Do it. You'll regret not doing it a hell of a lot more.CJackson95 said:I need advice but nothing seems to be working
EDIT: I'm 15.
I'm too scared to ask her out!
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I'm in this same situtation atm. Everyone tells me to just go for it. I'll tell you the same thing.
Just don't do it like most of the kids round here do. e.g. get her pregnant and then ask her what her name is.
Seriously though, just ask her out in a friendly way and if she says yes, great, if not, then fine, no big deal.
It gets easier as you get older and more confident. (Though never turn into a friend of mine who asks EVERY GIRL HE SEES for their number).
Seriously though, just ask her out in a friendly way and if she says yes, great, if not, then fine, no big deal.
It gets easier as you get older and more confident. (Though never turn into a friend of mine who asks EVERY GIRL HE SEES for their number).
Ultimately they're still separate entities who will never have true comprehension or complete uderstanding of each other. Seems like we're always alone to me, having your genitals in someone elses doesn't change that.teutonicman said:
Sorry, I can't keep up the depressive attitude. I just get sick of these threads, there are tons of them, I've got to try something new. The OP is just looking for reassurance, not advice. He knows what he needs to do. Believe me, he'll end up regretting this thread. I did.
First of all, let me put it as plain as simple:
Don't think about it, do it.
I can't stress the importance of not thinking, stutter, look like an idiot, if you're the type to not smooth talk naturally, she'll either find it cute or turn you down, either way if you're not a natural at it, it's going to show after a few days of a relationship and all excessive thinking is going to do is make you look like a coward cause you're taking ages to tell her, even if it's obvious from your behaviour already. She also might hook up with someone else by the time you decide to tell her.
And just to persuade you to the wisdom of my words, here's a very good motto I try to live such moments by:
"10 years from now, you'll regret the things you haven't done, FAR more than the things you have done."
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Also. Learn to deal with rejections. Don't make a big deal about them, if you take forever to tell a girl how you feel about her, you're only going to fuel your affections for her before you tell her and it's only going to make it hurt more if she says no.
If you figure you like someone, come out with it and say it. She says no, you did it early and the shit feeling won't last longer than a day. Move onto another girl until you find someone with mutual feelings and you'll be happier for it in the end
Don't think about it, do it.
I can't stress the importance of not thinking, stutter, look like an idiot, if you're the type to not smooth talk naturally, she'll either find it cute or turn you down, either way if you're not a natural at it, it's going to show after a few days of a relationship and all excessive thinking is going to do is make you look like a coward cause you're taking ages to tell her, even if it's obvious from your behaviour already. She also might hook up with someone else by the time you decide to tell her.
And just to persuade you to the wisdom of my words, here's a very good motto I try to live such moments by:
"10 years from now, you'll regret the things you haven't done, FAR more than the things you have done."
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Also. Learn to deal with rejections. Don't make a big deal about them, if you take forever to tell a girl how you feel about her, you're only going to fuel your affections for her before you tell her and it's only going to make it hurt more if she says no.
If you figure you like someone, come out with it and say it. She says no, you did it early and the shit feeling won't last longer than a day. Move onto another girl until you find someone with mutual feelings and you'll be happier for it in the end
Just do it. Girls don't have a cheat code or a strategy guide. And trust me, we're all JUST as terrified of rejection as boys are.
Man up and ask. No point in waiting so long that someone else does. Is being told no such a big deal?
I've waited too long several times... a mistake I don't plan on repeating. The only time I really hesitate about asking now is if I've known the girl for a long time as a friend. The dreaded friend zone plagues another male in this universe now
I've waited too long several times... a mistake I don't plan on repeating. The only time I really hesitate about asking now is if I've known the girl for a long time as a friend. The dreaded friend zone plagues another male in this universe now
I believe in you random internet person, go out there and do it! I wanted to ask someone out for ages, then finally did. She said no, but knowing the answer is better than living in doubt. Knowing my answer actually kinda sucked aswell, damn friend zone!!!!!
Depending on what you know about this girl, this may or may not work:
Pretend to have confidence, even if you don't have it. Try to lean leisurely against a wall, only to find that the wall ended inches away from your hand, and take a pratfall. Pretend that you meant to do that (which technically, you did), and ask her in a roundabout way if she wants to go for a happy meal or something. Add something totally false, like, "Me and Ronald/Jack/The King, we're like, old buddies from college/used to serve in the same platoon/met each other in Alcoholics Anonymous."
This may or may not work.
Pretend to have confidence, even if you don't have it. Try to lean leisurely against a wall, only to find that the wall ended inches away from your hand, and take a pratfall. Pretend that you meant to do that (which technically, you did), and ask her in a roundabout way if she wants to go for a happy meal or something. Add something totally false, like, "Me and Ronald/Jack/The King, we're like, old buddies from college/used to serve in the same platoon/met each other in Alcoholics Anonymous."
This may or may not work.
You're 15. Any relationship you manage to get yourself into will be doomed from the start (before college if you're lucky). If you accept this fact, it may either
a: relax you enough to ask her out, since the relationship will be temporary anyway, or
b: inspire you to let it go and wait til college.
Whatever you wanna do, man, as long as you realize that permanent love doesn't exist at your age.
a: relax you enough to ask her out, since the relationship will be temporary anyway, or
b: inspire you to let it go and wait til college.
Whatever you wanna do, man, as long as you realize that permanent love doesn't exist at your age.
This is terrible advice!Paksenarrion said:
I'm having a hard time picturing this working. At all. Ever. A) You either have the confidence, or you don't. You can't fake it. Best way to be confident is to not be hung up on what the result of asking might be. No girl you meet is ever the last. If there's rejection, who cares! Accepting that fact and just making a play is the only way to confidence. Which isn't easy, I know. Even knowing that fact makes it hard with someone that transcends a simple "like." B) You can't fake confidence and act like like a slapstick schlep at the same time. A sharp wit (or nothing at all in that dept.) is much better than a cheesy nerdo-tactic or appearing buffoonish. C)Roundabouts never work. Simply saying you'd enjoy it if they joined you for lunch is much better. D) Lying is always bad, unless it's clear you're really are just making up some cheeseball story, 'cuz you're good like that, and can just tell a damn good story. (ed- oh, wait, that one in the quote IS actually clever! nice. Shoulda finished reading the whole thing
I hit "quote" after the "add something totally false" bit. Heh.)---
On to the OP (again):
Now, again, best thing to do-- be ready to accept any answer. That's confidence. Then, just freakin' ask! Or, don't ask, but make it a declaration. "I like you. Let's party!" or whatever.
To repeat a motto used again and again here: Just do it!