Interesting

[Booze Zombie]

To set the basic scene, I've been suffering from stress and social anxiety (do they really like me, OH NO) etc, I'd talked to some friends about it and one of them took it as me backchatting all of his friends as opposed to looking for answers as I intended, so I pissed him off and I pissed off a female friend by getting involved in some personal shit and then my other friend got pissed off because I pissed off his friends.

So, I'd pissed off a tightly-knit group of friends and... whilst regretable (they were good friends) I honestly couldn't bring myself to feel any emotion about it all, not sad, angry, happy or anything. This surprised me as I had been quite emotional about very unimportant stuff and now, well, yeah.

I suppose what was even more surprising to me was I couldn't even bring myself to hate or be angry despite some pretty direct insults coming my way and this is a complete reversal of how I was a few days ago.

So, guys, is having your emotions lock down normal? Have you experienced something like this? If so, did you like not being emotional?

Thanks for reading.

 

[Lucyfer86]

Sounds like me. It might something to do with depression.
I liked it at the moment that i didin't have any emotions for pissing off my friends, afterwards i regret it much since it's been years and i've lost many of those friends permanently.

I still don't, only people i do have any strong emotions are my family. I seem to care more about unimportant (or selfish) things than so-called-friends.

Maybe talk psychiatrist about it? It may be nothing, someting that passes soon, or it may be something more...deep.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Maybe talk psychiatrist about it? It may be nothing, someting that passes soon, or it may be something more...deep.

I was considering that, I'll give it a go, thanks.

 

[Griffolion]

To set the basic scene, I've been suffering from stress and social anxiety (do they really like me, OH NO) etc, I'd talked to some friends about it and one of them took it as me backchatting all of his friends as opposed to looking for answers as I intended, so I pissed him off and I pissed off a female friend by getting involved in some personal shit and then my other friend got pissed off because I pissed off his friends.

So, I'd pissed off a tightly-knit group of friends and... whilst regretable (they were good friends) I honestly couldn't bring myself to feel any emotion about it all, not sad, angry, happy or anything. This surprised me as I had been quite emotional about very unimportant stuff and now, well, yeah.

I suppose what was even more surprising to me was I couldn't even bring myself to hate or be angry despite some pretty direct insults coming my way and this is a complete reversal of how I was a few days ago.

So, guys, is having your emotions lock down normal? Have you experienced something like this? If so, did you like not being emotional?

Thanks for reading.

Lack of emotional response can come about from depression. I suggest going to your doctor about it, I'm the same as you and I have moderate depression. Not being as emotional can have it's ups, like being able to react calmly to an otherwise bad situation, but other times it can hugely affect the way in which you connect with people, which I place more value on. The fact you're aware of it means you're okay, but get it sorted.

 

[Astoria]

I get like that every now and then. It's like I can only handle so much emotion and when I reach my limit I just shut down for a little while. If it keeps up get help but just see if you come out of it on your own. It could be good for you, it usually is for me.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Lack of emotional response can come about from depression. I suggest going to your doctor about it, I'm the same as you and I have moderate depression. Not being as emotional can have it's ups, like being able to react calmly to an otherwise bad situation, but other times it can hugely affect the way in which you connect with people, which I place more value on. The fact you're aware of it means you're okay, but get it sorted.

If I have depression, it'll most certainly be compounded by Asperpger's Syndrome. I'm thinking I'll need to make sure I'm seeing a doctor trained to deal with people with the syndrome or I may get misdiagnosed.

You're right, though. I'll try to see someone, thank you for your input.

I get like that every now and then. It's like I can only handle so much emotion and when I reach my limit I just shut down for a little while. If it keeps up get help but just see if you come out of it on your own. It could be good for you, it usually is for me.

I'll give it a week, I think. If I don't change, I think it may be an issue. Many thanks.

 

[Griffolion]

If I have depression, it'll most certainly be compounded by Asperpger's Syndrome. I'm thinking I'll need to make sure I'm seeing a doctor trained to deal with people with the syndrome or I may get misdiagnosed.

You're right, though. I'll try to see someone, thank you for your input.

Are you clinically diagnosed with Aspergers or do you think you have it? And yes, depression is quote a common co-morbid condition with Aspergers.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Are you clinically diagnosed with Aspergers or do you think you have it? And yes, depression is quote a common co-morbid condition with Aspergers.

Oh, clinically. I got out of my self-diagnosing stage a long time ago, aside from thinking I may have depression... it seemed kinda obvious after a while.

ye that's basically depression

which is why people who know what it is get annoyed when others think its just "being down"
get the help dude it not a state you wanna be in for any length of time.
it plays merry hell with your psyche when you can't feel anything...

It seems like a pretty decent upgrade from being overly emotional, if I might be frank about my situation. But I suppose it's better to resolve your issues than sit there surpressing them.

 

[Booze Zombie]

get help mate.

Fair enough, man. Thought I got that phase out when I was ten, though. But I'll try.

 

[goldendriger]

You're a male i assume? then you can only express 2 emotions- Happiness (Only when drunk) and sadness (Only when a game is lost...shit lost the game =/)
But seriously sometimes you feel nothing when you should feel something, its weird but it happens =)

 

[Your once and future Fanboy]

yes, it seems like depression, a friend of mine have had the same problem. He also had issues with the lack of emotion when his parents split up after many, many years together. And I do recomend seeing a shrink. It have helped me alot, and anyone who give you shit for it can go to hell.

 

[Booze Zombie]

You're a male i assume? then you can only express 2 emotions- Happiness (Only when drunk) and sadness (Only when a game is lost...shit lost the game =/)
But seriously sometimes you feel nothing when you should feel something, its weird but it happens =)

I am a male but I'm normally quite emotive, that said when I try to recall what on Earth my emotions were they don't exist.

yes, it seems like depression, a friend of mine have had the same problem. He also had issues with the lack of emotion when his parents split up after many, many years together. And I do recomend seeing a shrink. It have helped me alot, and anyone who give you shit for it can go to hell.

It's funny, you know... a friend pretty much said they can go to Hell if they don't come around, but he also said in no uncertain terms that I shouldn't take everything to heart and I wasn't acting like myself. So, a shrink is sounding like the answer right now.

 

[Olrod]

Maybe you just realised that you don't actually like or even care about these people, and that they're only actually your "friends" out of habit, simply because you've gotten used to hanging around with them.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Maybe you just realised that you don't actually like or even care about these people, and that they're only actually your "friends" out of habit, simply because you've gotten used to hanging around with them.

I would be lying if I said that incredibly cold thought had not crossed my mind, as I think on a fundlemental level I don't really understand friendship.

 

[Smooth Operator]

The problem could lie in "good friends"... you sure?
Everybody near you is usually assumed as one type of friend or another but who you really care about is always questionable, I can easily say that 95% of my so called friends could disapear tomorrow and I wouldn't give a damn.

But if they were actually more then proximity friends you may want visit a shrink and talk about it.

 

[Booze Zombie]

The problem could lie in "good friends"... you sure?
Everybody near you is usually assumed as one type of friend or another but who you really care about is always questionable, I can easily say that 95% of my so called friends could disapear tomorrow and I wouldn't give a damn.

But if they were actually more then proximity friends you may want visit a shrink and talk about it.

Well, I'm just not used to having friends in general... so, I suppose I actually classified 25% of my friends as good friends despite the fact that only 10% of them would probably consider me as such.

I think I've been quite honestly naive about it all, I never wore "a mask" or pretended to be someone else, so I got this idea that they simply liked me for who I am.

 

[Smooth Operator]

I think I've been quite honestly naive about it all, I never wore "a mask" or pretended to be someone else, so I got this idea that they simply liked me for who I am.

Ya you were naive, because people are not telepathic
They can't know anything about you outside the scope of what they have seen, and I assume you are the held back silent type in which case that scope is really small.
Your actions are obvious only to yourself, to others they may seem wacko as they created a completely different picture of you.

...where was I going with this
Ah, true friend are those who saw the full spectrum and still stick around, but more importantly those that you want to keep around.

 

[Booze Zombie]

Ya you were naive, because people are not telepathic
They can't know anything about you outside the scope of what they have seen, and I assume you are the held back silent type in which case that scope is really small.
Your actions are obvious only to yourself, to others they may seem wacko as they created a completely different picture of you.

...where was I going with this
Ah, true friend are those who saw the full spectrum and still stick around, but more importantly those that you want to keep around.

When I did talk, it was about games or something that I hoped would entertain the other. I often times wondered if I had a personality. I was very focused on trying to not be boring or embarrassing myself.

So, I guess they got the impression I was someone eager to please and not really down at all.