah, that is offensive and also racist.

Kudos for ObsidianJones for picking up on this but waiting for clarification.

I will take a rather dangerous leap and state my preference. I prefer white men and women. And no not "average Caucasian" no, I mean white, Gothic white, never seen the freakin' sun white, Christina Hendrecks looks tanned white.

Doing fine so far.

I'm not sure why, to me it is an unconscious symbol of purity and depth. It also really goes excellent with red hair, dark hair and green eyes.

And here's your problem.

I've been trying to re-read it several times to see if I'm getting it wrong. But every time I read it, it sounds like you're equating white skin to purity, or at least you're reminded of purity when you see white skin. I will simply not comment on that any further until I get that clarified because it wouldn't be fair to anyone if I did.

Well the purity thing comes from the color white itself. The color in any context equates to purity just as red always equates to passion or anger. Also white in the context of skin means they stay out of the sun and don't work outside. Also flawless white skin is incredible hard to achieve genetically, where as tan-white is comparatively easy to get and find. It's not pure in the sense of best, but pure in the sense of difficultly to acquire.

...and here your reply only makes things sound worse.

My point is that to say you have a preference is not racist, but to say that one is superior is racist.
You say the colour in any context equates to purity. I would disagree, I would say that is has nothing to do with purity in the context of skin tone.
You describe white skin as flawless, therefore by extension non white skin is flawed.
You say it is hard to achieve genetically, therefore it is superior? Rare diseases are hard to achieve genetically, doesn't make them good.

I am sure I'm just (well I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt anyway) that I'm just nit-picking apart things you typed and didn't realise how they could be interpreted, but my point is that a lot of what you are saying could be construed as highly racist and has nothing to do with the point you were originally trying to make.

 

[Liviola]

I will take a rather dangerous leap and state my preference. I prefer white men and women. And no not "average Caucasian" no, I mean white, Gothic white, never seen the freakin' sun white, Christina Hendrecks looks tanned white.

Doing fine so far.

I'm not sure why, to me it is an unconscious symbol of purity and depth. It also really goes excellent with red hair, dark hair and green eyes.

And here's your problem.

I've been trying to re-read it several times to see if I'm getting it wrong. But every time I read it, it sounds like you're equating white skin to purity, or at least you're reminded of purity when you see white skin. I will simply not comment on that any further until I get that clarified because it wouldn't be fair to anyone if I did.

Personally, while in extreme cases I can find white women attractive on a purely physical scale, I usually don't. I see it so much that it gets boring. In fact, that's how my attraction usually works. I want something new. I've seen people of my race all my life. Ok. been there, done that. I've been drowning with White people. What else is out there?

Now, the rub is that I'm apart of a culture that white people vastly make the number of. So, while I'm not usually physically attracted to the girls I end up liking, I just happen to like them because their personalities are amazing and being just friends is not an option for me. It tends to hurt when someone says 'Wow, you do have a great personality. But you just happen to fall under a group of those I don't find desirable. If only you were a white guy'

And yes, I've had that real discussion plenty o' times.

Now, as one of the only token ethnic geeks who has admitted being so in this thread, I'll hazard what a few of my other token geek friends and I have discussed with our white geek friends when we talked about this; We're already seen as a skin color. I'm six foot two, I'm a personal trainer by trade, and I'm black. Also, I can out game most in any form of Warhammer, I collect video game trivia like it was the only way to keep me alive, and I'm a Browncoat for life. People have a hard time connecting the two.

And that's just regular people. I couldn't give two licks about them. But it's my own culture that still treats me like a leper. I can't tell you how many geek homes I've walked into and had to prove my geekdom because 'I didn't look the part'. That gets tiring. And, you know, you might want to have a mate with your similar interests. That's always nice. But alas, most white geeks either look for other white geeks or asians because they are the acceptable exotic.

I'm proud of my geekdom. Is it really that much to be seen as a geek first and everything else last?

I'm glad you wear your geekdom on your sleeve. Think of it this way: your identity defies generalisation. That in itself is a positive statement for the "geek" cultural grouping as a whole. I'd rather have that than reinforce stereotypes about what geeks are "supposed to look like."

And re: OP, no it's not racist, I guess, but it sure as hell is shallow to define specific skin tones, eye and hair colour and declare everyone who doesn't fit into that imaginary profile as un-dateable. Honestly, I find these things so superficial and trivial. Oh well, we're all privy to our own pseudo-fetishes, I guess?

Personally, I can find someone from any race attractive. But I am pretty much never attracted to anyone until I know their personality. From there, a great personality makes the physical features of a specific person more and more attractive to me over time.

 

[wills_b]

And re: OP, no it's not racist, I guess, but it sure as hell is shallow to define specific skin tones, eye and hair colour and declare everyone who doesn't fit into that imaginary profile as un-dateable. Honestly, I find these things so superficial and trivial. Oh well, we're all privy to our own pseudo-fetishes, I guess?

Personally, I can find someone from any race attractive. But I am pretty much never attracted to anyone until I know their personality. From there, a great personality makes the physical features of a specific person more and more attractive to me over time.

Damn I should have picked up on how shallow this all is as well.

 

[Firia]

Skin tone is not race, soooo, I'd say you're safe.

I like whomever I'm with to have a little tan to their skin. I looooove a good gold tone. Mm!

 

[sam42ification]

I prefure a really pale white skinned person. I just don't find darker skin tones as attractive as lighter skin tones but thats on a sexual level. When it comes to freinds i don't care what colour you are.

 

[arsenicCatnip]

Heh. I don't think it's racist, but I do think the way you worded it SOUNDS a bit racist.

Personally, I like my men like I like my coffee: warm, tall, sweet, and pale. Don't know why, don't care. The warm-ish lighter skin tones just attract me.

 

[Turigamot]

Any and all, except sickly/waxy pale.

Also, yum, Christina Hendricks.

 

[Rawne1980]

You know I don't have a preferred skin colour .... or type of women to be fair.

I've dated just about every colour and creed at some point in my life.

I will say I dislike those lasses that have so much fake tan they look orange though. David Dickinsons love children I call them.

For those who have no idea who David Dickinson is he's a British antique specialist on several TV shows with a really bad orange fake tan.

 

[Valdus]

Having a skin preference is technically discrimination, but no more so than "I prefer blondes/redheads/burnettes".

As for me, I honestly don't care. Variety is the spice of life, so I can see attractive qualities in just about any skin tone, hair style etc.

 

[DSQ]

I actually had an argumemnt with my flat mate about this where she said she didn't find black men attractive and I was like 'giiiirl you just havn't found the right one...<3'

I don't think it is right to limate you self and and claim there is no way you you could be attracted to X race. Being half black half white in a 95% white country being unattrative because i wasn't white was somthing I very was self conscious of

Having prefences is normal we all have them (and mine is called Hikaru Yaotome...<3) but i think personally we shouldn't be so single minded on getting someone just like the perfect guy in our imagenations because then we might miss the hot black/white/asian/latino nerd/jock/musicion/artist standing right in front of us.

I mean if my mum had stuck to her prefrences I wouldn't exsist.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I don't have a preference. I'm attracted to people of all races, it changes from person to person.

I've only ever been with white people but that's because in Ireland the population is still largely Caucasian.

 

[Treblaine]

Hello, your friendly Sister of Battle here, this time with a bit of a touchy subject. I've asked about just about every aspect of a person and what my fellows find attractive, save one. So today I risk insult, flaming and possible warning to ask: What is your prefered skin tone, in both yourself and your potential lover?

Now I am not trying to ignite racial bigotry or start discussions about which race is the hottest, simply if my fellow Escapees prefer one SKIN TONE over the other. And no, I won't be making a poll, there are far to many tones to accurately gauge ones preference. So I simply as y'all to give a specific example/picture/link to picture/discription/ect. and an explanation as to why.

I will take a rather dangerous leap and state my preference. I prefer white men and women. And no not "average Caucasian" no, I mean white, Gothic white, never seen the freakin' sun white, Christina Hendrecks looks tanned white. I'm not sure why, to me it is an unconscious symbol of purity and depth. It also really goes excellent with red hair, dark hair and green eyes.

Well if we all didn't have a certain amount of racism races would not even exists!

If all of us truly married and had kids irrelevant of skin colour then all racial distinctions would be mixed through gene mixing.

But there is a HUGE DIFFERENCE between:
-not wanting to marry someone to have kids with them, and
-thinking they are less than human who should be scorned by society.

THAT is the problem with racism, how it segregates society, denigrates millions and leads to such strife and conflict. No one has any right to treat other members of their society in such a brutal way, just because of their skin colour. Regardless of personal bias you must strive to accept, tolerate and accommodate other races and cultures.

But that DOES NOT translate to a marriage obligation.

[HEADING=2]People should have the right to marry and procreate with whichever consenting adult they like.[/HEADING]

(within reason of course, Incest and bigamy are not sustainable)

And that extends to feeling no obligation to include any race, creed, class, stature. It is 100% an individual choice.

The only obligation you have when it comes to marriage is for example if your (white) relative wants to marry a man where he happens to be black then regardless of your own preferences or expectations you should not stand in the way of HER CHOICE!