I totally understand that feeling of not only a bit of depression but 'hulk out' anger with this particular sort of subject, I will explain however that I do find myself quite a patient and diplomatic person with most arguments or when people are being asswads, but usually I find that when some man is acting like a pig or just with any sort of sexual harassment towards a woman I honestly don't see any reason to 'talk' to this individual or show them any sort of 'patience' as I try to get them to see a different perspective, no I usually want to hurt them, badly. Now I will admit that I have some 'past issues' on the subject of being physically sexually harassed and treated worse than an animal for being born with ovaries, and nowadays I usually find myself refusing to let things get to those sorts of stages before acting whether it's aimed towards me or a random stranger on the street. (wow this is making me look like a violent *****..)Usually things don't get too physical, most of the time standing up to a man and telling them to back off is enough to surprise them enough to leave their prospective victim alone.
Now this is where it gets to me when this sort of harassment is online, I'm usually at a complete loss at what to do being torn at 'not feeding the animals' and wanting to stand up for other women being harassed, so I usually find myself being quite irate and frustrated even while in the middle of studying, certain comments of the general consensus on certain opinions (usually just knowing that many people on a certain site agree with certain comments) will come to mind and I find myself in a horrible mood for about 1/2 an hour to an hour, mostly because it boggles my mind about how people can be so medieval and knowing most are doing it for attention or are too young/immature to find any other platform of self confidence.(oh deer.. I wasn't meant to make this so long better spoiler it) When it comes to gender wars on this site it usually is quite a bit less uglier than other sites I see online, which is pleasant.
Also I'll add this just because I see this sort of argument thrown up on the table each time by the opposition 'toughen up this is the Internet/game community, don't like it? leave!'
I don't know about any of you guys but I play games to enjoy myself and relax, have a good time y'know? and while I consider myself to be quite thick-skinned (lurking 4chan during it's first 5 years)I don't see how that comes down to me taking harassment, being thick-skinned means nothing when people are basically vomiting down their mics at you the moment you have the gumption to dare use your own during a game, it's still unpleasant, especially when I play to enjoy myself and relax is it really acceptable that each time I want to do this I have to filter through this vomit each and every time?It gets kind of old after awhile, I think that's the reason why quite a few women refuse to divulge their gender or use mics in large multiplayer spaces and probably more have just given up playing online and have just quit thinking 'well this must be the way things work gaming online' thinking that they have no place or it's a horrible environment because some kids think that sending sexually harassing messages or screaming/mic spamming every time the woman goes to talk is smart/witty and something that somehow makes them more of a man or some other unknown retarded social status online because they're displaying behaviours that they know is not acceptable in the real world.
and I will clarify my frustration doesn't come from not being able to beat the snot out of the sexist peoples of the internet, it comes from really having no way to possibly stop them the way I am used to stopping them, not beating on them I mean making them think twice about what they are doing, letting them know that people/bystanders are not just going to ignore this, they will take action against this sort of behaviour.
