In Humble Request for Advice

[Acid Armageddon]

Hokay, so... when I was growing up, my parents were divorced. I would visit my father on weekends. Basically I had a stepmom there, and two of her sons. Basically, time there sucked. Cops there all the time, the one kid was a terrible bully and actually threatened me with knives, etc. It sucked. (This was when I was like 5 or 6, by the way.)I eventually worked up the courage to quit going, because I was sick of the BS. They treated me like crap until I left. Now, she's trying to get back in touch and the two kids want to meet me (supposedly) She somehow even tracked down my facebook page(!) and friend requested me. I have already accepted it, and now she's messaging me about meeting them....

I ask you fellow Escapists....What should I do?

Go and meet them, or just ignore them? Any other options?

Your opinions/advise please!

 

[LilGherkin]

Meet them you might as well, and try being cautious of what happens, and for an extra ounce of prevention bring a small knife.

 

[jobobob]

I would say go there if you still dont like what you see leave.

 

[Bernzz]

I think it may be a good chance to meet up with them again, but a public place would help, especially if that shit of a kid hasn't changed...

Maybe take something for protection...just in case.

EDIT: Or bring a friend or two along, if say you meet them in a cafe or something, have the friend(s) enter at a different time, maybe earlier, and find a seat where they can watch over the meeting. Just in case, y'know...

 

[Acid Armageddon]

I honestly don't know...the one kid I never really knew (he was like 3), but the mean one...he sprayed windex in my eyes, pushed me out of the top of the bunk bed, threatened me with kitchen knives, etc. So it's kinda just like...You were out of my life and I was happy...Why do you want back in?

 

[Harold Donchee]

ignore them. are they really the kind of people you want to see again? people change but not enough to overcome those kind of character traits

 

[Hazy]

Meet them face to face, and tell them how you feel.
If she's really being serious, then she will respect you for it.
Just be polite, and most importantly, be the bigger person.

 

[XxNoMercyxX]

Well, are they not even your real brothers? Because if they aren't, fuck them. They treated you like crap, and don't need to see you ever again.

 

[The Great Fa]

Yeah, totally do it. Meet them that is, not blow them off. If these people have changed then I think you and them will gain a lot by seeing each other. If they haven't, then I guess that's their loss.

 

[King_Paco]

give em a last chance

 

[MiracleOfSound]

She must admit responsibility for her wrongdoings and make moves to rectify it with you in order to deserve a second chance.

 

[pantsoffdanceoff]

This is the internet, you have zero accountability. Ignore her, or tell her that you have no interest due to her shit poor parenting, what is she going to do? Send you angry face book messages, if I got nervous over every flaming face book message... I'd have PTS worse than anyone outta Vietnam.

 

[King_Paco]

Fuck her. People don't change.

we do change, when our existence is challenged.

 

[VoidProphet]

1. Tell her no
2. Block her
3. Get wasted
4. ???? ???? ??? ???????
5. Hide the body.

 

[jwabsolution]

i agree with PODO. None of us were there to experience what you went through, if there really is nothing good you can remember of them, forget them and move on. God will recognize his own.
-Dubs

 

[Arcadia2000]

I'm inclined to be suspicious. If they want back in your life "all of a sudden," is there something they want? What's in it for them? If she feels like a bad stepmom and wants to make things right, as in she's under some guilt and needs to make herself feel better, then she's in it for herself, not just you. Mind you, I did some really awful stuff to my little siblings (not like they were 100% innocent either), and we all love each other and get along now. Kids I can see changing, adults less so. Maybe they're under pressure from mommy to be one big happy family. But then again, this could be the real deal. Basically:

Meet them face to face, and tell them how you feel.
If she's really being serious, then she will respect you for it.
Just be polite, and most importantly, be the bigger person.

this, and

She must admit responsibility for her wrongdoings and make moves to rectify it with you in order to deserve a second chance.

this.

 

[jwabsolution]

Fuck her. People don't change.

we do change, when our existence is challenged.

lol "day the earth stood still"
classic

 

[NewClassic_v1legacy]

You agreed already. Swallow your pride, and live up to your word. If you're particularly nervous about the entire experience, go to a traffic-heavy area like City Halls or Courts. Malls are also functional as they have stores, people, and security everywhere.

Before you commit to a time, date, figure out your location and be aware of travel alternatives. Check for nearby subways, bus routes, parking, and taxi hubs. Once you have all routes known, you're set to get out if things go pear-shaped.

Make sure to keep everything public, in daylight, and plain sight. If you're still suspicious, make sure you arrive very early, and bring a face concealer like a newspaper or book. Sit someplace that's difficult to see, but you have a line of sight with the entrance to the meeting place. (For example, ask to meet at a cafe or diner, and sit at the store or coffee shop across the street and watch the front door.) Once you're prepared and you're feeling reasonably non-threatened, go through with your meeting.

If possible, pick the chair or meeting area closest to the closest available exit. Go just about everything as best you can. If you feel the meeting has gone wrong, politely excuse yourself. If that doesn't take, leg it. You have all of the knowledge and planning.

Of course, make sure you have plenty of spare money on subway cards, pocket change for cabs, enough for bus tickets, enough gas for a good distance, and your cell phone on you if it goes all to hell.

That's how I'd do it, if it were me.

 

[Acid Armageddon]

Thanks for the advice guys! God I love this forum!

 

[HentMas]

you have to think "am i going because i want to, or because they asked me to??"

you really want to see your father again in regular basis??

or you dont really care and just thought about it because she asked??