Internationally brokered marriages

[Leon Last Lord Shyle]

I recently rewatched a documentary on this kind of thing (the difference being men where flown to Thailand and met the women there rather than having them "mailed" over)

Fair to say it did seem quite suspect a fair few of the men admitting that they prefered it because the Thai women where far more "biddable" than typical western women, obviously meaning that they did not like the idea of a wife that was independent and strong, also all the guys where kinda creepy.

The marriage's seemed to happen fast (a few days in some cases) and ended just a little bit slower for the most part and while a few may have found happiness I think for the most part it is the realm of the desperate, lonely and often misguided and the women are looking for an attempt to enter developed countries easily.

I see.
Just wondering, what was this documentary called?

It was Louis Theroux on thai brides (fucking love Louis)

 

[chowderface]

Basically the idea that two people need to assert their love for each other through what is usually an elaborate & expensive ceremony, and receive tax breaks for it, has never made sense to me.

Marriage itself isn't a ceremony; you just pay a fee, get a license, and you're on your way. A wedding ceremony, while typically expensive and overblown, is symbolic and, this is important, optional, and not marriage in and of itself. The idea that you're not "really" married unless you've had a ceremony is mostly just a tradition in Western society (although it is true that in the past the various ceremonies WERE an actual, necessary part of marriage depending on your culture). Marriage in and of itself is an institution of commitment; that is, it's an official statement of your intent to stand by this person for (hopefully) the rest of your life. The tax breaks are basically equivalent to dog biscuits for living up to this commitment.

My main problem, however, is that marriage just consumes me with a deep and bitter envy. I am not romantically successful. I have never had any sort of romantic interaction whatsoever. Women quite simply do not find me attractive. No woman will ever love me. This is embittering in its own right. The idea of marriage makes it worse, as it represents a trust between two people of a magnitude that I will never be able to feel for a woman. Whether this trust is warranted or not (and most often, it isn't) is irrelevant. It's the fact that these ceremonies rub into my face something that I will never be able to attain, to my deep sadness. If I were ever to engage in a romantic relationship, something which is looking ever less likely by the day, I would be constantly looking over my shoulder, expecting the day when the woman reveals that she's been playing me for a cuckold. That two people could trust each other enough to engage in a legally binding ceremony that in effect shouts out that trust seals my hatred of marriage.

Two points: First, I am not an expert on women but one thing I do know for certain is that if you really think no woman will want anything to do with you, then you are absolutely correct, they will not want anything to do with you for as long as you think so. You start thinking like that it's as bad as being a mentally retarded Quasimodo.

Second, if you're "constantly looking over your shoulder, expecting the day when the woman reveals that she's been playing you for a cuckold," that's even more poisonous to a relationship than self-loathing. If you can't even make the effort to try and trust a girl then not only is that incredibly self-centered but frankly you don't really have any place associating with the opposite sex on any level, let alone anything resembling intimacy.

I guess the point I'm trying to make here is you're making yourself out to be a pretty fucked up little guy here, and you're kind of the source of your own problems on the women front.

 

[squeekenator]

My main problem, however, is that marriage just consumes me with a deep and bitter envy. I am not romantically successful. I have never had any sort of romantic interaction whatsoever. Women quite simply do not find me attractive. No woman will ever love me. This is embittering in its own right. The idea of marriage makes it worse, as it represents a trust between two people of a magnitude that I will never be able to feel for a woman. Whether this trust is warranted or not (and most often, it isn't) is irrelevant. It's the fact that these ceremonies rub into my face something that I will never be able to attain, to my deep sadness. If I were ever to engage in a romantic relationship, something which is looking ever less likely by the day, I would be constantly looking over my shoulder, expecting the day when the woman reveals that she's been playing me for a cuckold. That two people could trust each other enough to engage in a legally binding ceremony that in effect shouts out that trust seals my hatred of marriage.

Awwwww, it's okay RAK. I personally look forward to every thread even vaguely related to relationships, because reading your endlessly recycled post always brightens up my day. Keep up the good work!

 

[chowderface]

Awwwww, it's okay RAK. I personally look forward to every thread even vaguely related to relationships, because reading your endlessly recycled post always brightens up my day. Keep up the good work!

He's said this before, you say. Fascinating.