My problem isnt the wig. So long at the wig is combed and doesnt look like shit then i dont care. But i dont want an employee looking like shit when they meet with customers. The business world has standards of professionalism and youd be surprised how quickly you can lose a customer with just a bad first impression.
The same argument could literally be used to justify any form of bigotry. All you have to do is make an assumption about who your "customer" is and what kind of person is able to relate to them, and then only hire that person. Don't want to hire black people? Well, that's okay. You've looked into it and found that your customers feel more comfortable talking to a white person. You're not being
racist, you're just following the trends. You have no responsibility for where those trends lead you, you don't need to ask
why your customers prefer what they prefer. You just follow the trends.
There are very few groups in society who have their appearance relentlessly examined, picked apart and judged more heavily than trans women and femmes. Cis people can walk out the house every day looking like absolute garbage and noone bats an eyelid, but trans people (and especially trans women) are somehow expected to be unclockable 24/7 in order to avoid triggering the weird cultural baggage cis people have about AMAB people dressing as women.
I say this because that wig is fine. You insist that it's uncombed, but it clearly isn't. What you're picking up on is that it's not unclockable. It's not perfect. But we're talking about someone who has been living in role for a few months. Learning how to not "look like shit" takes a long time for a cis woman. For a trans person, especially one who started out from a difficult place of not being short and not being skinny and not having a delicate bone structure, and not having their natural hair and not being incredibly wealthy it's even harder, and thus they're not always going to meet your personal standards. If you can't understand that, if you can't overlook it like you could any other person who doesn't look completely perfect every single second of every day, then you're not "professional", you're just transphobic, and so are your fucking customers.
You can blame the cishet for making everything miserable if you want, but no business hires anyone for their individual uniqueness. They want a person to come in, do the job, and not make waves or cause internal problems.
Right, but I need you to understand that
you are the problem here. You are the one whining and speculating about whether other people can meet your silly little standard of "professionalism". You are the one expecting the world, and the workplace, and every single tiny insignificant little thing in it to revolve around you and people like you to the literal exclusion of anyone else. Any internal problems that would arise because you can't tolerate trans or GNC people existing in your workplace without endlessly shitting your pants about whether they're adopting the particular aesthetics that you've foolishly misconstrued as signifying the ability to work are down to you. You are the cause of that problem, and blaming someone else for your problems is really not a good look.
Also when it comes down to it, those businesses still want to be able to profit from pride. They still want to profit off queer aesthetics because it's "cool" and "on trend". They still want our insight and our creativity and our talent and our money when it benefits them, they just don't want to have to give anything in return. When you try to say that individuality has no value and that companies don't want it, what you mean is that your individuality has no value because you've done nothing of value with it.
