I'm so sorry for asking this

[Jape Corbel]

So let's start with the fact that I'm TERRIBLY anti-social, if I'm not forced (school, dancing classes) to be around people, I'm probably going to play video games (skyrim, yeah...), the deal is that I'm attending to ballroom dancing classes and it was fun at the beggining, but now I lost all the joy I had from it, and I was considering resigning, but as you probably ralise (or not), in ballroom dancing you dance in pairs, so if I resigned I would kind of leave my partner alone (and it's a lot harder for a girl to find a partner, than for a guy), and there's also a dancing camp during winter holiday (which is kind of important if I'd want to continue), wich wouldn't make much sense if I wanted to resign. I also have to mention that these dancing classes take like 50-75 % of my free time but I don't really think about it as a perspective for my future (no way I'm gonna be a proffesional dancer, I'm way to lazy for that) I wanted to try programming or computer graphics, but I just don't have the time for that.

So yeah, what do you think? Should I resign?

P.S. Sorry if my english is bad.

 

[latiasracer]

It kind of depends on how close you are to you dance partner... But it'd be worth seeing through just for them? And ten when it's finished get into I.T? Hope that's of some help

 

[Acier]

I would stick with it. Quitting something halfway through isn't satisfying and is bad form. Being in social situations more often can help you be more comfortable around them. Not to mention, even though you don't plan on becoming a professional dancer, it's a good way to get exercise and stay fit with a group of people. Not to mention, you'd be letting down your partner. I'm confused about the winter dance camp bit, but that's my 2 cents regardless.

 

[])rStrangelove]

So you're forcing yourself to do something you don't want to just because you're afraid somebody will feel let down? If what you posted is true, it also means that dancing also keeps you from trying out new things (programming).

You know, feeling bad for someone else is one thing, but the time you 'wasted' (?) for dancing will be gone forever. If you really think you're up to something else then tell your partner beforehand so she has some time to look for somebody else (maybe she already has someone but didnt tell you?) and then break out of your routine and try new things.

Just DON'T use your new 'freetime' for Skyrim, that will get you nowhere in the future. Boasting about these forums how many dragons you've killed is kinda funny, but only if everything else in your RealLife[tm] is going alright.

 

[idodo35]

first why are you sorry for asking this? dont see a problem with that...
second if you are not having fun and it takes all of your time there is absolutly no reason for you to keep on doing it...
if its your partner you are worried about dont im sure she will understand and if not its her problem you dont have to stay there for anyone its your life!
so yea if you want to quit quit and thats that!

 

[Hennofletch]

Why don't you tell your partner you want out, so she can look for a new partner, then you don't leave her in the lurch and you only have to hang around until she finds one?

 

[BloatedGuppy]

So let's start with the fact that I'm TERRIBLY anti-social, if I'm not forced (school, dancing classes) to be around people, I'm probably going to play video games (skyrim, yeah...), the deal is that I'm attending to ballroom dancing classes and it was fun at the beggining, but now I lost all the joy I had from it, and I was considering resigning, but as you probably ralise (or not), in ballroom dancing you dance in pairs, so if I resigned I would kind of leave my partner alone (and it's a lot harder for a girl to find a partner, than for a guy), and there's also a dancing camp during winter holiday (which is kind of important if I'd want to continue), wich wouldn't make much sense if I wanted to resign. I also have to mention that these dancing classes take like 50-75 % of my free time but I don't really think about it as a perspective for my future (no way I'm gonna be a proffesional dancer, I'm way to lazy for that) I wanted to try programming or computer graphics, but I just don't have the time for that.

So yeah, what do you think? Should I resign?

P.S. Sorry if my english is bad.

50-75% of your free time! That's more than medical school!

Unless you're passionate about becoming an incredible ballroom dancer, or you work 3 jobs and only have 5 hours of free time a week, then I highly recommend dropping the life devouring ballroom dancing class, partner or no partner, and finding a less demanding hobby.

 

[tharglet]

I say if you're not enjoying it, and not going to get anything at the end, then quitting might be a good idea. You could try finding some other social activity that can replace it, and may be less time-consuming so you can look at doing some coding.
If you're looking for a physical activity, there's usually various fitness classes at gyms and things, that are usually not hugely time consuming.

If you want to avoid the gaming rut, you could try scheduling - having set hours for gaming, so you don't end up eating your time entirely with gaming. Once you get into coding, if you go that way, you can set yourself milestones that you have to achieve before gaming, so you ensure things are still moving forwards.

As for dealing with your partner - I'd discuss it with them. As others have said, they'll appreciate some warning you're going to quit most likely, and may find someone before you throw in the towel.